whay to do if you were me?
I have miss communication with my GF we have been together 2 years we are doing fine we have a lot of commons but in the bad times we have miss communication we can not talk we can not discuss am so angry person and I told her from the beginning that if you push me I cant control my self so you have to take me down even if its my fault then we can talk and make u satisfied but after 2 years she can not do this still when I get angry she push me to the top till I lose my control and hurt hear by words then she get sad , I love her so much and suppose next month our marriage but we are confused now I want her she wants me but am afraid if I will spend rest of my life in problems between us
That is all I want from her to take me down before I explode I wish if she understand how much I love her I wish if she do what I want and I won’t think twice to give her all I have got
2 Years is a lotta time... honestly if u can't "connect" in 2 years... i honestly do not thing you can connect in the future too... unless you are willing to start fresh and i mean when you start from Zero, and if she still has feelings for you maybe she would want that too.. if not, do not waste your time chasing something that can never be yours, just relax, men are like monkeys they let go of one branch and grab another :) cheer up
U HV TO DO SOMETHING WITH UR ANGER PROBLEM otherwise leave her & find someone else who take you down even if its urs fault
Marriage is a commitment and sometimes love is not enough to make it work. This may be a test for you, then when you finally decide what to do, you may be happier than before.
Take it easy, learn to accept your fault and if, as you said you love her,its all up to you if you want to change yourself for her, better yet you want to change for your own good.
thanks so much for ur opinions
we still have sometime before marraige
i will try to talk with her after while really we need to take a decegion
anyway thanks for all your replay
If you love her u must think about her dislikes in u too, dont b selfish and think only about ur satisfaction.It takes two to mess up a relationship
U need to help ur self with ur anger problem........if not she even if anybody else who come in ur life will face the same thing with u if u dont control ur anger..y dontu u chk some topics on how to control ur temper.....best of luck
2 crazy people, 1 house....don't think so.
better wake up now and both of you go find a calm and understanding partner.two magnets with the same polarity will never stick together and you will only have problems for the rest of your lives.
wake up...love will do you no good if ur miserable and fighting the whole time.
Big problem here if you do not find peace with her even before your marriage. Both of you have this thick headed character and comes the ego to win arguments. Love sometimes is blind. Its natural that love is sweet during courting times and chaotic after marriage. The answer is true love. However, for the better, there are thousand of prospective women out there with the same beauty and better character to be your life time partner. Make the better choice now rather than regret for the rest of you life.
...its a matter of pride my friend,as what i can see.. You're the only one who can balance the situation 'coz you pointed out the problem., just be calm and self-control is what you need to develop...try it, it won't harm you..
Good Luck!
u know am angry person come down with one sweet word only and she know this but she never tried
..let LOVE reign, and everything will be alright between you and her....
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I saw your mama and she said don't call you
Talked to your best friend and she said no need to
But I had to tell you I hate how I hurt you
Now I know how bad I hurt me too
If I've gotta get down on my knees tonight I'll do it
If you want to see me cry then baby, let's get to it
If I've gotta beg and plead
To make you see I need you in my life
Well, love is stronger than pride
I've got no right to ask you to forgive me
But I've got no choice 'cause it's about to kill me
I've been headstrong and I was dead wrong
And one minute more without you's just too long
If I've gotta get down on my knees tonight I'll do it
If you want to see me cry then baby, let's get to it
If I've gotta beg and plead
To make you see I need you in my life
Well love is stronger than pride
If I've gotta beg and plead
To make you see I need you in my life
Well love is stronger than pride
If I've gotta beg and plead
To make you see I need you in my life
(Well love is stronger)
My love is stronger
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Love is stronger than pride
you can not rely on somebody else to control your anger issues....that's why it's called "self-control".
you are marrying somebody because you love her...NOT for her to keep you in check about your anger management problem.
on the positive side...YOU acknowledge the problem...that is a good sign
BUT i think the both of you should REALLY sit down and talk about your planned marriage.
GOOD LUCK! GOD bless and PEACE!
I can see its your problem and u have to control urself, wat is the meaning of love, u have to try differant ways not to reach the peak, love is bigger than this things, u have to fight urself to gain ur lover, my regards.
i think you need to give each other some time to think... and time to reflect on things... especially about your differences... or sit with her on a very quiet place and talk to her properly... control yourself and try to understand each other... good luck...
You need to take responsibility for getting your anger under control and stop blaming her. If you really love her, seek help for your anger problem. Uncontrollable anger destroys relationships.
I was too a person of that pace, never went down for anyone or anything. I faced the same tides with my fiance but there are things I learnt time had solved.
Weigh your love and temper and see for yourself which one you want to give her the MOST.