"When you love somebody show it"

maybe she loves only your money. I don't think we can call it love.But you are right IT doesn't need to be shown only....must be felt as well.And I believe "love begets love."

I know it's not working but I'm trying to be patient for my kids sake. He promised me to amend his ways...only he needs time...I don't know how long it takes all I know is despite unhappy and bitter I'm still here waiting...

..."God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can't change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference."

Hells crips in when comes the time when your girlfriend is much more beautiful than you wife, caring, loving with all the qualities that you desired. Its like bitter when swallow, too good to be thrown away. Shall love be divided into two parts this way.

what if she just said she loves you because she needs something from you? can you still call it love? i dont think so? and you dont need to only show it,let him/her feel it. love is no boundaries.

You've obviously eighed up the options, so deserve all you get out of this relationship..

I showed it

I show it

I am showing it

But not geting positive response

What should I do??

Your idea is not working for me.

That's a choice I'd rather not do...'coz that's not really love at all.

Love its a pain, love is game for ppls, love kind a butterfly better to do not love any one. if u love some1 dont keep on your heart which is very painful when u try to forget them !!!! keep mind free & be happy always :)

but we need support system...cause no man is an island...A third one is a dream but not now probably when I come back for good...sure he has a lot on his mind...mostly career, work, business,school, etc. I know he is doing everything for the family.But that doesn't give him the right to treat me like a puppet.Marriage is a two-way street and communication is essential which unfortunately for him has taken a back seat. I'm too tired of reaching out to him...our children are all that matters now. :(

qatarina just forget him and come to me heheheh

I have become stoic when I saw that nothing can be done. After a while I realized that resignation is my last option If I wanted to keep my family together. This post is just to better understand things as till now so many questions are still hanging in my mind...or perhaps just to ease the burden or maybe keep myself busy so as not to wait only to get frustrated...or maybe as a diversion.I'm trying to help myself otherwise I'd be on my lowest emotional level again.

Thanks for your comments.It's very enlightening. Please keep up the good work....I don't mind If you had to use a sword...:(

Nice felling abt love :)

Not bad ::))

QATARIANA1 No need to say sorry...Just can't help how my system made me now....too sensitive...perhaps its the damn consequence of how I'd been treated...I had to have some defense that's why I abhor every single sign of rejection, disapproval,dislike and condemnation now."

- Yes, true.

Maybe some day when you are ready, you will recall what I said - because I speak from the perspective of a child with a mother like you.

She remains the only person I love more than anyone in the world and I fight to defend her against any other person, including relatives who seek to take advantage of her, etc.etc. But I see her "delusion" clearly - because I listen to other PoVs and decide for myself whether or not they apply to my own situation.

It hurts me to see her hurt, even though she has been stoic throughout my growing up years, not showing her feelings but all I'm saying is that kids pick up even non-verbal clues, esp. the ones very close to you.

Re: the raw time you're at now - totally understandable. But some day, I hope you move on from here. My Mother did to a large extent but it surfaces on and off, even now. (Hence the fact that I'm sitting several thousand miles away and not missing home. Not good, is it?). And the people who know me, know that money and position don't mean much to me so the real reason I'm here is deeply psychological.

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I would recommend to have another kid, the third one.

In some age men re-evaluate their lifes, too .. I am sure, your husband's brain this time is full of thoughts you could not imagine, too .. show him the right way then .. the way toward you ..

I'll do that...and after liberation...hope to find him there....still...in new packaging...:(

Qatarina.. hold on till your kids reach the appropriate age to understand everything what is going on. and when that time comes, set urself free.

No need to say sorry...Just can't help how my system made me now....too sensitive...perhaps its the damn consequence of how I'd been treated...I had to have some defense that's why I abhor every single sign of rejection, disapproval,dislike and condemnation now.

But you are right "sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind" and indeed compassion has a lot of faces.:(

Cheers!!!

You are not his kind...an angel yet a sadist. My apology for being suspicious.

Thanks for your cruelty at least now we are on the same page :(

How? They don't know I'm in pain and don't worry I'm not gonna tell them...I'm gonna pull every ditch of effort to hide the truth...I'm gonna put a great facade complete with make up...I'm gonna be a clown for them forever......................

Isn't it rich?

Are we a pair?

Me here, at last, on the ground

You in mid-air

Send in the clowns

isn't it bliss?

Don't you approve?

One who keeps tearing around

One who can't move

Where are the clowns?

Send in the clowns

just when I'd stopped opening doors

Finally knowing the one that I wanted was yours

Making my entrance again with my usual flair

Sure of my lines

No one is there

Don't you love a farce?

My fault, I fear

I thought that you'd want what I want

Sorry, my dear

But where are the clowns?

There ought to be clowns

Quick, send in the clowns

what a surprise!

Who could foresee?

I'd come to feel about you

What you felt about me

Why only now, when I see

That you've drifted away?

What a surprise...

What a cliché...

isn't it rich?

Isn't it queer?

Losing my timing this late in my career

And where are the clowns?

Quick, send in the clowns

don't bother

They're here

We all have our own share of miseries....but actually in your case you can call it a blessing...and you should not fail to count that...not everyone is mucho dinero :(

We all have our own share of miseries....but in your case it's a blessing in disguise, just learn to count your blessings...not everyone is mucho dinero:(

Problems with QL site... hope this gets posted...

Q1, I'm sorry to have hurt your feelings but I meant to caution you as it could affect your kids - emotional scars run deep. I said "could", not that it would.

I hope you sort out your issues some day. Hang in there.

Q1, It emotionally harms your children as well. How do I know? Through personal experience.

Mothers are always tough, you have to be but do have an awareness of the possible future consequences.

Q1, No, why would I be happy when someone is in pain? You consider it cruel? But sometimes, you have to be "cruel" to be kind.

All the best in working out your issues.

Its a cruel world.. I keep wanting to "express" my love to her, but my Tiger Lily just wants Cash :(

I'm complaining!!!! Can't see nor even feel it. Otherwise this thread would not have come into sight.

Love is like a Air, which cannot be seen but you can feel it..

I'm not soliciting even a single pity here...I had more than enough!You are entitled to your own opinion but don't make me look like I am the villain here.Did you reach your verdict because my husband was doing this and that? What would you say If I"d say I did the same thing?Or maybe more than what he did considering that I am a woman??? And I did everything without being loved??? During his 4 years tour of duty I never did anything but wait...wait for nothing...not a single phone call on our free military line...sometimes a text message would come in a span of a month.Where do you think did I get my energy??? He's busy..just too busy for work and further studies. I'm not a mechanical device but for simile's sake you can compare me to such. But even a machine needs a power/fuel to function.What then a woman takes to do everything within her power to make ends meet? I am not complaining but during those times I realized that I have the whole world on top of my head but I have no one to tell me ..."hey crazy lady you are doing great"..."just carry on everything is worthwhile"...Yes perhaps you would say I have my children as my inspiration..yes they are...I get appreciated by them...by everyone but I don't get it from the very person I expected to get it from....MY HUSBAND ..whom I chose to love and pledge to love all the days of my life...

Thanks for your condemnation... It would somehow fuel the feeling I had been feeling all my life...unimportant,unloved,forlorn, deserted, taken for granted,rejected.Are you happy now?????

Ahh...ouch...why has the world gone so cruel??????

We'll it really all depends to my husband now. I will cling to him for as long as he remains steadfast to preserve the family.As what I've mentioned early on he starved me to death of his love and affection.....you can perceive that literally..I came to a point when I already wanted to cease to exist ...many times comtemplated suicide but the thought of my angels hindered me.If I were thinking of myself only...I got one solution only to end everything and stop my agony ...but I had to take this cross for my children.

Eagle, what is on the outside does not speaks the inside. Generally man have the lust in heart but stops short to hide the actions. Try him single status overseas appointment. It will be Wife at home, girlfriends abroad.

Yes you are right, there is nothing more you can do but wait...you've done your part( as per your post)...

Even we give you more and more advice and suggestions it will be useless, its like we are just running round in circles here....

Just wishing you more courage as a wife and I know as mum's we are strong and what we are doing is always for the sake our our kids...

QATARIANA1 said "... He talks less...mostly when asked and proded upon and it is exasperating when you always have to squeeze him to speak up."

Ok. There are always more than one way to skin a cat. Instead of directly nagging him, did you try other proactive ways? (eg. like what was suggested above).

Nagging - he probably just shut down. 1-2 times of repetitions is enough. More than that makes many people (not just men, but women as well) do the opposite or stonewall - ending open communication, at any rate. Good luck in sorting your issues.

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QATARIANA1 said Hi Jaryz ...

I don't think so. My husband is not a womanizer . You will not believe but as far as I know he never had any woman other than me. Coming from a conservative family I was his first girlfriend. I don't think he'll have time to womanize as he is an extremely busy person. Working from 7:30-5 in the office, managing our business, teaching in the graduate school, caring for our children bringing them to school, kumon, piano lessons at the same time supervising our house construction.My problem is not about his fidelity, but his indiferrence. I was envious of how does all things excellently but when it comes to me he is so stingy."

- Ok. Now wait a minute... If he's not a womanizer, he does all that you mentioned - he works - outside the home and in the home as well, cares for the children, etc. Hey. give him a break, girl! Are you crazy??? In fact, what's clear is that YOU are not emotionally (and physically) attentive to his needs. Hey, it takes 2 to tango in the dance of life.

Suggestion - you take the load off him AND THEN he'll have some time and energy left to be emotionally receptive to you.

QATARIANA1 said Alexa ..My children ...

are all that matters now. Though they are small 9 and 7 I teach them to be extra loving and caring."

- You know what you sound like? A taker, who has been thwarted and now making yourself out to a matyr, which you are definitely not. What was that about the circle of delusion ngourlay posted in another thread?

"My husband and I live apart he is back home while I am here. But we make it a point to be as normal as any couple when we are together esp. when my angels are around and I hope our problem gets solved before they grow old enough to notice it. No use talking to him now as I have brought up everything to him early on countless times. He's asking for some time and I hope he realizes it soon while I still have ,my sanity. "

- OMG! Your husband is to be pitied. Truly. To have to honour his commitment and put up with the likes of you. He's asking for time to change his own mindset and shift his own goal posts, for the sake of the children and his own sanity. Even if you can't see it, everybody looking in at your thread can see it. He does so much for you and the family. He just keeps quiet? He hopes that you will see reason.

Of course, you can also use the same argument I stated in that circle of delusion thingy against me. Which is fine. Whatever works best for you and your own situation. Only you and your husband know best. Yu two are DEFINITELY NOT communicating properly. One or both of you are NOT LISTENING.

/Oops. Gotta rush. Ttfn.

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Qatarina.. You are torn between two situations. fighting for the love you deserve and be a good mother to your kids. I really admire you being a mother, sacrificing your own happiness for your children.. From your post, its very ironic that you have an imperfect relationship with seemingly perfect family.. However, in my opinion, and with fair respect to Ms. Jaryz, i think your family that you have been taking care for almost 10 years is just a step away from jeopardy.. You see Ms. Qatarina, the very basic foundation of a family is the love you both shared with your husband. In all conviction, I believe your husband loves you as much as you love him its just that he find it hard for himself to express it.. Qatarina, you cant have it all. We are in constant search for happiness and until we made ourselves contented with what God/Allah has given to us we wont find it.

But we never talked about it anymore.A decade of wanting and expecting I think is more than enough. We reunited for kids sake but somehow hope is still there for a major shift to happen.

Let him do the talking? It's not his way with me especially personal and relationship issues. He talks less...mostly when asked and proded upon and it is exasperating when you always have to squeeze him to speak up.

My stand now.I will not ask and beg again, all I can do now is wait and hope till I can't bear it anymore.I'm just too tired.

One night love affairs?

then the only thing you could do is wait till you go home for your vacation and now it will be the other way around...LET HIM TALK not you....STAY in one room together,lock the door so that there will be no interuptions, turn off both your mobile(dont turn off the light-loool)...

Just sit together look him straight in the eye and tell him to talk... SINCE YOU'VE DONE EVRYTHING, u do all the talking before ,TRY to let him do the talking now...

Nobody is perfect Qatariana, I am not talking even about him as womanizer... there are other reason and these reason is the one im telling you to brace yourself into...3rd party is not always the reason for a couple to separate, maybe somewhere somehow the feeling is gone and i hope not...

And if nothing helps with all our advise, guess i gave up then... just goodluck.... nothin more to say....

Not true. If you aren't married you can still get arrested.

show all the love u want in the privacy of ur home... and nobody gets arrested... :P

We can't show love here. It's illegal, we'd get arrested.

Buying love can be expensive... Try a China Doll at the Ramada instead..

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i had to give so many gifts for a pinay to win her love. at last she demanded an iphone 32gb... i did not give ontime. she broke up with me... recently i saw her online... i buzzed her.. she bloacked me and said "that she is weed of stressfull people...)

Religion of Tigers is Hunting.... So I do.

Love is gift when shared each others

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Religion of Tigers is Hunting.... So I do.

Hight of love is "Kiss" leave your partner breathless....

Commit your selfe to prove you have more people to love you.... your exact partners love will blast....

do you know what is the base of love...... a................s

I don't think so. My husband is not a womanizer . You will not believe but as far as I know he never had any woman other than me. Coming from a conservative family I was his first girlfriend. I don't think he'll have time to womanize as he is an extremely busy person. Working from 7:30-5 in the office, managing our business, teaching in the graduate school, caring for our children bringing them to school, kumon, piano lessons at the same time supervising our house construction.My problem is not about his fidelity, but his indiferrence. I was envious of how does all things excellently but when it comes to me he is so stingy.

Did you post this same issue under a different name a couple of months ago ??

Even they are small they are also very smart and they can notice the small things...

All i said dont mean any thing if you are not together ...You Already crossed to seperat road ....

are all that matters now. Though they are small 9 and 7 I teach them to be extra loving and caring.My husband and I live apart he is back home while I am here. But we make it a point to be as normal as any couple when we are together esp. when my angels are around and I hope our problem gets solved before they grow old enough to notice it.

No use talking to him now as I have brought up everything to him early on countless times. He's asking for some time and I hope he realizes it soon while I still have ,my sanity.

Hmm.. Alexa made a very good point - "...just thinking about what your children will learn from this situation...

Maybe you can talk to your husband about this."

- Very good point - because if he's taking you for granted (quite obvious) and knows that you value your responsibility as a mother above your own happiness, he knows he's got you over the barrel of a gun - until the kids grow up. So, to change things, find your common ground - the kids. Hopefully, it's his common ground as well and you can work at what's best for your kids' emotional stability. Emotional wounds run very deep and are not easily perceptible - so perhaps use that angle of argument. NB: I didn't say use the kids. I said use the angle of argument.

- Alternative, just slap the granite head!

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Wow they're not together???!! pfff forget about what I said.. You need another approach!

Qatariana,sad to say your family is on the way to being broken..No,am not pessimistic...as you say u tried evrything and yet nothing change....do you know the biggest mistake you did so far my dear is leaving him alone there back home??? It did not work you being together with him and what will you expect\//things will change because you ar far from each other?? No my dear being far makes it even worst...

Why am i telling you all these??? because i've been there before, the reason why im working here for 6 years now is it did not work, i am the one who told him and begged him to stop going back abroad, we can help each other back home or the last moment he is complaining because he is tired and doing all, so i tried other way,told him we will leave the kids to my parents care and he will take me to saudi with him so that we could both work there and help each other and later we take our kids with us... he say this and that he has so many reason until i finally found out,he is living together with his whore/mistress with their child there...

mine is more complicated than yours... sad to say i am here trying to stay sane and strong for my kids, and he is there is saudi having 2 bastards already... why i knew all these,last december when i go home we have a closure, finally i learn the reason why...THE LOVE IS GONE...AND HE IS FULL OF GUILT for doing it and having an affair...but thats it....i did try my best...

YOU HAVE TO LET HIM TALK AND ASK WHAT IS THE REASON... somewhere, somehow there is a REASON WHY HE IS LIKE THAT...just brace yourself and be strong....

Of course being busy doesn't mean ignoring or being rude to him. Just busy enough to stop worrying.

I know (worrying and begging) Useless .i agree with you let her try !!!! but she must also know that this idea also can be the worst ...

Like i said depend on the man.

elioswd..

She tried worrying and begging for his love in vain. Time for some other way.

To each his own.. I totally disagree with your reasoning and if you want to lead a loveless life of misery, then I wish you luck..

What you say can be effective and can be bad cause some men when they feel about the ignorence they will search for it outside the house...

This is a Very Good Point....it will be disaster for the kids.

It's not easy in the beginning but in the long run it's better for your health, and will make you more attractive! really..

If You Dont Want To Have a Broken Home....Then You Must Continous Like This.

I have This Problem Between My Father And My mother ...Love Was Broken But They Still Together To Keep The Family ..Already been like this almost 5 Years.

You Must Live With It,Thats is Life....OR ....!!!!!!

Oh no..Men aren't supposed to know this trick LOL

It's what I've been looking for and hungry about all my life. I can't fool myself cause at the end of the day I know something is missing and there's a deep void.

Probably your expectation is very high....and he is just a simple person with normal expectations..

True Love is not conditional.....

nothing makes a man more possessive than a doting wife who suddenly starts ignoring him :-)

Thats forced love. Like force marriage without real love.

you value your duty as a mother over your happiness as an individual...

When you're a mom, forget that you're a woman. Get too busy to think of his love.

to keep the family,. I don't want to have a broken home.

So, If you are not happy as a person, what is the point of continuing ??

men can't be the emotional and expressive type instinctively

But even for for these types, if they care enuff... they can switch it on at least once a week and deliberately behave emotionally for the sake of their partner before going back to the zone again

Perhaps you missed it but I already mentioned I have told him a hundred times about this to the point that I was begging already. All he would do was ask for another chance and countless chances I had given him. It's very frustrating not to see any effort on his part to change and by the way he was like that from the very beginning.

i think the best way to is talk to ur partner.there is a communication gap between u guys.this happens a lot in relationship like husband and wife,afer certain years of marriage they take their realtionship for granted and get buzy in other things and forget to tell their partner that he or she love him or him.but its essential to keep a healthy and happy lov life to show affection.i think u have to talk to him directly and tell him that u miss all that affection which he used to do.may b then he will realize and take it seriously.trust me many people dont know all this.so the only way is to talk directly and openly.my advice to u is to tell him that one night u will go for dinner outside.just u and ur husband.so that he can completly focus on u,and then u can easily tell him that u need all that lov.there r som working machine kind of guys who r only good in their work.after leaving the office they r good for nothing and just like lost child.so try this and talk.i pray that everything going to b ok

When I decided to come to Doha.I thought that was the last straw but instead of rejoicing he waited patiently for my return and not wanting to have a broken family I reconsidered my decision for our two children. As a mother I'm happy but not as a wife and a person.Everyday in disbelief I have to go on and on.

Leave the idiot and get on with your life ... perhaps then he'll apreciate what he had ..

love is tandori roti one side fire other hotmud wall

I think so.

I can take care of my kids alone...but I can't afford to have a broken family. So the solution you are insinuating is quite remote. But tnx anyway.

Some men are not showy or expressive about their feelings...but actions speak louder than words...IT TAKES 2 TO TANGO...ask also yourself WHY...he doesnt show it...maybe...you are not that sweet to him...or a third party is involve...

Dont expect to much also...he might be preoccupied by his workload....!

do wot is best 4 u babez...if he hasnt changed in 10 years wot makes u fink he'll change now...u deserve love and affection too..u deserve a life and u deserve to live it to the max

’Idolized Or Despized’ Either Way Im Getting Recognized.

I like to show my love, I just can't.

What do you mean???

I want to show but I have nobody

I have to understand..he finds it hard and difficult to express his love...he's not good at these things..etc etc..I did for 10 years.Isn't that long enough? What about me? I need to be appreciated and cared for, I am his wife and yet he is starving me to death of his love and affection. I need to belong...and my self-esteem needs powerful boasting as well but I dont get it from him. My husband is a very smart, respectable man, ideal father to our children and a great provider as well...but when it comes to me...in a scale of 1-10 I'll give him a 2. I feel that he considers me as a superwoman yet at the same time a robot.Are you suggesting that I have to understand him all the days of my life without him amending his ways? Well, I can but I'll do that with so much unhappiness and just for the sake of our children. Why can't we do that for each other? After all loving is the essence of living..that's what we are here for.

Love is lust here in doha

well qatarania,i really dont think that by not showing lov mean u r being rude or echoistic or trying to b macho.human beings are most complex creatures ,all with different nature and attitudes.som are more romantic and can easily express it by different means they re usually more confident and open people.but there r som people who cant show it.i personly met many people who were in a sitution like this that they r unable to show their lov for their partner and they were worried about it.its just of their nature,they r shy or feel just confused and say we dont know how to act.its nothing to do with rudness or other things.u hav to understnd the nature of ur partner may b he loves u but really find it difficult to show it,may b he is just not good in these things

How I wish all people think the way you do....cause maybe there would have been no tarnished soul and bruised feelings and emotions around...

QATARIANA1 said Communication is the key....I have sent the message across a hundred times already....even pleading for attention...but to no avail... everything fell on deaf ears... But I left him that's why I came to know a place called Doha..but I had to reconsider my decision for the children."

Yes, you have to reconsider your decision for the sake of the children, at least until they are old enough to stand on their own 2 feet. Then you might separate again. If you're like me, where I will not file for separation or a divorce unless life threatening, then it will be an unofficial separation - later.

The fact that you have left him and come here will be the true test. If he loves you, he will miss you. Or at least, remember his commitment and his family. If not, then,I'm very sorry. He has to meet you halfway in order for things to work out.

Your other alternative - like a number of wives, is just to change your perspectives and expectations. Shift your goal posts, if you will. You can do it. We girls are tougher than the boys. Not physically but definitely emotionally tougher. All the best, Q1!

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Jaryz said LOVE is really complicated... ...

sometimes when you show the person how much you love him/her they are scared and just run away as fast as they could... "

- Only when you're starting off and testing the waters. Not when you've been together for 10 years!

"sometimes you love him/her too much and yet you are afraid to show him/her simply because you are afraid coz he/she might take advantage of your feelings..."

- True but fear holds people back. If you have assessed the situation and think a person is worth the risk, you should give it a shot.

"Qatariana...LOVE IS COMPLICATED ..AS LONG AS YOU SHOW HIM and say to him you love him... that is enough..."

- Hell, no. Love is a 2 way street. If one person is doing all the accommodating and being the doormat, something's wrong.

"DON'T EXPECT A LOT FROM IT COZ EXPECTING WILL ONLY LEAD TO SADNESS AND SORROW..."

- Lowering expectations is good - so any pluses are bonuses.

"what do you want??? what are you??? THE TAKER OR THE GIVER????"

- Hello, people (both men and women) should learn to be both. There is a time to take and a time to give. Meet halfway or they're heading for that revolving door..

/Oops! Sorry, that was MY revolving door.

//Find me a man of substance and that door will stop swinging. ... but then again... oh nevermind!

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Communication is the key....I have sent the message across a hundred times already....even pleading for attention...but to no avail... everything fell on deaf ears.I never slapped him....don't wanna be accused of "domestic violence" ha ha.. But I left him that's why I came to know a place called Doha..but I had to reconsider my decision for the children.

Labda06 said QATARIANA1 you've been worrying for 10 years. That's 10 years of your life. Im of the belief that each of us knows what to do. Trust your instincts. If he hasnt shown you he loves you in 10 years, I dont think he's going to change now. You need to decide if thats good enough for you or not."

Yes and no. Yes, 10 years of wasting time, without her emotional needs being addressed.

No, because if he hasn't shown her that he loves her - it could be that she didn't communicate properly. To him, if he's working hard and providing for her and the kids, that shows his love to her and family. If she needs a verbal expression of it, say so. Might have to repeat a number of times if he's a granite head (or get DaRuDe to slap him.)

If he loves her, he will meet her halfway - maybe not immediately but eventually. Don't give up if the issue is very important to you, Q1. And there is always more than 1 way to skin a kitty cat. Good luck.

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sometimes when you show the person how much you love him/her they are scared and just run away as fast as they could... sometimes you love him/her too much and yet you are afraid to show him/her simply because you are afraid coz he/she might take advantage of your feelings...

Qatariana...LOVE IS COMPLICATED ..AS LONG AS YOU SHOW HIM and say to him you love him... that is enough...DON'T EXPECT A LOT FROM IT COZ EXPECTING WILL ONLY LEAD TO SADNESS AND SORROW...what do you want??? what are you??? THE TAKER OR THE GIVER????

Jimimadi??????

Are you???????

muhammad84 said ... its nice if sombody shows lov.but som people find it hard to express lov"

QATARIANA1 said Muhhammad but why do some people find it hard to express? Is it because they are selfish or too egoistic? For me loving is easy and natural and must be reciprocated so it can thrive."

Agreed with Q1. Some guys mistakenly think they're being the macho "strong silent type". That went out with the Stone Ages. Communication is key. If you say they are shy, I'll say they are gutless.

As for someone who has a relationship with you, after 2 kids, also - you should communicate directly what you need to him. I trust you did cos you can't expect him to read your mind. If he's not listening, you just just slap him. Quite difficult to get jailed for husband battery. :P

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Don't want no drama,

No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama

with just one person.

Is thisjust with one person or many ?

do some people find it hard to express? Is it because they are selfish or too egoistic? For me loving is easy and natural and must be reciprocated so it can thrive.

Ask Dracula...

..but why tinged with blood?

Yep labda06 , love's ways are mysterious...

ROFL Gica Contra!! Lucky her! :-O

I LOVE YOU!

QATARIANA1...hope all works out for you :)

hoping against hope and waiting for miracles to happen. Although not happy I'm hanging on for our two children. Thanks for your fair advice.

QATARIANA1 you've been worrying for 10 years. That's 10 years of your life. Im of the belief that each of us knows what to do. Trust your instincts. If he hasnt shown you he loves you in 10 years, I dont think he's going to change now. You need to decide if thats good enough for you or not.

bollocks

That's why I sought advice. I acknowledge the fact of what you said. But till now its still beyond comprehension.When are we going to show someone that we love him/her? When everything is too late?

we're all different, some of us express our love singing Celine Dion's songs all day some of us dont. If you have to ask the question, start worrying.

I showed her, she slapped me

would you give it all the way if someone told you he loves you? if thats the case? let me tell you I love you too.. the main point is its important for a couple to say they love each other but if you are not satisfied on the kind of love he shows you, do you think the relationship is worth fighting for? Love takes two to build and takes two to work it out... If this relationship does not suit you, then its time for you to let go.. because if changes are not made, sooner or later, you alone would compromise and you alone would catch up with it. My advise is, talk with him. and if he is willing to meet you half way, damn dont let him go. otherwise, dont let your heart fall for a love that is not ment for you. A stupid cant exist if he is not willing to be made stupid.

say that Love is not love till u give...Love is a big word full of sense....

Love is a gift, commitment is the prize of love.

i dont think we can say that lov is not lov till u giv it away.lov is just lov without any reasoning.but its nice if sombody shows lov.but som people find it hard to express lov

Oh... so many things to say......

I have the same problem with my Eastern butterfly at the Ramada.. She only wants o commit for an hour at a time.:(