but back to the subject...i know for myself that i am not yet 100% ready to settle down. i want to have more time but my family and relatives are nagging me every now and then and i love them so much. i am engaged. but i am having the jitters all the time and kept asking myself "is he really the one? am i ready to do this?" i don't want to take the plunge just to please everyone but end up miserable.

maybe the problem is really with me...i can't make up my mind.

some of your comments have enlightened me and i'm really grateful. :)