moonblues i think you need to tell the man to back off not me. because i have been trying my best to do the right thing. you think i was the one you came to him and insist upon myself? the answer is hell no. he was the one who convinced me until i gave in and so does my brains to go with it. i never take him away from his family in fact when we started as friends before i was the one who encouraged him to try and work things out because marriage is a commitment. but lady in question doesnt care about his husband and only started caring when there was some competition. now whatever the reasons may be its still wrong but the only wrong i did was to love the wrong man.