when to say "its enough"

@nomerci , nah you are wrong! last time my heart dumped me at the Physics exam.

Wrong brit, you can always trust your heart..it's your mind that screws things up.

It's my heart I can't trust :O(

Sometimes Love Just Ain't Enough..enjoy

Lol @ dwarfina :)

i am glad this is enough..

Saying enough is as easy as how many options you got.

If you have options to go away, then choose them.

You just have to think out of the Mr.Love's box.

Very good..may your love be with you forever!

yeah i know coz im busy taking care of my kids... :-)

FYI to all of you! i finally found the love of my life! :-) we've been married for 6 years and we have 2 adorable kids already.. and that's love! :-)

I have two kids (both boys) who loves me unconditionally!

yes i have been hurted many times before.. and i asked the creator why it is happening to me..

NOw i found the answers.. God gave me three men in my life.. my husband... my 1st son.. and my second son..

i dont care to all sarcastic people here in my post!

i have so much love now.. :-)

FYI to all of you! i finally found the love of my life! :-) we've been married for 6 years and we have 2 adorable kids already.. and that's love! :-)

I have two kids (both boys) who loves me unconditionally!

yes i have been hurted many times before.. and i asked the creator why it is happening to me..

NOw i found the answers.. God gave me three men in my life.. my husband... my 1st son.. and my second son..

i dont care to all sarcastic people here in my post!

i have so much love now.. :-)

tinkerbell, unfortunately he is still searching for his lost LOVE that he cannot find the NEW love:(

All you RIGHT guys please open your door/heart/ and everything with a sign board "FREE ENTRY" for expereienced singles. 1000 Riayls for fresh couples.

Britexpat,You already found!

tahs, good man for editing you comments..:)I guess that what the edit is for, when you make it mistake you go back and edit it rather than been stubborn and let the whole world see. Thanks Tahs, you the man!

Britexpat

Enventualee you find your Miss Lovelee

But I am afraid of having my heart broken again :O(

Britexpat follow the advice of rovieleeh and love again and again!

Does that mean I should finaly let my Cuban Shotputter go and look for someone new :O(

Could I find love again ?

Yes rovieleeh, You have to kiss many frogs to finally find your Prince.

Good luck with your Quest!

Yes Tinker I will issuing a questionnaire at the next at the next coffee meet and do's and don'ts so prepare yourself well during the vacation..:)

Finally LOVE PEACE & HARMONY

haha! FYI! i have hurted many times! i have been fooled may times! and i walked away from them.. i never let myself lose my self respect coz its the only thing that i have..

but that doesnt make me closed my door to other love that might come my way! :-)

sometimes, you have to meet few wrong people.. to meet the right one. :-)

as the song goes "I WILL SURVIVE.. AS LONG AS I KNOW HOW TO LOVE I KNOW IM STILL ALIVE!" yeah!

Tinker yes with this lovely weather and my big garden and my Gas BBQ it the only place I spend my time when I am at home hence no more beach trips till the weather warms up.:)

too much love will kill you......anytime :)

BB you still have that Magical BBQ machine?

Yes BB the I thought the thread is about "when to say, its enough", but I guess its never enough :)

blisteringbarna.. r u expecting sumthing else

too much love in dis thread

Tahs i quotoe rove statement "we could love over and over again" she is falling in Love again and again, now that's what is more interesting?..lol

Thank you lj.leano :)

rovieleeh, ask yourself, is love a choice? Can you tell yourself to start or stop loving someone at will?

Sure, walk away from selfish people, you deserve better. But there is no guarantee you will stop loving them.

rovileeh, You cannot love over and over again, There is only one true love the rest are just time pass :)

hahahaha

you really never get my point... :-) who said that we must end the LOVE in our life???

we could love over and over again. but in this situation, are you still going to love the person who take advantages of u? used u????, hurt u many times? ah ok, if thats what love to you go on.. we will erect a monument for u.. long live for u! :-)

PQ, I wish it would never end, but some times it does, my friend Britexpat still can't get over his Cuban shot-putter who left him high and dry!

I second to Aiwa very well said :)

Let the never ending Love flow without any interruption. There is no ‘Enough’ for being taken for granted! LOL

Giggle, Tinker, yes I do :D

Going to get some right now!!

'Love doesn't end, just because we don't see each other.' Sarah, The End of the Affair.

And you say 'Enough' when you want to, not because you don't get what you expect.

Dunno what I just said :P

PQ...what else would one need in this kind of relationship other than LOVE.. and if it is overflowing without any ifs and buts, can it get any better ...:) How I wish...:)

TB & UK...you two know me, right...:)

lol to long to scroll...

When is it enough? Right now.

lj.leano, dont take it personal. I was asking a general question.

Merry Chirstmas to you too!

Lol pixie :) that all depends on the person involved in it. Don't generalize it ;)

Tahsin, you are married its haram for you to know all these secrets.

I never said low maintenance is looked upon low. I said its an advantage for men. whatever their so called LOVE says they say 'yes/ok honey'! That makes the BF's life easy. They don’t have opinions or demands. ALL they want is LOVE and more LOVE!

Note: My inbox is open for all of you to bash me for saying all these!

when to say "its enough"...its when i visit a barber shop and the barber cut my side hairs and i say "its enough" i have to cover my top...:)

hahahaha! ok its enough! lol!

hey everyone, i respect all your thoughts and point of view... as long as you are making sense. know what i mean? :-)

This thread reminds me of the song, "Last Christmas.." lol

TB and there's me thinking, it had to do with how good a cook HGL was..:)

Better not to be fooled at all by fools in the first place!

its more like this.. SHAME ON YOU IF YOU FOOL ME ONCE.. SHAME ON ME IF YOU FOOL ME TWICE!!

RESPECT YOURSELF TO WALK AWAY FROM SOMETHING THAT DOESNT MAKE U HAPPY ANYMORE. :-)

riveilah that's not a lion that's a wild cat!

The best way to not let people withdraw from you is not to give them that privilege in the first place! Hence you will always be in credit!

hey lion wheres the dancing cat you were talking about??? :-P

HGL lol, easy to be with? As an Indian can you say that?

PQ...nah, not necessarily. Easy to be with...is a smooth living with not many tantrums to throw. And when you say 'low maintenance' that vindicates my statement that they are easy to be with. BTW never knew that if I spend fortunes on my GF then only can she command respect else she is something to be looked down upon. Anyways, since you are a female, I am all ears...:)

It's OK. TB is back :O)

Welcome..

oh dear ! no merci where r u

HGL, Smart people learn from their mistakes and wont commit the same mistake again. Easy to be with means can easily be taken for granted? Also very low maintenance required.

sourcing, you mean to say you guys dont have rational thinking?

I dont know if they are dumb, but they are quite lovable and easy to be with...:)

Pixie queen....some nationality does not have the privilege to experience love which involves pain and joy.

We can choose who to marry or to fall inlove with while some nationalities can't. Get the point?

You can't be wise for something that you've never experienced.

we are dumb but we can be genuinely happy. Are you?

“When will to hold tight and when to let go? When to say you don’t love him/her anymore?” Have we ever asked ourselves what are the reasons why we’re still holding on and or why we’re letting go? Perhaps yes, but have we ever found even just a single plausible answer? Perhaps yes, but can this answer worth everything that we’re ready to give up? Again perhaps it’s a yes, but one thing is definitely true no matter what, either way, the pain is real and it leaves us broken. But have you ever tasted the bitter sweet of these moments? Because for every ‘holding-on’ there’s hope and sometimes hopes become dreams of reality; for every ‘letting-go’ there’s freedom from pain and pains are nothing but temporary. Sometimes when we don’t let love rule over our confused heart we tend to make decisions that we usually regret at the end. And as reckless as we had been we end up breaking our own heart and sometimes changing us into a cold and selfish monster that it takes another lifetime to recreate. It makes us live in sorrow and incapable of loving even our own selves.

We can say that we don’t love our partners anymore when we stopped believing that we’re not complete anymore; when we’re lacking something that once was ours. Because the moment we accepted our partner he/she had filled the emptiness we have. Either he/she lost his/her part or you unconsciously withdrew the part you had given. Mistakes and wrongs we’ve done are part of every relationship. Forgiveness is another thing. It’s hard to forgive just as hard as to ask for forgiveness, but in every relationship love can outweigh every hatred and guilt. You may never forgive him/her for doing the vilest thing but within your heart the love once shared will always be the same. You can shout to the world that you don’t love him/her anymore but when the facade of silence greeted you the emptiness and longing for that love shouts louder. There are choices to make and chances to take and the best thing do is not to make or take it alone. It should be mutual, after all both parties created the foundation and to break it shattered with bitterness is far more complicated than to let it stand still if not for the future then at least for the past to finally had its home.

“Does love really dies? If it’s so, is it in a natural death? Or one can actually kill this feeling to make the heart go cold?”

I once asked a friend of mine who’s having a hard breakup with her boyfriend to do a simple exercise I devised. She’s filled with bitterness and vow to never love again. Her heart beats her hatred to love. She can’t move on because the ghost of her past keeps on haunting her. She pitied herself for giving too much and left nothing for herself. That the love she gave were wasted and never appreciated. She felt that it was her who left hanging and lost from the battle she thought she fought with. With her tears welled, I asked her to get a piece of paper and a pen. I asked her to write every happy memory she had with her boyfriend, I asked her to write every detail no matter how painful it gets. I know it’s an agonizing punishment to do such things. Then after I asked her to read all the things she wrote, at first she did but the pain is just too much for her, she end up crying almost in hysteria. After she calmed, I asked her to look at the paper and said to her, “From all those times do you think he never appreciated you? Do you think he never loved you? How does the sweetness you’ve been turned to bitterness right now? Tell me now; do you think he never gave you his all?” She looked at me confused. I continued “Can you pick at least one of those memories where you once said into yourself that you have everything, that you’re the richest girl in the world for having him, that you’re willing to bargain and give up everything just for that moment to last forever?” she looked at me this time I saw a bitter smile and said “…all of them”. I smiled and said “Never ever said that he never loved you or never appreciated you.” I continued. “He did, and he will never forget you because he played a part of you and you a part of him. It’s just that love didn’t work between the two of you. Fine, he hurt you, he broke you into pieces but that’s the way it should be. All of what of you should be broken so that you can create a new you for the next love to find. Never pick your broken pieces and mold it again as whole because no other love can polish it again for you. Every crease of those broken pieces made whole holds memories that belongs to the past – you can never move on. You can’t give your all for the new love to nurture within your heart if from the very start you started with the broken products of your past. That’s the reason why break ups are painful, everything is broken and we can do nothing out of those but serve just as memories to cherish and lessons to learn. You should create again a new you… unstained, polished, whole and perfect for the new love to find.”

We split up knowing that still she has a heavy heart. After a couple of weeks she called me with a lifted heart. We talked till she cries again but this time the bitterness was gone. She told me one of the sweetest line I ever heard “I do still love him…but I want him no more.” She smiled then I answered her “You’re whole again.”

I smiled as I remember these things, Love therefore never dies. It may gone cold but still the presence of it linger till one’s heart stops beating. No one can ever kill one’s love just as sure as that no one can ever live without love.

pixiqueen...asking you personal question. Did filipinos dumb you? just confused if your have experience with that? hehehe...

rovie, why most Filipinos are so dumb when it comes to love and relationships?

guilt become guilty..lols :p

guilt u made me laugh today hahaha!! u have a very big problem finding my post not fascinated to you..

first of all i never claimed that im the original one who made such quotes! yes it is true its a copy paste!

to make all my post effectively, it is because i speak from my experienced. :-)

im happy posting such quotes.. especialy if i can relate so much in it. :-)

i didnt know the QL has a lot to offer to all doha recipient haha! now im enjoyng using QL.. im a member since 2007, its only this month i became active.

but ofcourse, i cannot please everybody, some people will disrespect my post (just like my first post) and accused me of some ridiculus things. but still, i dont care, they dont know me.. say whatever they want to say thats their prerogative, they only know me by my name..

as we always say "dogs will bark to a stranger" :-)

have a good day everybody!

My Cuban Shotputter used to "withdraw mor than she deposited", but I would have her back tomorrow :O(

guilt, why are you criticizing? are you man enough?... make you own style!

Depends on the day of the week...:)

rovieleeh, create something of your own. I have seen a lot of copy paste.