jjj75...it is a very simple situation in fact which you have made very complicated to your own discomfort.

What is the point in beating drums of universal morality and social norm if that doesn't help you. Agree people should behave as you said, but what if they don't behave. End of the day who suffered? It is you. I would say nothing wrong in making people understand if they dont understand so far it helps me get what I want. Adapt to the situation at hand and act accordingly is what makes the difference in one complaining and one who walks away with a smile irrespective of the circumstances.