I did read the whole story and what I can gather is there is just a misunderstanding between your girl friend and male friend.
Have the two of them tried to talk to each other and try to figure out what is really bothering them?
To me, it sounds like the girl friend might be slightly jealous of your relationship with your male friend. It doesn't sound like that relationship bothered her before, but now that things have gotten more serious between you two, it may be that she wants you to focus just on her and would like your undivided attention. This may even be a subconscious feeling and one that she doesn't even recognize at jealously.
Perhaps, in their own way, they are playing a power game, each vying for your friendship/attention.
The three of you, as adults, should sit down and talk about the situation. Perhaps, if they both knew how stressful this is for you, they could communicate their true feelings and get things out in the open. Sometimes, because the relationships have shifted, people are not sure how they "fit in" their new roles.
If you can open up a dialogue and assure them that they are both very important people in your life and you have time for both of them, they would feel more at ease with
each other; thus, not having to compete for your love and attention.
If they are not willing to communicate, you will have to decide which person's love and attention you want more.
Hopefully, the adult conversation will occur and everyone can communicat their insecurities, needs and wants. Only then, can you and everyone involved fix the situation.
I did read the whole story and what I can gather is there is just a misunderstanding between your girl friend and male friend.
Have the two of them tried to talk to each other and try to figure out what is really bothering them?
To me, it sounds like the girl friend might be slightly jealous of your relationship with your male friend. It doesn't sound like that relationship bothered her before, but now that things have gotten more serious between you two, it may be that she wants you to focus just on her and would like your undivided attention. This may even be a subconscious feeling and one that she doesn't even recognize at jealously.
Perhaps, in their own way, they are playing a power game, each vying for your friendship/attention.
The three of you, as adults, should sit down and talk about the situation. Perhaps, if they both knew how stressful this is for you, they could communicate their true feelings and get things out in the open. Sometimes, because the relationships have shifted, people are not sure how they "fit in" their new roles.
If you can open up a dialogue and assure them that they are both very important people in your life and you have time for both of them, they would feel more at ease with
each other; thus, not having to compete for your love and attention.
If they are not willing to communicate, you will have to decide which person's love and attention you want more.
Hopefully, the adult conversation will occur and everyone can communicat their insecurities, needs and wants. Only then, can you and everyone involved fix the situation.