Agree, in part, with OP. Should be open with partner - why pretend to be something you're not and then show true colours when married? Deceptive to be a gold digger in disguise.

If my bf asked me for money, will see if it's a genuine need. If so, will lend. If not, he'll be ex so fast, he won't have time to say "baloney".

"Then why do some women get to have a boyfriend in the first place if they know they're not willing to ask them lover for some temporary important needs or such?"

- Some don't have bfs just because they need a banker. They use things, not people.

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