I think it's because there is a certain "dance" to just having a fling. Guy must be attractive, charming and a lot of fun, but not relationship material, he must know that and so must you. But he cannot come on to strong about just wanting sex. He needs to be subtle. Let the girl come around to the idea that she's just in the mood for a fling. Than let her give you the whole speil about how she's not looking for a serious relationship that she's just looking for a little fun. That way she has said loud and clear that she is not a whore, she is a nice girl who is just not into a serious relationship right now. This kind of dance can take all night, or even a couple of nights.

The guys here ruin this by just being to desperate and coming on to strong. They don't let us explain that we are not whores, by doing that, and jumping the gun and saying they are just looking for a one night stand, they make us feel like whores.

No girl likes to be known as a "one night stand" or "fling" kind of girl. Yet, pretty much all of us do have one night stands or flings.