hi ngourlay,thanks for your reply. I'm asking how here how others descipline their child not how I will raise my kid. I have my own ideas and following it of descipling him but as I say afterwards the guilt feeling just get me. is it just me? or other people felt it too. I can see some parents seem just doing it like a breeze. but in my case It's very hard to keep him on track. I don't think there something wrong of comparing and getting what is the best for your child. I think that's all the parents want for their child.