Is it not allowed?
Now i really have to share this coz this just happened a few minutes ago... One of my officemate just came back to office with his wife and they are newly weds. We were saying our congratulations while he is introducing his wife to each and everyone. And i was smiling and welcoming his wife. Out of courtesy, i extended my hand to him to congratulate him (well he kissed the guys as they greeted him...a custom i got used to already)...and guess what? He didn't take it! i was kinda shocked! He only smiled and made a courtesy vow... I didn't get it. Just because his wife is there, means he is not allowed to be in contact with any girls?
Even my other workmate who is a guy was shocked that he didn't take my hand. And to save me from the embarassment, he came over to shake my hand and we laughed over it. I didn't have any bad feelings about it but just confused why he didn't take it.
Now my other workmate is teasing me because he knew that my newly married colleague used to court me before he got married. Geez...
C'est la vie...
Most men have dual behavior,sometimes they don't even greet u if they r with their wife or GF... why can't they just be themselves? is it hard to accept for their wife who they really are? or they don't want the wife to know who they r?
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welll, to stay in the safe side do not shake hands with Muslims from the opposite side.. be it a qatari or not.. Because it's not allowed in Islam even though some Muslims do it anyway..
I'm sorry you are being teased about it, but it's okay just laugh with them! I would totally do that..
I for one, don't shake hands and feel sorry for the hands I leave in the air.. But they seem to understand lol I hope so!
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pajju it's just a greeting nothing else... ;)
yes wacky they r new cpls and i think his wife from village or dunno abt much peck on the cheek . and i never do peck on the cheek with gals :)
we are good friends and we've been working together for 3 years now. when my other guy workmates go on vacation and come back, sometimes they greet me with a peck on the cheek too even if they were married. and there is no malice with it becoz i know it's a friendly welcome or greeting. and it's no different with this guy before. just now that he came back with his wife did he do that. the handshake is to mean them well becoz i'm really happy that he got married. i understand that he maybe he just doesn't want to upset his wife in some way.
dont worry wacky and dont be get confused im here the Gucci boy i will shake hand with you dont be shocked lol haha
no need to worry
he just want to show his wife.
...no need to get confused....its simple Hypocrisy
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Dont be upset... thats quite the norm.. we have guys tht laugh and joke and go out with us for lunch on a daily basis but meet them outside the office with their wives and they act as if they dont even know who you are...
Some guys genuinely dont shake a ladies hand - but you generally get to know that from the moment you meet them.
SUch is life as they say !!!
its not matter of religion or trudition coz religion is religion with wife or without,but some husband try to play role of angel or 100% loyal infront of his wife .
yeah kissing and touching in Qatar only throuh bluetooth and infrared.
Aana free, jaana free,
Pakde gaye tho khana free.
ok, PM, accepted.
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because need and intention factor into the issue.
I didn't drink the kool-aid! -- PM
You never complained to me about nose rubbing ..
in Islam it is not allowed for a man to touch a lady, even over the handshake. Nothing is shocking about it. You live here, you should know about it.
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
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the opposite sex when they are not mahram (closely related by blood that prevents marriage). This seems to be more common among Arab Muslims. It could seem a bit hypocritical if he used to be making overtures to you before but maybe he was concerned about his wife's response. The best thing for a non-Muslim Western woman to do is follow the cues and smile warmly, waiting to see if the man extends his hand.
Don't let it bother you.
I didn't drink the kool-aid! -- PM
or.. maybe he thought u wer one of da human fused prawns from district 9...
...and he didn't want his wife to get insecure.
Source:
- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)
Happened to me many times, but then I got a guy kissing me and rubbing his nose against mine. Was weird at first now kinda got used to it.
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thanks 220v...
as i said, i am not upset brit. just got confused or lost there for a moment...
No need to get upset. Customs, tradition , religion. To each his own..
wacky...i am ready to take ur hand....
customs are different when wife is around......you din't do anything wrong.
Aana free, jaana free,
Pakde gaye tho khana free.