I was at the hospital the other day and I saw some parents who were a disgrace.  Is was obvious that they didn't know why they had sprogs: they didn't pay any attention to them, they didn't seem to care that much, they didn't even know how to hold them properly for crying out loud!  

This makes me think that perhaps it's a long way for some to get over the step where society determines them aspects that should be left to the individuals' judgement, such as when to get married!