Women in Islam,
First of all, where are women in our (men's)lives…?
Women in men’s life:
Will fill one of the following positions:
• Mother
• Wife
How Islam deals with them:
Mother in Islam:
Actually, it will be very hard and difficult to say the value of the mother in Islam. Mother considered as the best person one can accompany in this life, before the father, according to Prophet Mohamed says in Hadith, which gave mothers (women) high superiority over fathers (men).
The Hadith story was stated like that:
{Someone came to prophet Mohamed (Pbuh) and asked him whom would be the most rightful person to has my service and accompany in life? Prophet Mohamed told him “your mother”, the man asked him again “then whom”, prophet Mohamed replied him again “your mother”, the man asked again “then whom”, prophet Mohamed replied him again “your mother”, the man asked him again” then whom” then prophet Mohamed replied him “then your father”.}
Obeying parents in general are one of the most important issues in Islam, if even they are not Muslims and if even they try to make him unbeliever.
Allah says in Qu'ran:
[31][14]” And We have enjoined on man (To be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command), "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal”
[31][15]“But if they strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (And consideration), and follow the way of those who turn to Me (in love). In the End the return of you all is to Me, and I will tell you the truth (and meaning) of all that ye did."
Mother has a lot of existence in Sunnah (prophet Mohamed says) asked the man to serve her and be with her until his or her death and never to make her angry even to raise his voice over her voice or say something that express angry:
Allah says in Qu'ran:
[17][23]” Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour.”
[17][24] And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood."
There is a famous story for one who was badly treated his mother in the time of “Omar Ebin El-khatab”. Actually, he was just prioritized his wife and sons over his mother, and responded her carelessly. His mother just was angry of him. When this man came to die, he was suffering so hard and people around him try to help him however they could not. Then they found no way to go to “Omar Ebin El-khatab” and told him what happened.
Then “Omar Ebin El-khatab” asked them,” Has he alive mother!?” they replied yes.
He told them, go to his mother and told her, please forgive your son as he will suffer now and hereafter. They did what he asked. She came with them and she cried as she saw he son suffering because of her angry over him, and she forgave him. After she did, he died safely.
The position of the mother in Islam is invaluable and nothing could equate her value.
Now the other important position of women in men’s life in Islam:
Wife…
First we need to know what a wife expects from her Muslim husband:
He treats her very kindly and sincerely.
He is obligated to accommodate her in the same place he lives.
He is obligated to feed her from the same food he eats.
He is obligated to buy her cloths from the same value he buy himself.
He is advised to hire a servant to help her in home if he can afford servant fees.
He is not allowed to harm her physically.
He is not allowed to kick her off her home (which he bought to get married).
Wife has her own money (either by legacy or by her own work) and she has the complete power over her money.
Wife still keep her family name and does not change her name to be part of her husband name.
And after all, if she dislikes his husband and she does not want to live with him any more, she has the right to ask for divorce and her husband obligated to obey her request.
To spend on her and her kids if she is divorced and gives her “Saddak” (in almost cases is a big amount of money)
Now what husband expect from his wife:
To look clean and pretty as much as she can at home, and treats him kindly.
To protect his honor (does not cheat or betray him); his money (does not spend unwisely).
To protect their kids and help he brings them up.
To obey him, whenever he asked her for something unless it is Harm (forbidden according to Islamic rules) (she must not obey him to steal people, or commit adultery, or things like this).
That is all man expects from his wife
I could not understand how a wife could be a property of a husband if she can end her life with him anytime she wants (if she hates him for example).
If you know, how much Muslim husband should spend on his wife just to marry her and after marriage…I believe you may change your point of view…
Sometimes, I envy my wife…she has found someone who gain money for her to spend.....loooool
If you have any more questions, please do not hesitate to ask…
Regards,
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"Did ye then think that We had created you in jest, and that ye would not be brought back to Us (for account)?"
Women in Islam,
First of all, where are women in our (men's)lives…?
Women in men’s life:
Will fill one of the following positions:
• Mother
• Wife
How Islam deals with them:
Mother in Islam:
Actually, it will be very hard and difficult to say the value of the mother in Islam. Mother considered as the best person one can accompany in this life, before the father, according to Prophet Mohamed says in Hadith, which gave mothers (women) high superiority over fathers (men).
The Hadith story was stated like that:
{Someone came to prophet Mohamed (Pbuh) and asked him whom would be the most rightful person to has my service and accompany in life? Prophet Mohamed told him “your mother”, the man asked him again “then whom”, prophet Mohamed replied him again “your mother”, the man asked again “then whom”, prophet Mohamed replied him again “your mother”, the man asked him again” then whom” then prophet Mohamed replied him “then your father”.}
Obeying parents in general are one of the most important issues in Islam, if even they are not Muslims and if even they try to make him unbeliever.
Allah says in Qu'ran:
[31][14]” And We have enjoined on man (To be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command), "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal”
[31][15]“But if they strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (And consideration), and follow the way of those who turn to Me (in love). In the End the return of you all is to Me, and I will tell you the truth (and meaning) of all that ye did."
Mother has a lot of existence in Sunnah (prophet Mohamed says) asked the man to serve her and be with her until his or her death and never to make her angry even to raise his voice over her voice or say something that express angry:
Allah says in Qu'ran:
[17][23]” Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour.”
[17][24] And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood."
There is a famous story for one who was badly treated his mother in the time of “Omar Ebin El-khatab”. Actually, he was just prioritized his wife and sons over his mother, and responded her carelessly. His mother just was angry of him. When this man came to die, he was suffering so hard and people around him try to help him however they could not. Then they found no way to go to “Omar Ebin El-khatab” and told him what happened.
Then “Omar Ebin El-khatab” asked them,” Has he alive mother!?” they replied yes.
He told them, go to his mother and told her, please forgive your son as he will suffer now and hereafter. They did what he asked. She came with them and she cried as she saw he son suffering because of her angry over him, and she forgave him. After she did, he died safely.
The position of the mother in Islam is invaluable and nothing could equate her value.
Now the other important position of women in men’s life in Islam:
Wife…
First we need to know what a wife expects from her Muslim husband:
He treats her very kindly and sincerely.
He is obligated to accommodate her in the same place he lives.
He is obligated to feed her from the same food he eats.
He is obligated to buy her cloths from the same value he buy himself.
He is advised to hire a servant to help her in home if he can afford servant fees.
He is not allowed to harm her physically.
He is not allowed to kick her off her home (which he bought to get married).
Wife has her own money (either by legacy or by her own work) and she has the complete power over her money.
Wife still keep her family name and does not change her name to be part of her husband name.
And after all, if she dislikes his husband and she does not want to live with him any more, she has the right to ask for divorce and her husband obligated to obey her request.
To spend on her and her kids if she is divorced and gives her “Saddak” (in almost cases is a big amount of money)
Now what husband expect from his wife:
To look clean and pretty as much as she can at home, and treats him kindly.
To protect his honor (does not cheat or betray him); his money (does not spend unwisely).
To protect their kids and help he brings them up.
To obey him, whenever he asked her for something unless it is Harm (forbidden according to Islamic rules) (she must not obey him to steal people, or commit adultery, or things like this).
That is all man expects from his wife
I could not understand how a wife could be a property of a husband if she can end her life with him anytime she wants (if she hates him for example).
If you know, how much Muslim husband should spend on his wife just to marry her and after marriage…I believe you may change your point of view…
Sometimes, I envy my wife…she has found someone who gain money for her to spend.....loooool
If you have any more questions, please do not hesitate to ask…
Regards,
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"Did ye then think that We had created you in jest, and that ye would not be brought back to Us (for account)?"
Surah "Al Mo'Emnon" verse (115)
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