give the kid a break for sanity's sake..he's 14!... probably finally managed to fit in with a few friends and next thing you know he's being dragging away and leaving all he knows behind..the safety of home! anybody trying to see the kid's point of view? i would just sit down and try reason with him.. its not going to be easy but u'll be surprised at how a 14yr old can reason..explain its a move you'll be doing together as a family and that the decision had to be made with the whole family's best interest in mind...plus i would say things the way they are cos any half truth will come back to bite you in the behind! if u tell him the way things stand and that its a choice you're making for the family, i don't see any honest reason why he will not eventually let go..

..one advice, conditioning and constrainging your kids won't work.i always worked on honesty with my parents and that's the way you get control, by mutual respect. usless screaming and grounding.. will only cause retaliation and rebellion