I've always dressed tomboyish, it was hard for me to dress professional for work and I never touched make up or started wearing it regularly till I was 26 almost 27. I'm not soft (well maybe a bit round the tummy at the moment but the working out should take care of that :P) and most certainly not shy, nor would I ever want to be or want my daughters to be.

Tooba just because I don't want to attract attention does not mean I'm willing to forfeit my identity and my respect for myself by hiding my face like a little baby who's scared of the big bad world.

"We submit to the majority because we have to. But we are not compelled to call our attitude of subjection a posture of respect." Ambrose Bierce