I believe that balance is the key to a healthy relationship.  Of course, we all want to be love  for who we are, but sometimes we also have to make changes within us for our love ones and for the relationship to work out.  But if someone that I love wants to change me, then that's a different story. 

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. "

Ralph Waldo Emerson