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greentea...some people are just so thick faced. they forget the money they loan from you. not even an explanation for not paying. then shows up like nothing happens...be careful. they are just around...

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

i guess not hehhhee..

" i hate to say goodbye, but i love to see u go"

could we be talking of one and the same person??? hahah I HOPE NOT else... poor us... heheh.. but just try this time to say NO... that's just what i did... i feel bad, but i realized there are still other options for her... ive been helpful in the past maybe this time its ok to say NO...

but how would you feel if the person (friend or not) come to you for example to borrow money? that person tells you she need it badly, no other resources to take it from except you and tell you it will be returned after a month or two. u know he/she is getting a salary more than you. then come salary time, u did not hear from this person, u counted 3 months, 4 then a year. suddenly she pop out of nowhere and she still did not mention about the loaned money a year ago? he/she starts being soooo nice to u again. after some time he/she starts asking from u financial help again ... the same thing as the previous year... and u hear he/she have the habit of shopping from alfardan, from salam and shopping any time for expensive perfumes and jewelry... would that still justify teh saying "better to give than to receive?"

I had the same experience, my friends are telling not to make friends with her anymore, but i couldnt resist of helping

as ive said maybe its a mission for us to guide this kind of friends..

am i totally insane in doin thing that makes me sick (hehehe)

" i hate to say goodbye, but i love to see u go"

i feel ur words are from me.. i can totally relate with you... my friends have warned me not to be soft anymore.. they assured me that it's not my fault whatever situation she is in right now... she's the one who made it... ive been a good friend to her, too trusting and giving in so many times, feeling shy to say no and apprehensive to hurt her feelings.. but it did not bring me anywhere... exactly lovinni... u are right, it's hard to lose a friend, but it's harder to pretend everything is fine when it's not... and i have to find my sanity intact... so i speak up and is now trying to keep my distance as i dont see any change at all inspite of telling her how i feel...

What if its a mission for us to understand this kind of people (parasites)thats why we are always being chase by them hehehe.. what do u think greentea

" i hate to say goodbye, but i love to see u go"

Remember it is better to give than to receive, so if he is using you for so many reasons and for whatever purposes be thankful enough that you can make a difference to his life and good karma is on your way.

Life's like that but still can't give it up

my friend, i mean my parasite, is looking for me again after being absent in my life 4 a whole year... she needs somthing from me... again.. she tried but this time i refused to give in. i told her why i cant give her anything now and even telling her point blank that i dont trust her anymore... but i think she is either deaf or just plain thicked face, coz a common friend warned me that she'll be calling me again even if i refused already and this time using some family member back home as an excuse... :(

its their conscience.. hehehe i hope they do have

" i hate to say goodbye, but i love to see u go"

told I trust too easily but I won't change, just be yourself and try to explain the way you feel, not easy I know, especially whenyou don't like hurting them, but to continue how you are you will only be hurting yourself

Cant explain also brandlady.. but i guess this is how i treat old and new friends, i easily trust people who make friends with me (major problem huh?)and easily love them like family..

" i hate to say goodbye, but i love to see u go"

you sound like a well grounded caring person, sometimes people do take advantage of someones good nature, hope you figure it out x

Big Thanks

.. ill give u an update as soon i settle things..

" i hate to say goodbye, but i love to see u go"

no matter how you construct what you have to say it does not guarantee that she wont get hurt. but as the friend you would know how she thinks then you have an idea how to approach the conversation. yes its hard, im not good in confrontation too but i just have to say it. explain clearly and tell how you want things to go on. and of course dont expect an overnight change. im sure you can do it..

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

Ok maybe i would try my best to open things .. but how can i start the conversation without hurting or being mis understood? and i dont want to look bad

" i hate to say goodbye, but i love to see u go"

Im not complaining.. and sorry for that.. just want to hear others opinion lovinni :-)

And it is somewhat helping me to realize things..

as ive said im not good in comfrontation im here to understand and just go with the flow and just wait if it would be recognized ...

" i hate to say goodbye, but i love to see u go"

silvermist...its really hard to lose a dear friend because of this issue. i hope you can settle it with her. because it will be difficult for you to feel this way towards your friend and at the same time trying to be "things are fine" with her. you might get fed up in the long run...it might happen..

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

A parasite hmmmmn that makes sense...

im here to accept the fact that we are friends, and understand the attitude :-(

Maybe there would still be a room for some changes and to be mindful of the person feelings right????

" i hate to say goodbye, but i love to see u go"

silvermist...using you in what way? if you want your friend to stop then you have to tell her...let her understand. otherwise if you cant confront her the situation will never change unless she stops. and dont complain anymore...

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

hear hear ... i have seen alot of parasites around ... they use you either financially or in other means.

you have to learn how to say NO...

a good friend never uses his/her friend...otherwise he/she is not a friend at all... he/she is a PARASITE!

being an expatwife for nearly 9 yrs ... i am now pretty good with what you call 'passing aquaintances'. I sussed them out in a very short period of time.

Living is all about being yourself not pretend personality of another.

Keep your generous and approachable nature, mindful of what may hurt you.

silvermist your buddy is parasite for sure but thats innate nature ppl like them depend on family, friends. I think there is no harm in doing favours cos good deeds will reward you.

some are just passing aquaintances not true friends, real friends wouldn't ask too much of you anyway

some weird people with defenition of 'friends' ... believe me !!!

back to the original topic at last

you can use him too like

bringing you grocery

washing your car

takin care of your laundry

using his visa and master card

and ordering him to make you lunch o dinner

and making him your taxi driver around the town.

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This head banging are just GROSS !!!!

No thank you DaRuDe ... i am happy with my head.

Back talking about friends ... it is hard when you are close to a friend, and seeing him/her being taken a ride by somebody. Once i told him/her that ... and it does pissing him/her off ... and ended up my name being taken out from his facebook friendlist. Oh well ... what can you say ... :-) Life goes on.

think mine is squishier than yours, I lose again :(

Novita, just Da saying I can break walls :)

few of her head nerves are jammed am trying to open it for her with head banging want yours too

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What’s wrong with sacrificing yourself for your friend sake, IF you consider him your (best) friend?... if NOT, just leave him alone to find someone elso to use...

what is this with the head banging ???

NPA that was a good one use him

and Brandy if i bang my head with your head dont know who will see the stars revolving around our heads.

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apply for a bank loan and have him as a guarantor.hehehe

would your head if I cracked you on that too??? ;)

she is all ROCK hard smack her on the wall and the wall will crack.

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Yes brandylady ... you are defenitely a softie :-) I believe in friend dont take friend for a ride / granted. FOR WHATEVER REASON ...

honesty is definitely the best policy, just sometimes I feel you need to wrap it in a little cotton wool so it doesn't hurt as much, ah maybe I am just a softie eh :)

go go go and in last i love to see you go.

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brandylady ... i dont believe is good heart to heart. Either you do it and stop complaining ! or you dont like it you tell him/her straight into his/her face that you will not do it again.

i encountered some friends who tried to do that to me. Either i step back and put distance or i tell him/her that i dont like to do it. As a result that pissing him/her off and make him/her keeping distance from me.

Thats life !

are you saying the person is wholly dependent on you??

If so guess that makes things more difficult, a good heart to heart may help x

oK maybe i do really have a problem... cant tell what i really feel (that sucks of me) Mr.darude, tnx for the advice but........ i could'nt do that :-( , comfrontation is not my cup of tea also.. huhuhu

"Dependent" i guess is the exact word...

Thank u guys, for all the opinions,, it is very much appreciated..

" i hate to say goodbye, but i love to see u go"

spent hours sowing tartan down the sides of my jeans!!!

Bay City Rollers... Swoon.. loved the tartan trousers..

try explaining how you feel, if they are a true friend they will understand

 i forgot the name of justin timberlake previous group. it was their song.

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Bay City Rollers 'bye bye baby, baby goodbye'

oh my youth just came back to haunt me

I think its Bye Bye Birdie or G'G'g'good Bye, G'G'Good bye, baby don't cry...

Need I sing more? My voice is a bit hoarse today..

start using him too. and if denies Sing him that songbye bye bye

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No need to get depressed. Perhaps he/she have become dependent on you, or see you as a "door mat"..

Why not just step back, take a break and then talk to him/her to find out how your relationship is and where you both want it to go. Its possible, that you both have different ideas and objectives.

Put your foot down ... you need to spell it out in front of her / his face. If you dont like it just say it ...