i can feel your pain while reading this,, and the pain of your friend too, plus the pain of those married traditionally. Yeah its too bad you can't be friend before you get married. it's the same situation for us, we can't be friends with arabs or else police might think about different things.. well as they say, you cant have the best of both world's you may enjoy the wealth of your country, but not the freedom to do whatever you may want to.