When Does Flirting Become Cheating?

LLR. someone touched you so deep, where? In Doha Jadeed? LOL'z

Jungle, did you feel it? sadly, I am not in DJ surfing team.. what to do yanni.. :(

FYI I said someone touched me deep in my heart. :)

LLR, I see you using most sensitive words.

Zafirah - but sad, it will take couple of months to start using those skills.

someone touched me so deep :)

LLR, LOL at Doha Jadeed Surfing Team!

flirting is an art. it is a skill! :)

yea true zafirah. it is the most interesting topic.

Guys love to to it & girls accept it depends on their comfort level with that guy.

as far as me, flirting with co-workers / close friends is the best way to relax & there is no cheating inside.

2 pages! wow! people are so active when it comes to this topic!

Yes. :) It is actually a fine line. :) You can see how soft flirts gets hard. :)

hijacked

He already asked about swingers. :)

Doha Jadeed Surfing team Brit, Rizks, Deadloo will answer your question with good experience. :)

LLR: Is masturbating is not. Well unless someone is doing it to you or you doing it to someone other than your partner.

OMG! LOL'z

LLR: No, was gonna ask about making love to your wife/gf with another guy on your mind?

And Vice versa (:

You did not get it. :) Good work stacy.

I can guess your next question. :) It should be something like this "if you play with yourself, is it teaching?" :))

Thelonius 99.99% makes only 700,000 idiots less. :)

How about flirting with your pet animal? Is that cheating too?

Yes. :) You got it right. :))

Oh, you mean Erectile dysfunction, and premature ejaculation.

In my opinion It depends on your health.. :) if its for ED or PE i think its fine. :))) as it helps as a medicine. :)

Is fancying another man/woman while having sex with your partner also cheating?

LandLover, sure sir..

nomerci, so reddish.. like it . note that, it is not a flirt & cheat as well ha...

I don't care, I'm simply not interested.

Jungle ha ha take it easy and stop shaking those berries. :))

Ha ha.. all ladies here are damn trustful !!

what about QL passwords ? do all of you share that also ;)

Yes Thelonius, How it can be perfect? as 99.99% are idiots. :)

A statement I heard a few days back is quite apt here..."Honey, I have heels higher than your standards"

deadman: down to earth, I am :-)

then set with your self and see what are prons and cons?

You might only focus on one or two bad things and forget all the other good things your patner have.

If you are not happy with your partner then it might be you are the one who should be fixed, so look at your self and see what are the wrong things you are doing.

other side do it, is it his/her style?

How your mind is configured?

Is your mind configured that you think any one who looks at you and smile really likes you and interested in you!!

If you married and happy do not lose your partner because of flirting, put the limits for yourself and remember if you cheat your partner then your partner might cheat you (very big possibility).

The ID DM is fake hence proved the thread is fake...:)))

Thelly - It's useless if you refused to believe it's the truth. Now that you've admit that your marriage is not perfect that just put my point forward that it just a matter of finding your weakness and fall for it.

You are not a cheater. Well, right now you are not. I don't believe that you'll never be one though. But should you die today and your wife says you've never cheated, I'll believe it then.

Same goes with everyone else. You can deny and argue about it until you turn blue but it won't take the fact that anything can happen and you might end up cheating if you're not careful.

From the moment you and khanan broke up, there is no rain in Qatar. :))

Snexxy: Never thought you would be so "Down-to-earth" sort of a gorgeous looking lady! :D

Sulie: Stick to the topic, dont let your vivid imagination take this thread to some banned stuff! :P

Awww LLR, BOXBE have joined hands against the DeadMan! :P

Chillout guys there is no point in criticizing someone if you cant do the same yourself :P

You flirts and cheats take some rest.

Khanan: So you've been here all the time :) Welcome lala jee :)

Handsome Prince: Do i look confused in any of my statements! :P For clarification just read the below lines very carefully, once if not twice,

All the beautiful ladies on QL, a very good after noon from the DeadMan! :P

Nope Deadloo has brought such topics more often.. it crosses the limit of flirting and Mr.MOD makes it invisible with a tag BEHAVE. :))

Deadman thinks, it varies from situation to situation and person to person.

Never knew that DEADMEN can even think...:P

So this thread is all fake

I Hope you have opened this forum just to get the views of other Qlers....

and i hope too that u r not in a position that u r cheating or flirting with some1 and just bcz of that u have opened this forum....:p

I Hope you have opened this forum just to get the views of other Qlers....

and i hope too that u r not in a position that u r cheating or flirting with some1 and just bcz of that u have opened this forum....:p

Liking both POV.

big shout out to all the beautiful ladies on this thread :)

Yupp. that is mutual agreement. :)

Cheating is again not between just couples, cheating a family, cheating a society etc it continues. :)

Some couples when they get bored they meet another couple for fun :O)

That's not cheating, Is it?

Yeah but some take a life to find one. :)

Well, thelo, there are still 7 million out of 7 billion who are okay. So, no worries to find one.

BG is MIL less now he is back to single so he will start flirting soon...:)))

deadman: don't believe the hype :-)

No StaceyR, if I had feelings for another man, and ended my marriage (not necessarily for that particular man), it is not cheating. It would be plain to see my marriage is no longer working and it would be unfair to stay with my husband under false pretenses.

Strom

I can classify it more..

Soft Flirt

Hard Flirt

Friends with benefits

Relationship

Suffering ( marriage )

and again

Soft flirt

Its life cycle for many. :)) Sometimes we lose the loved ones because of their misunderstanding. :) It happened with me..

If you had feelings for another man, you would end your marriage first... It sounds to me that You were already having an affair of the heart. Shouldn't an affair of the heart be consider as cheating?

How many times have you listened to people who divorced their partner that they never intended for it to happen? That they had a perfect marriage and the other person was just another friend from work?

I actually believed they never wanted to cheat their spouse but sometimes things happened. All you need is a chance to be exposed to that element that will make you fall for it.

So its not only her eyes that are beautiful....

Snexxy... Deadman simply would die again to appreciate your thoughts! :D

Truth is if your activities, that include flirting, effect your relationships, they can be considered as cheating. Get rid of either... that's the choice you have. If you cant, then that really is "CHEATING"

who can cheat once, can cheat twice and and and

So be careful from the first time

totally agree with GG

Totally agree with Snessy...

is flued exchange ;)

on the moment you can talk open with your spouse about friendsships you have is that cheating,.. don't thinks,. either party need some kind of privacy.

im against sharing passwords,. that's where there for,. to protect acces by others...

I do thrust my spouse enough and reverse that I don't even feel the urge of checking email or fb acct..

that's being over controlled,.. and can work areverse in any relationship,. which should be build on thrust,. so wy check

Its all about willpower and loyality...

I disagree StaceyR. I can honestly say I would never cheat on my husband...I have too much respect for myself, my hubby and my marriage. If I had feelings for another man, I would never consider cheating, I would rather end my marriage first. Which in any case, would not be cheating...

I am strong..I am Strong...lol

StaceR: The probability is there, it always will be.

The difference is that some trust their control over their temptations, therefore can risk to be more open and expressive in a certain way. Others are emotionally weak, and cant fight the temptation, even if they want to.

So solution is simple, if a person feels that things might get out of control, don't risk it. Kill the very temptation right there and then. Others, who are emotionally strong, and can come out of situations without getting hurt, can afford the risk of flirtation.

@snessy: my point is, no one can ever brag that s/he will remain faithful to his/her partner forever. We could put ourselves on a pedestal and remain in a LaLa Land. We could always hope for the best. We could always do our best.

But reality is, unless you decided to become a hermit and stay away from human (or the sheep), you will be exposed to people of the opposite gender that will somehow create some kind of response in you.

In another word, temptation is always there until you die. I won't definitely brag about remaining faithful to my man until I die.

Promises are meant to be broken - Thello said it before.

Zita Mimi ,, Do you have any stories or secrets to share

Wink wink

Baboo is a friendly monkey..dont think he will flirt with anyone...plus he is scared of his MIL..lol

hahahaha LOL Pappu

GG you officially flirt only with Khanan and Brite in the mains and in the mails with baburao....:))))

DeadMan ,,, You toothless Croc :p

None of the two in your pervert mind ,,Lols

Sulie: ROFL! Great to hear that! :) Btw which of the two do you call your sweetheart?

Exactly GG & LLR! I often get called a flirt, but I am just friendly and it's my personality which people misconstrue as flirting. Will I ever change? I hope not...

StaceyR: cheating and harmless flirting are two different things. Not all men are the same and not all men cheat. Some have the utmost respect for their wife and marriage. If you're always being cheated on, you should think twice about the kind of men you seem to be attracted to.

I think someone has to flirt with me so that I will know what really flirting is?

LLR u simply cannot just draw a line for all these three... and demarcate it ....

OK

Flirting could be the first step of cheating

Anyway I don't flirt much in reality but I used to in QL or FB but nothing serious happened (except couple of times :p )

But I won't cheat on my sweetheart :O)

OMG! So many secrets pouring out ;-)

Mr Deadman, just wanted to let you taste your own medicine. Its not the guys alone who can supposedly "flirt innocently" and get away with it ;-)

Thelo, as long as you still breathing, there will always be a chance that you'll end up cheating. Come back and tell me when you're dead and that you only have eyes for one, I will believe you. Until then, I count you as one of those hypocrites.

well IMHO

for boundaries i never get the idea... as if i m TALKING and someone consider that i am flirting ... will be a a different scenario...

my start of harmless flirt might be a hint for someone to start somthing more ...

so boundaries cannot be set ....

panither u still wanna know whose profile is more intresting * batting lashes 120/min*

Theo... I remember seeing you flirt with your gf at midnight on QL...lol That was not so long ago...

Some don't understand the difference between flirt, friends with benefits and a relationship. :)

Painther don’t be jealous now...:)

I agree with sness.. Often friendliness is misunderstood as flirting...

But some ladies makes friendship ONLY with men and vice versa...why oh why??

I am missing few expert comments here...lolz

hahaha nope.. I never did flirt with a bloke yet, though one of my male friend is pretty much down to earth in this context but I acted as a counselor :)

Why LLR? Were they blokes?

Thank you deadman :-)

DP is such a sexy & broad acronym :))

Snexxy: We think alike! :) It isn't a big deal :D I love your DP! :P

And btw your brought up and exposure to opposite gender is also a factor here. I have noticed that people who don't interact with the opposite sex often, tend to go stray more often. Just an observation, that may be incorrect.

For me sometimes it has ended up with pain in my Arse as they wanted to marry me..damn :)

lol DM, why? do you have copyright on that :)

when one starts asking for KFC n hala card

it's against NATURE's rule if GG/snessy flirt with each other; :P

that's injustice to men :(

r we talking about flirting or about marriage here...:) or about relationship

My question...Is flirting good or bad or is it necessary to flirt or is flirt a good word or not

Painther: Stop taking this opportunity to flirt with all the beautiful ladies on QL :P

Zita: You double sided sword :P What do you mean by virtual :P ? I hardly know that you (though i would love too :P) Stop gaining cheap popularity from associating yourself with the "DeadMan" Lolz!

Generally speaking, it really is a fine line. For some, a common meeting, a simple friendship can be also been seen as act of flirting. For others, they can get away with such bold steps in life and still be committed and happy. As Nad said, its your own boundaries that help you determine whether you are right or wrong, not the judgement that others make about you.

Just seen your comment asking for me GG, why? Do you want me to flirt with YOU again? ;-)

Some people mistake being friendly as flirting. If jokingly done on an open forum like this one, it really isn't a big deal, but if it carries on to PMs, it's taking it a little too far.

painther for me its me :)

Thelo, any normal human flirts one time or the other even if he is in a relationship but as you grow old people loose interest in such things, being alive takes precedence and this might just be the case with u.

lets vote, who's profile is best-nad, strom or zita ?

for me all three are good!!!

is it 'virtual' flirting :):)

Miss Nad, some things are meant to be "Virtual" ;-)

agree with thelo :)

Good quote: “never play with fire”

.....just get the warmth out of it (for life survival-liveliness), and if necessary get your ‘raw’ food cooked in it :):)

‘fire’ is lifeline if controlled-used else it swallows all.

without it life is dull :P

yes i agree

Storm you will set your boundaries.You will know exactly when not to cross them as you are the one who understands your relationship better than anyone else.

stop flirting !!!! everyone :-) jeezzzzz

on serious notes , flirting within boundaries is really something i didnt get ... who is going to set the boundaries for that??

I believe if you are in a committed relationship , and have mutual trust and respect for your partner ... the question will never arise whether flirting is harmless or healthy...

but as wise say "never play with fire" so one has to be careful :-)

Where is storm and her expert opinion?? :)

Snessy..where are you?

flirting never becomes cheating as both knows that they are flirting each other.....enjoy flirting and have fun by some understandings.....

Zita & DM u guys, go get a room LOL :)

First things first! Nad you look awesome in that Display picture of yours! Wow!

Ok coming back to the topic, BOXBE.... my dear friend, i can understand your frustration..... but i give you the edge by calling it professional jealousy :P

Handsome Prince: You seem to know a lot about some Hala Card scheme and KFC... hmmmm.. can you educate us about these new promotions?! :)

GG: I dont blame you for flirting with Khanan, no disrespect but last time i knew, even some of the guys were interested in him :P Muahaha!

Zita Mimi: Your "Phew!!!" tells a thousand untold words about "Mr" Deadman! Lolz!

Miss GG, give me a break here ;-) Phew!

I totally agree with Miss Nad and Mr Deadman about the word "trust"

There is a thin line between flirting & cheating, one should be careful not to cross it.

If you feel you can share more with a stranger than with your partner then your relationship is doomed and you are cheating by not being truthful.

On the other hand if you can share anything with your partner then all is well & good.

As DM said trust is the bond that holds two people together

Since I trust my partner & vice versa we are happy touch-wood :)

This is really subjective. Everyone have different boundaries on what constitutes as cheating. I once had a girlfriend who went to the extreme of being suspicious when i kiss a female friend on the cheek when we meet. I can't imagine how bad it would be if she actually saw my text messages!

Zita mimi ..did you fell for DM's killer style?

Boxbe flirting is cheating when u r flirting without kfc hala....lol.....

not until and unless u offer kfc and hala...rofl..:)))

Mr Deadman, this post of yours, is it a license to kill? ;-)

Flirting itself is a cheating....

BB has bleep service also...:(...when was that introduced...:)

No Painther...they know my flirting is harmless....lolz

BoxB no secrets in Public....

why GG, do they have special feathers :)

or keeping an eye on each other but to know that we can check if we want to. Somtimes when I hear a ping or bleep on my bb or ipad and if I am busy in the kitchen, I tell him to see who is messaging me or what is the update on facebook.. So since there are no secrets, I don't need to be scared.

deadman loves to flirt with deadwoman...rofl...:PPPPPP

u officially flirt ...then unofficially with whom...lol..:P

O GG: I have no problems in admitting it too :P

Theo... ROFL

I officially flirt only with Khanan and Brite in the mains...:)

Well said StacyR!

Deadman loves to flirt too, but its publicly :)

Seriously speaking, I guess "trust" is the important word here. Everyone knows, how much trust they have in their partners, and vice versa. So don't break the trust that your partner has in you and start trusting them as well :)

DM justifing his flirting with all the beautiful women on QL..:)Its okay DM..we know each other..lol

LOL.

I have found another sister on QL today ...

There is a very fine line ..

both together theory and practical...every day u can see live theory and practical on malls too...:)...those are trained by me ...:))))))...?:p

We trust each other, we don't ask to give passwords, it is a gift given without asking. :)

When are the practicals ?

What's the need to check & recheck if you trust eachother ?

It varies from time to time ....

Some do it more than the others.. For instance, sleeping with somone else is definitely cheating for all but some might think that just a casual lingering of the gaze is not but then feeling attracted to anyone outside your committed relationship is definitely cheating according to me. That is precisely why my husband and I do not have any secrets, we save our passwords to our email accounts and we keep our laptops open without any passwords either.. So if I want I can just check his email and he can do the same.. Same goes for our facebook accounts, we have FB application on our iphones, ipads, blackberries and we can easily access each others profiles. So to avoid cheating, no secrets.

Iam an expert in flirting...if any one want special training please do let me know...special classes will be conducted with training :P

If you're in an open relationship, who is cheating?

Zero tolerance for any form of flirting in a committed relationship. And yes it is cheating!

Wud agree with thelo once you have started the communication with normal messages later the end would be the worst and most of them are thinking just we are friends but actually its wrong

Cheating heart or cheating genitals. Which one is worse?

Until you find you can talk about it with your partner.