I have got the thing completely open now, I just went into the router's config screen and turned the firewall off, I don't need it anyways as I have and Anti Virus Firewall AND Windows Firewall and nothing private is kept on my home laptops. Happy days!

...but for some reason I STILL can't connect to my mate over in ZIG ZAG (I can wave to him from my apartment but not play him on XBOX, how silly is that!?)