Our concept of love is distorted by what we see in the media and film. IMHO and from a male perspective what passes for love is often a mixture of lust and infatuation, and I believe we are also constrained by the word itself - if I say "I love you," what that means to me and what it means to you are likely to be two completely different things. Greek I'm told has 3 different words to depict love - 1. Eros - erotic love, sexual desire, passion 2. Philia - brotherly love, love for a family member or a close friend 3. Agape - totally altruistic love; unselfish; patient; always and solely looking out for and concerned with the welfare of the recipient of that love.