because everyone saying that one gender can make another one happy if they do "this, that or another thing"...The only person who can make you happy, is yourself. If you are unhappy with yourself, there is no way you can share happiness with another being. You CAN however share the insecurity and unhappiness..which usually leads to one or the other spilling their feelings(a LOT!) or irritating the other person ASKING about how they are feeling.
I can't stand to talk about my feelings with others. If I'm happy, it shows..sad, I go and be by myself(or drive) so I don't share my bad mood, if possible. Perhaps that's because I was around my dad so much, growing up. I tend to think more like along the male mindset than female. I do think that if you don't keep nagging and asking what's wrong, eventually, men will open up. Just go be with them. It will never be like most women do, tho, so women have to get ready to listen and interpret what is said, and that includes body language. Men, just the opposite..you have to listen but then filter out all the extraneous stuff, then intrepret what is said. Most women are much more emotionally based and react in that manner. Men are taught NOT to react too much and therefore hold it inside.
because everyone saying that one gender can make another one happy if they do "this, that or another thing"...The only person who can make you happy, is yourself. If you are unhappy with yourself, there is no way you can share happiness with another being. You CAN however share the insecurity and unhappiness..which usually leads to one or the other spilling their feelings(a LOT!) or irritating the other person ASKING about how they are feeling.
I can't stand to talk about my feelings with others. If I'm happy, it shows..sad, I go and be by myself(or drive) so I don't share my bad mood, if possible. Perhaps that's because I was around my dad so much, growing up. I tend to think more like along the male mindset than female. I do think that if you don't keep nagging and asking what's wrong, eventually, men will open up. Just go be with them. It will never be like most women do, tho, so women have to get ready to listen and interpret what is said, and that includes body language. Men, just the opposite..you have to listen but then filter out all the extraneous stuff, then intrepret what is said. Most women are much more emotionally based and react in that manner. Men are taught NOT to react too much and therefore hold it inside.