"MT i agree, at times one has no choice , as one of my uncles (dad's brother) is living in old home rehab , he is a stroke patient in canada, and his kids n wife visit him weekly...."

The same happened in my family when we had to put my grandmother in care because of her Alzhiemer's. She was just too violent and required medical attention that we were unable to give her. However my other grandparents lived with my Aunt and Uncle until they passed away, and even when my grandmother was dying of cancer she still stayed home with them. Most Westerners do take care of their extended family, UNLESS they have no choice due to medical reasons.