who doesn't feel a victim every now and then...
I understand your situation, I truly do. What I do in such circumstances, when faced with particularly nasty individuals who seem to be making it clear that they want to be as hurtful as possible, is I first try to see if I warrant their mistreatment. Had I unknowingly even caused them any harm and/or vexed them in any way. If I can't for the life of me recall anything, then I try to remember all those times I may have, meaningfully or unmeaningfully offended others. How it felt to be the perpetrator. Once I go down that road my feelings of self sympathy often subside.I then ask of God to forgive and guide us all and to give me what it takes to be a better person.
After that I will make it my business to be extra courteous to the offenders. And everything feels back to normalcy again..for the most part!
It always helps to remember that the world, and even our own being, is made up of all sorts of characters. Good, bad, evil, noble...no one of us are infallible. We all have our positives and negatives. Just gotta live with em!