As Loki says, your main problem is that you won't get a residence permit unless you're married. What's your problem with getting married? Are you rebelling against marriage just for the heck of it? You don't need the big romantic expensive wedding and you don't need to involve religion, you just need a visit to the registrar. You don't even need to tell your family if you don't want to. Marriage is a legal process which protects the parties involved, women and children in particular. What position would you and your children be in if your husband died suddenly or if he dumped you? Never mind morals and religion, any woman who gives up her career and has children without the protection of marriage is taking a foolish risk.
As Loki says, your main problem is that you won't get a residence permit unless you're married. What's your problem with getting married? Are you rebelling against marriage just for the heck of it? You don't need the big romantic expensive wedding and you don't need to involve religion, you just need a visit to the registrar. You don't even need to tell your family if you don't want to. Marriage is a legal process which protects the parties involved, women and children in particular. What position would you and your children be in if your husband died suddenly or if he dumped you? Never mind morals and religion, any woman who gives up her career and has children without the protection of marriage is taking a foolish risk.