I remember of a similar situation I was in for 5 & half years where I was also under this pressure of helping my incompetent Qatari friend & btw it was not only one but 3/4 more too as the friend herself introduced other ladies to me in case they need any help & in the end it didnt turn out as help but I used to end up in doing the whole thing & staying late. I tried to make them understand & learn that all step by step but being in the bank, although I was their officer, I still had to check each of their work which was supposed to come to me only for signing, line by line in order to make sure that nothing is wrong in the transaction. Although I loved my job very much but because of these incompetent behaviours I used to be sick all the time but still was punctual & efficient. For Qatarisun, I have only a piece of advice like other friends here that you need to sit with her alone & before saying something ask her few questions to know what exactly she thinks about you. Like you can ask her if she found you unloyal in this friendship, if ever you refused to help her etc etc & in the end you can say that after hearing all your yes'es, I can confidently talk to you that whatever I'll say now will be for your betterment & not only yours but mine too & this company. Then you may tell her that you have thought a lot about this & you dont want your friend to be handicapped & depenedent on you all the times because you see her future so bright, so you are going to your senior to suggest him / her that we need to arrange courses for our Qatari colleague in order to help them achieve all the positive things in the future + to enhance their skills & tell her that you are not going to open up your secret instead it would stay with you forever but you want to see her shining bright like star in the moon. I am sure if you talk her with love, she'll understand all, try to be friendly but lil serious when you talk about this.
I would just like to add to this post, that although I suffered a lot about my Qatari colleagues' incompetency but in the end when I resigned from my job those 5/6 bunch of girls were the only brave ones who openely talked to the management about me & kept the condition of their resigning at the same time. Those ladies were the only ones who were crying for me at my time for departure, & I was surprised & overwhelmed by this affectionate response that I still hold that wonderful memory with me all the time. It might not be something to believe but being a Pakistani, when Qataris cry for you n feel the pain for you, is something where you understand how close you were to them & how respected you were among them. By the grace of God, all of those are still in contact with me in one way or the other but sometimes when we are so much in negativity, we cannot see the real, lovely faces of these ppl. I am sure Qatarisun, whenever you leave that place, the shedding of real tears would only be by her. I hope you let us know what happened when you speak to this lady. Good luck & God bless you.
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I remember of a similar situation I was in for 5 & half years where I was also under this pressure of helping my incompetent Qatari friend & btw it was not only one but 3/4 more too as the friend herself introduced other ladies to me in case they need any help & in the end it didnt turn out as help but I used to end up in doing the whole thing & staying late. I tried to make them understand & learn that all step by step but being in the bank, although I was their officer, I still had to check each of their work which was supposed to come to me only for signing, line by line in order to make sure that nothing is wrong in the transaction. Although I loved my job very much but because of these incompetent behaviours I used to be sick all the time but still was punctual & efficient. For Qatarisun, I have only a piece of advice like other friends here that you need to sit with her alone & before saying something ask her few questions to know what exactly she thinks about you. Like you can ask her if she found you unloyal in this friendship, if ever you refused to help her etc etc & in the end you can say that after hearing all your yes'es, I can confidently talk to you that whatever I'll say now will be for your betterment & not only yours but mine too & this company. Then you may tell her that you have thought a lot about this & you dont want your friend to be handicapped & depenedent on you all the times because you see her future so bright, so you are going to your senior to suggest him / her that we need to arrange courses for our Qatari colleague in order to help them achieve all the positive things in the future + to enhance their skills & tell her that you are not going to open up your secret instead it would stay with you forever but you want to see her shining bright like star in the moon. I am sure if you talk her with love, she'll understand all, try to be friendly but lil serious when you talk about this.
I would just like to add to this post, that although I suffered a lot about my Qatari colleagues' incompetency but in the end when I resigned from my job those 5/6 bunch of girls were the only brave ones who openely talked to the management about me & kept the condition of their resigning at the same time. Those ladies were the only ones who were crying for me at my time for departure, & I was surprised & overwhelmed by this affectionate response that I still hold that wonderful memory with me all the time. It might not be something to believe but being a Pakistani, when Qataris cry for you n feel the pain for you, is something where you understand how close you were to them & how respected you were among them. By the grace of God, all of those are still in contact with me in one way or the other but sometimes when we are so much in negativity, we cannot see the real, lovely faces of these ppl. I am sure Qatarisun, whenever you leave that place, the shedding of real tears would only be by her. I hope you let us know what happened when you speak to this lady. Good luck & God bless you.
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