QATARIANA1 said Hi Jaryz ...
I don't think so. My husband is not a womanizer . You will not believe but as far as I know he never had any woman other than me. Coming from a conservative family I was his first girlfriend. I don't think he'll have time to womanize as he is an extremely busy person. Working from 7:30-5 in the office, managing our business, teaching in the graduate school, caring for our children bringing them to school, kumon, piano lessons at the same time supervising our house construction.My problem is not about his fidelity, but his indiferrence. I was envious of how does all things excellently but when it comes to me he is so stingy."
- Ok. Now wait a minute... If he's not a womanizer, he does all that you mentioned - he works - outside the home and in the home as well, cares for the children, etc. Hey. give him a break, girl! Are you crazy??? In fact, what's clear is that YOU are not emotionally (and physically) attentive to his needs. Hey, it takes 2 to tango in the dance of life.
Suggestion - you take the load off him AND THEN he'll have some time and energy left to be emotionally receptive to you.
QATARIANA1 said Alexa ..My children ...
are all that matters now. Though they are small 9 and 7 I teach them to be extra loving and caring."
- You know what you sound like? A taker, who has been thwarted and now making yourself out to a matyr, which you are definitely not. What was that about the circle of delusion ngourlay posted in another thread?
"My husband and I live apart he is back home while I am here. But we make it a point to be as normal as any couple when we are together esp. when my angels are around and I hope our problem gets solved before they grow old enough to notice it. No use talking to him now as I have brought up everything to him early on countless times. He's asking for some time and I hope he realizes it soon while I still have ,my sanity. "
- OMG! Your husband is to be pitied. Truly. To have to honour his commitment and put up with the likes of you. He's asking for time to change his own mindset and shift his own goal posts, for the sake of the children and his own sanity. Even if you can't see it, everybody looking in at your thread can see it. He does so much for you and the family. He just keeps quiet? He hopes that you will see reason.
Of course, you can also use the same argument I stated in that circle of delusion thingy against me. Which is fine. Whatever works best for you and your own situation. Only you and your husband know best. Yu two are DEFINITELY NOT communicating properly. One or both of you are NOT LISTENING.
/Oops. Gotta rush. Ttfn.
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Don't want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
QATARIANA1 said Hi Jaryz ...
I don't think so. My husband is not a womanizer . You will not believe but as far as I know he never had any woman other than me. Coming from a conservative family I was his first girlfriend. I don't think he'll have time to womanize as he is an extremely busy person. Working from 7:30-5 in the office, managing our business, teaching in the graduate school, caring for our children bringing them to school, kumon, piano lessons at the same time supervising our house construction.My problem is not about his fidelity, but his indiferrence. I was envious of how does all things excellently but when it comes to me he is so stingy."
- Ok. Now wait a minute... If he's not a womanizer, he does all that you mentioned - he works - outside the home and in the home as well, cares for the children, etc. Hey. give him a break, girl! Are you crazy??? In fact, what's clear is that YOU are not emotionally (and physically) attentive to his needs. Hey, it takes 2 to tango in the dance of life.
Suggestion - you take the load off him AND THEN he'll have some time and energy left to be emotionally receptive to you.
QATARIANA1 said Alexa ..My children ...
are all that matters now. Though they are small 9 and 7 I teach them to be extra loving and caring."
- You know what you sound like? A taker, who has been thwarted and now making yourself out to a matyr, which you are definitely not. What was that about the circle of delusion ngourlay posted in another thread?
"My husband and I live apart he is back home while I am here. But we make it a point to be as normal as any couple when we are together esp. when my angels are around and I hope our problem gets solved before they grow old enough to notice it. No use talking to him now as I have brought up everything to him early on countless times. He's asking for some time and I hope he realizes it soon while I still have ,my sanity. "
- OMG! Your husband is to be pitied. Truly. To have to honour his commitment and put up with the likes of you. He's asking for time to change his own mindset and shift his own goal posts, for the sake of the children and his own sanity. Even if you can't see it, everybody looking in at your thread can see it. He does so much for you and the family. He just keeps quiet? He hopes that you will see reason.
Of course, you can also use the same argument I stated in that circle of delusion thingy against me. Which is fine. Whatever works best for you and your own situation. Only you and your husband know best. Yu two are DEFINITELY NOT communicating properly. One or both of you are NOT LISTENING.
/Oops. Gotta rush. Ttfn.
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Don't want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama