may be a better word, yes like I said people make mistakes, nobody is perfect but I believe if you really and truly love and respect your partner then you wouldn't stray in the first place, for me respect is very important, lose that along with trust and it just isn't going to work.
I couldn't spend the rest of my life with someone, wondering where they are or who they are with etc, not a basis for a good marriage.
Just my opinion, we all differ.