As a black person I can tell you it is NOT a word that you would want to use. Even in black culture there is a movement going on to stop using the word. I am not saying its right but using this word also has rules. For you as a non black person to use this word could result in some bodily harm (not kiding).

Supernurse your logic or lack of it is sad. These same people refer to women as bit.... , so does that mean men can call women this word simply becaue they do? The reason this word is so prevelant in music and movies is because unfortunately negativity sells.