it’s common for couples to struggle over finding the 'right' balance of time spent together and apart, as well as what level of closeness to maintain with one’s original family. however, your aim should be to find a cooperative rather than adversarial way to engage in this essential process. treat differences, disagreements and individuality as a team matter to be managed together. you should agree to allow your partner to be different in the ways that are most important to them. and insist on your own need to be an individual, as well as a partner, when it’s really important to you. also, learn to appreciate and nurture the healthy individuality of each other. :p