As I said before, I feel for you. You have had many replies all with different ideas, some good and some not so good. The video sending is a good idea, but if your grandparents have met your older sister, they know of her/your excistence, I dont know if it would be received with the intentions that you sent it. Now that you have realized or rather said heard the tip of the iceberg, I recommend you take your time and learn the whole story. This will come little by little. Dont be impatient. You are still young and will have lots of time to do what you need to do, but wiat until you know the full story.Aisha-Taweela