Dottie, smoking is forbidden in malls, but ALL the guys that sit at the coffee shops there smoke. There is a sign saying no smoking - but they don't care. It is the waiters duty to ask them to refrain. Some have the courage to. Some got beaten up for doing just that. So it really depends on the person speaking. It really isn't personal in my opinion. I am sort of glad that the dress code is becoming an issue - I hope they do that in school, as we see a lot of cracks and boobs - and it isn't a nice scene.