And I know EXACTLY what you mean. The world needs to stop obsessing over how women look...period! Hardly ever do you have people discussing a man's weight gain /weight loss etc as much they do about us women. And the worst part is many times it's our own womankind who are the culprits at making a woman feel bad about how she looks.
I know certain gals who would never compliment anyone to save their hide, but should someone have gained some weight or they are not having a good hair days, these ladies will be tripping over themselves to let em know that. Cruel to say the least.
How can hurting a person ever be ok? Even if you wanna "do it for their own good" (oh yeah don't they all) there is still a polite way to ask someone something. Diplomacy is really not a hard habit to aquire..try it!
Personally I get disturbed a lot about the fact that I have one child. Even fron strangers.People can truly be so Untactful and hurtful They assume the craziest stuff and ask the most personal of questions.. So annoying really! Like what else does the words "God gives to who he wills" which is my reply, mean that they still need to emphasize to me the importance of having children, that my daughter needs sibblings, etc. sheesh
Bottom line the world is made up of all sorts. Just cos someone dosen't fit our bill of who an ideal woman should be and what should she wear, and how much she should weigh, blah blah, dosen't mean she's any less a woman. And she dosen't need your "help" at getting there either.. Accept her for who she is and move on. And if you can't deal with the accepting bit then just do the moving on!
Yes it is vey important we instill in our kids traits like humbleness, tolerance, tact, kindness etc. what works best is cut it off at the root. The first day your kid comes home and tells you so and so is so fat, skinny, has protruding teeth, speaks funny etc...you tell him/her to stop right there. In my case, as a Muslim, I straight off tell her to stop backbiting and remind her of what God says about those who back bite, slander and gossip about others. I relate to her the relevant texts and stories and bingo.This works well and then some!
Kids need to know this kind of behavior is vile and unacceptable regardless of who does it!
And I know EXACTLY what you mean. The world needs to stop obsessing over how women look...period! Hardly ever do you have people discussing a man's weight gain /weight loss etc as much they do about us women. And the worst part is many times it's our own womankind who are the culprits at making a woman feel bad about how she looks.
I know certain gals who would never compliment anyone to save their hide, but should someone have gained some weight or they are not having a good hair days, these ladies will be tripping over themselves to let em know that. Cruel to say the least.
How can hurting a person ever be ok? Even if you wanna "do it for their own good" (oh yeah don't they all) there is still a polite way to ask someone something. Diplomacy is really not a hard habit to aquire..try it!
Personally I get disturbed a lot about the fact that I have one child. Even fron strangers.People can truly be so Untactful and hurtful They assume the craziest stuff and ask the most personal of questions.. So annoying really! Like what else does the words "God gives to who he wills" which is my reply, mean that they still need to emphasize to me the importance of having children, that my daughter needs sibblings, etc. sheesh
Bottom line the world is made up of all sorts. Just cos someone dosen't fit our bill of who an ideal woman should be and what should she wear, and how much she should weigh, blah blah, dosen't mean she's any less a woman. And she dosen't need your "help" at getting there either.. Accept her for who she is and move on. And if you can't deal with the accepting bit then just do the moving on!
Yes it is vey important we instill in our kids traits like humbleness, tolerance, tact, kindness etc. what works best is cut it off at the root. The first day your kid comes home and tells you so and so is so fat, skinny, has protruding teeth, speaks funny etc...you tell him/her to stop right there. In my case, as a Muslim, I straight off tell her to stop backbiting and remind her of what God says about those who back bite, slander and gossip about others. I relate to her the relevant texts and stories and bingo.This works well and then some!
Kids need to know this kind of behavior is vile and unacceptable regardless of who does it!