if you don't support our values (unless your wife doesn't believe also to our values?

Anyway, if you don't, then there is really no need for you to join the group. In the first place, it's not meant for you!

Even me who is a strong supporter of our values is not acceptable to them. And that's what make me curious, what values are we talking about? Unity? Respect to others (even they differ in opinions?). Well, your guess is as good as mine! Lol!