One night stands - Etiquette
Far be it from me to start what could be a potentially "fiery" topic, do you think we could have a civilised discussion about "etiquette" or handling behaviour after you have just had a one time encounter with someone?
Before anyone starts to wonder, yes a few nights back I had such an encounter. Now in my years of being a healthy s*xually mature and active adult, I have always conducted this "exercise" within a relationship, but since I haven't been in one for a while, and since I am a healthy, s*xually mature adult, I required some, umm.. "servicing" for want of a better word;-0 Seriously what is a girl to do?
Anyway to cut a longish story short, deed done, man in bathroom and there I am sitting on the bed in a somewhat undressed state... duh..., and I have no idea how to react, or what to do. So I got dressed and left, well more like ran from his place;-0 again, seriously, what is a girl to do?
Needless to say, I had a very desperate man calling and texting me to find out what he did wrong and why I left. Embarrassed, I told him that I was sorry, and things went a bit far, and I didn't know how to face him, lol.
Can anyone please tell me how I should have handled this situation, cause I now no longer feel like a mature adult, but more like a child that was caught with her hand in the cookie jar, so to speak:-)
girl just be a woman about it tell him str8 up that it was just sex move on hopefully he gets it
Hey Molly, I wonder if you could share your story in detail. Im sure it would be very interesting indeed.
girl did you like it??.. if yes then make sure to talk to him!!!
still learning...
A merry can muslim, well... I didn't get ur point. U r just agreeing with me indirectly.
Abu America said "prostitutes r better than those who do it for free, cuz they get paid"
I said "those who do it for free r worse than prostitutes, cuz they dont get paid"
It's the same thing.
lol.
fear karma, it bites u in the butt.
You're right...that would make a fantastic MC commercial! Almost 20 years later, it still cracks me up when I think about it..back then...not so funny!
Just gotta be sensible, thats all.
PS still got an empty in box :(
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Either I ve never engaged in one before either
Molly that has to be made into a one of those MasterCard commercials!!!
Buying her a glass of champagne... $15
Taxi ride to the drugstore to buy some condoms... $35
Taking her to the hospital after she fell off your fire escape trying to evade you... Priceless
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and even though it goes back to the original post, I don't think there is a best way to sneak out after the deed is done. Back in the day....and I'm sounding more like my Mother every day...I crept out a window on to a fire escape but when I pulled the ladder down, it came apart and I landed rather hard and broke my ankle. So...what's a gal to do?...I had to go ring his buzzer to get me a ride to the hospital...double ouch!!! So much for the discreet escape. Seriously, don't sweat it all...you at least answered his calls and gave him an explanation.
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aawww bless......get urself out and have a pint for me lol
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My Goodness!!! You guys are still at it eh? Really guys it was quite entertaining!!!
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for loving and no one to share it with..... :(
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SN that is far from clear either.... I mean the original poster can state her intentions and we can accedpt them at face value... But who knows the other individuals true intentions.... And whether his goal was to take advantage of her in some way....
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Good for you for keeping it in your trousers! The original post was consentual so no one was taking advantage of anyone.....
SN.... I most certainly would not...
Played those games as a youngster and then realized that these women are people's daughters, sisters, aunts, mothers...
And I wouldn't like it if people were taking advantage of my family like I was to these others people's family....
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alexa/supernurse lol....i call it life experience. or i've just gotta start hanging out with different people.
lol flanostu....nice one lol
I see the high and mighty brigade have been sniffing about.....like you would turn it down if it was put on a plate?...methinks not....AND these are all men banging on as if butter wouldn't melt!!
a friend of a friend once shat in a girls bed and left.
His excuse was the sex wasn't that great. it was due to a combination of the alcohol and the woman he picked up.
or 2 back, yes, he's called back, numerous times.
LOL Nelson is the man!!!
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Nelson Muntz: And rumors of your wussiness are one-hundred percent true.
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GUYS PLEASE BE HONEST
In the immortal words of NELSON.
HA HA
Mis-Cat and all he has to do is open his pocket book, open his Ferarri door, or go to the next town..........
We used to have a motto, why pay for what you can get for free.... I love sexual liberation. The men have fooled the women into believing they are actually liberated for giving something up for free that a guy before had to either offer some compensation for, time, money, feigned interest, Happy Meal, Roller Coaster ride, Prom Date.
To the original poster has the guy called again after that night. If he did then to him it was more than just a one night stand. If he did not again in the immortal words of NELSON HA HA.
Calling on that night does not equate to worry or care. It could equate to being scared .... that you are running to the police for rape. I have seen stranger things...
no personal attacks please...
And he... he... walks on his hands... and... and... brushes his teeth with his feet!!!
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And your nose hairs are.... are... long..... So you couldnt possibly satisfy a woman!!!
LOL
Good times....
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Please do explain what a 'sexually strong' woman is....
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As I was on the READ MODE the entire day today ;-)
though I wanna butt in and join the discussion, workload beckoned stronger so to speak...hehehehehe
And since this thread would go on longer than everyone expects...let's see where this one leads to...
I could go on to say the reason why men like abuamerican hate sexually strong women, is because they are afraid of making the grade in bed.
Truth to Fact 1 - If a women fails to make the grade in bed, a guy will tell his mates but that won't stop his mates from wanting to ride the pony.
Truth to Fact 2 - If a guy fails to make the grade in bed a girl will tell her friends and his barred for life.
he never said the word worse as far as I can see.
He said they were smarter and deserved more respect than someone who just gives it up for free...
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shucks...
:-P
Sorry mate but there is a strict screening process for sperm donors and I hate to be the one to tell you this but you failed to make the grade.
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brave brave brave
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It'll be a great start for a new thrad..
a certain nationality hooker, and i get approached all the time with offers.
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A merry can muslim, Abu did say that and I agree with him, atleast prostitutes get paid. In that manner they are better than the women who have one night stand.
fear karma, it bites u in the butt.
as well.
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Is Qatar so boring as to warrant such an over the top response to something that happens evrywhere to everyone at some time - everyday? So bloody what, ya got ya rocks off, ya did what ya needed to do at the time. Ya not in a relationship and never hurt anyone. If ya regret it, then don't do it again, if not then wrap up well and enjoy yaself honey.
carry on all of you
i will trash each single one of you in last.
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The majority of us have not been discussing the women's choice of partaking in fulfilling their sexual lusts.
Some people just got upset because they were told that other people's opinions were that they were economically worse off than prostitutes and/or people in traditional relationships.
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Wether it be with a wife, hooker orwhatever.
If a woman wants a hassle free fun time, then who are we to judge, cos i bet none of us are perfect are we ?
As for women who are hookers, if they are happy making money this way, then good luke to them.
The hookers here charge the Yanks BD100 a night. Times that by 30 and thats a bloody excellent tax free wage !! better than most peoples salary, including mine !!
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One big bucket of caramel flavored BOBCORN this time....whehehehehe
well Korly, one night stand as the name indicates is a thing which happens once only. hence, it is better experianced with perfect strangers while travelling or with very close friends where you can actually be civilised and comfortably talk about it. anyways, should you find yourself in this situation again, the best would be to stay there, express your feelings whatever it is and then walk away. running doesn't make any difference to anyone except yourself for it will always mark what happened as being a mistake. as you said, this is a natural part of life and very basic if I may say, however, the social and emotional aspects involved are not. it could have been a good idea to tell that man that you had a good time (if you did) and that you will leave with a good memory and you would like to keep it that way.
Gypsy could you please quote Abu's WHOLE post where he said that, " women who have one night stands are worse then prostitutes" as you allege?
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Gypsy I was proving my point and I did, btw god has a say in everything, he created us. He's right, women who have sex outside the wedlock are no more than prostitutes. Not only Islam, but every religion that has a god says that. The only difference is that the price they are getting paid is so called "love", which is a bunch of bullocks in the real world.
fear karma, it bites u in the butt.
Thanks for putting into words what I have been thinking..
just bcause some people do it for fun or whateve reason, it cannot be justified as itch/need or whateve crap you call it. Makes no differance between animals and humans who cannot control thier sexual urge.
No wonder some women find it difficult to find a good match and envy married ladies by comparing them with pros.
What ecnomic benift are you talking in a marriage? when both of partnes spend money... who is benifiting?
The total story rises many questions..
and u never get satisfied answers
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"This thread is intolerable" - move away. rest keep the fire burning :)
I find this thread completely unethical at all levels.
Qatari- This thread is intolerable and should not be allowed on the site. I do believe this one is extremely offensive, very much so!
This is not only for me, but for the reputation of this site and what it represents.
Salaam
I do need my BOBCORN (with butter) and a tall BEBSI, please ;-P
Sorry..just trying to be funny ;-P
Whatever, why dont' we agree to disagree, I think you're point of view is crass, barbaric and insulting and you think I'm a whore. Ok?
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Surely, One night stand simply means "a physical sexual interaction" without strings attached and without long term emotional attachment.
You have the definition of a one night stand more or less correct, but what you don't understand is the emotional issues that can be involved. For example, what if a girl just got out of an abusive relationship, she has incredibly low self esteem, feels like crap about herself etc. She's not emotionally ready to handle trying to find another relationship, but a one night stand can help to make her feel good about herself and in control of her life again. There can be emotional benefits.
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thexonic, god doesn't have any part in this conversation, if it did then Abu could just agree that the reason he thinks girls who have sex out of wedlock can be compared to prostitutes is becuase of his religious hang ups and have done with it.
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I didn't try to insult your wife. You started comparing people to prostitutes, I simply continued with your analogy.
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Gypsy, I do agree with u at some point, but thats not a real marriage. Like I said a real marriage takes alot of compromise to run. People who treat their wives like crap are not husband, they are just convicts of karma, which will bite them in the a*s. Similar to the prostitutes, they just dont know when god's fury will be unleashed upon them.
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As for just saying hookers were smarter: "YOU are the one who is lower in status than the prostitute"
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You are the one who assumes a girl having a one night stand is only attaching physical trade off to it. I'm saying there's more to it then that. If anything it's you who see's sex as simply something to trade for money or meaingless words.
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Abu in a world where everything is purely about money, then I would agree with you, but seeing as you have the morals to think your own wife is seperate from a prostitute, then I think you see where the insult may lie in this.
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As for what wives "get", I think they get the most intangible thing of all, they get some words. They don't neccesarily get pleasure, food, money, comfort, emotional connection, conversation or anything. Most girls who do a one night stand get more then just some words.
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Abu man, dont get personal, thats not fair.
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Where did you say what Abu? that women who have one night stands are worse then prostitutes, look back through your own posts.
Also if you are going to put monetary amounts on what hookers and wives get then you need to put it on what women get from a one night stand, which is more then just bodily secretions. You are the one who started comparing women to prostitutes, not me.
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Gypsy, he didn't clarify his point, rather he was defending his wife, anyone would do that.
The whole point is, a wife cannot be compared to a prostitute. Prostitution is just limited to the sexual pleasure, where as marriage is a big responsibility, a wife has alot of responsibilities towards the husband and vice versa. Alot of compromise and sacrifice is needed to run a marriage.
And he has a point that at least prostitutes get paid "liberally speaking".
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According to Abu's own logic thexonic, his wife is either a prostitute or worse then a prostitute. So whatever one he holds more morally upright, then I hope that's what he thinks she is.
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Gypsy exactly thats the whole point, u dont believe in any religion. hence, your point about "married women being prostitutes" is not logical to others, its just your belief, which is limited to u and people who have similar beliefs as u. But not Abu America, he's a muslim and according to islam wives are not prostitutes.
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And I'm saying that by that logic, that means wives are prostitutes, if you assume that wives don't walk away from the table empty handed, like Abu suggested.
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Actually wives are at the greatest disadvantage because they put out more often, for less then what most girls get from a one night stand. So really wives should start charging money as well.
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Now do me a favor please... Go back to page 2 of this thread and see what Abu is saying. Hopefully you will see he is speaking from an economic stand point.
And that it is the woman who partake in that who are at an economic disadvantage as they leave money on the table...
GTG
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I get it, they receive the same thing that most women receive from a one night encounter, just over a longer period of time. There's no difference.
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I have no problems agreeing with it from a purely economic standpoint. However, from a moral/values standpoint, the vast majority of women do not have sex for the purpose of making money, so therefore a girl who has a one night stand is no different from a wife in that she has sex for other less tangible reasons. So, if you disrespect one by implying what she's doing is wrong, you disrespect the other as well.
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Stay with me!! Concentrate real hard!!! Wives do not usually receive money... they receive compensation... And they are in a traditional relationship with gives and takes more than just of sexual secretions.....
Are you still with me???
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I am appealing to you form an economic standpoint Gypsy. Out of respect for what I assumed and that you just confirmed. Your atheism, that is.
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Yup, I agree that ALL women who dont' have sex for money are at an economic disadvantage, including wives.
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Which makes them from an economists standpoint a smarter participant.
As opposed to the woman who gives up the booty and only gets the sexual gratification form her lust and then that is not even garaunteed on all encounters.
So know you agree with Abu that women who give it up for no compensation are worse off, ie at an economic disadvantage.
Viola, finished we can all go home know, right?
=)
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I'm not god, nor do I believe in one. Therefore I don't make judgements like that, nor believe in the one's made my a figure of some peoples imagination.
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Gypsy may be if u were god, in ur book it would be prostitution, but not in the bible or quran. Depends on what we believe in. Different point of views, we eat cows, hindus worship them...
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That's what I'm saying thexonic,INCLUDING sex in marriage.
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Gypsy, any sexual relation weather its one night stand, love, getting drunk and having sex with random women, or knowing a girl for 15 years and having sex is prostitution.
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It only borders on "insanity" because you are allowing traditional morals and values play a part in your decision.
If you look at it from the purely economic standpoint, it's actually the traditional prostitute who wins out and the wife and one night stand girl who loose out, because they are looking for things other then just money.
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No I disagree with you Gypsy I believe you totally missed the point on purpose but I guess I should give you the benefit of the doubt.
To sit there and still compare a woman who is in a traditional relationship and a woman who has a one night stand borderlines on insanity...
But for some reason I do not think you are insane... Just upset...
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I was correct in my assessment that from a purely, buy and trade, service for gain, assessment Abu's wife is a prostitute.
Of course it's not politically correct to refer to her as such, however it's not very correct to refer to a girl who's had a one night stand as "worse then a prostitute" is both crass and wrong from the whole economic stand point.
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And everyone is intelligent enough to know that you meant it in a way other than what I have mentioned.
Are you just trying to gather QL points or what?
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Gypsy but like I said, It is crass to compare them. Economically it may apply by defintion but none the less it is still crass.
And by accepted societal norms it is not considered correct to do so.
What assessment were you correct in Gypsy?
Have you totally missed the point or are you bored?
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Actually it was Abu who became offeneded when I referred to his wife as a prostitute. Thank you though, for clarifying that I was right in that assessment.
Also, as you said, a marriage is more then just money, there are other gains, as there are with a one night stand, which would mean that people who engage in one night stands are not less then prostitutes, and in fact are as much of a prostitute as anyone else.
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Thank heavens for prossies I say, some of the blokes would be left free and single to hassle us if they didn't exist...and I bet they make good wives too if the moneys right......
Looks like things are getting on the heat in here...
LOL!!!
Having read thru the variety of dialogue exchanges that has been done in this thread...
Whether anyone likes it or not, anyone approves it or not...
Getting PERSONAL onto WIFE/MOTHER/DAUGHTER isnt called for, so I think on that note, Gyps, you stepped over the line...no MATTER WHAT!!!
And regd the original relation of Economy and ONE NIGHT STAND, well you guys are going at it anyways...
But seriously Gyppo, OUCH!!!! THAT Comment of yours bringing in Abu's Wife is just Plain UNCALLED FOR!!!
Gypsy I am not aware of your credentials as far as economics and human behavior but I assure you they are forever intertwined
In fact Economics is the study of human behavior where profit and loss are added to the equation.
Please do not pin that on Abu. It is something that is traded for and bought, of course. It is not his fault for mentioning it first ( i think he did anyway) in this thread.
I am sure people do go into marriages or relationships for economic benefit yes. As Abu said this thread should be linked to other one we had under the 92 year old man marrying.
I think perhaps where you went wrong in this thread Gypsy is that you have yourself taken the word prostitute and deemed it to be a nasty word as most of society does.
But look at the definition of the word w/o any societal limitations.
It is a woman (usually) who engages in the sexual gratification of men (usually) for economic benefit.
Does that mean that women in relationships are prostitutes? No, of course not. The mutual gratification is more than just sexual as I said earlier.
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The milk/cow theory, like Abu's degrades sex into something bought and traded for. So therefore a marriage, and any other sexual transaction is an economic transaction. So everyone's a prostitute.
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Whether you see it as such is irrelevant to human behavior and the laws and theories of economics I'm afraid.
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Like I said earlier from an economists view the woman is at a disadvantage. She has done what we call 'leaving money on the table".
She would have been able to be compensated (in most cases) for her own lust and enjoy it too!
The compensation that a traditional couple receive from their relationship is far beyond that aspect of lust. Or hopefully it is anyways.
There is much more give and take in the traditional relationship.
I suppose the whole milk and cow theory would need to be applied as well.
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And wives and prostitutes are at an economic gain. I'm so glad I don't view sex and love as an economic advantage or disadvantage, or encourage people to engage in prostitution. I like to see people as people, rather then objects to purchase.
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He is saying that a woman who has a one night stand and does not receive compensation is at an economic disadvantage.
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Who's to say that you don't get compensated from a one night stand then. If we are getting away from the aspect of money, then there are lots of ways people are compensated by a one night stand.
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Would it be any different if it was an item that was worth money? The money aspect is irrelevant. Let's call it compensation.
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Just stating a general comment
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So he's saying wives are prostitutes, since they give up sex for economic gain.
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I realize that KH, but I think Abu AMERICAN knows exactly what he's saying.
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Blimey I write one post here and ABU sends me a long PM to me!
I am out of here!
No, he is saying that it would be smarter to do so on an economic level.
And STRICTLY from an economic standpoint they are very similar and in that way only.
A woman and a man who are in a traditional relationship both receive 'compensation' for being in that relationship and that far outweighs the gratification, or 'compensation' a woman receives from a one off sexual encounter.
And that places a woman who partakes in one night stands and does not receive some form of compensation for it at an economic disadvantage.
Where in all likelihood she would be able to receive some form of compensation as men are traditionally the sex that is willing to pay for sex. So he is saying that if you are going to give up the booty make the man give up the booty...
I did not read all the comments. Don't have time.
BUT. A general comment. We are all coming from various cultures and various backgrounds. I feel that there is too much room for misunderstandings since not all of us have the same level of English language comprehension. Let aside the terms used that can be interpreted in various ways.
So take it easy. Not you specifically Gypsy. Everybody here.
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So when is the day of judgment again? hmmm....
Interesting story there korly, get married!!!
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Of course KH, but Abu thinks we should be paid with money for sex.
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I think there is a term "pay respect"
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Abu is saying we should get paid for enjoying sex. What's the difference is if the sex is in the confines of a relationship or a one night stand? Either way if we don't get paid, we are "worse then prostitutes."
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I am quite sure that is NOT what Abu is saying Gypsy.
To compare sexual relations between a couple who love each other and support each other on more than a physical level and people who partake in one off sexual encounters is very crass.
And from the majority of the posts you have made on this forum I believe my gut instinct about you. You are smarter than to believe the speech you have made in your conversation with Abu.
I know you are trying to make a point but you AOA (angle of attack) is leading you off target in my opinion.
I enjoy
eating chocolate....
drinking coffee...
monging about on the sofa doing b*gger all...
chatting to my friends....
shoe shopping....
and 'em a bit of hanky panky...
None of which I get paid for.......UNFORTUNATELY
I get paid for my job which I sporadically enjoy.
So Abu can I enjoy something and NOT get paid?
is that ok...
surely happiness is internal and enjoyment/pleasure is external.
As long as I take pleasure and dont' confuse it with happiness then I am doing ok????
No no Oryx, Abu thinks that if you enjoy it you should get paid for it.
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Do you think it is ok for women to enjoy sex?
or do you perceive that 'nice' girls do not enjoy it?
Well then if that's your logic, you shouldn't mind me referring to your wife as a prostitute or worse then one. Depending on whether you pay her or not.
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Abuamerican Thats Mis-Cat to you.
Since you find being called a prostitute so offensive, I think you can probably figure that one out yourself.
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That you've given to much thought to the situation and intend on running your own brothel trouble is No one wants to work for you as when you mention the clause thats states they have to sleep with you at least once a week their reaction is EEWWWW......
So you find referring to someone as a prostitute insulting, yet you have no problems saying that myslef and other single women should become one. Yet you're insulted if I ask if you're wife is one. Make up your mind. Do you pay your wife for sex or don't you?
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Abu American- First of all you are impling that pro's actually enjoy what they do when in fact for most of them it is a means to an end. Second of all most pro's will make more in one night then you make in a week so who's the stupid one? All work is prostitution of some sort everyone offers their services to an employer and gets paid for it.
i dont wana get harsh with you both so plz.
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You're the one saying that for a women to enjoy sex she should get paid, so I'm asking if you pay your wife? Persumably you don't, which means she's lower then a prositute as well.
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love, lust or just Inebriation here ?
Is it OK for a man to have one nighters and not a woman ?
Actaully I'm equating your wife to a prostitute. Perhaps you didn't read closely enough.
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lol no need to be sorry. it was kinda fun though :P
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didn't mean to make it a hot topic;-)
Now, now children play nice. Gypsy, there are bound to be some people on the site that don't agree with what I have posted, I mean come on, the world is made up of all types, and people will differ.
Abu, having a one night stand for enjoyment, and getting paid for it are 2 very different things. Although, my dad always used to say, "women truly do sit on a gold mine":-)
Once again, if a women enjoys sex she should be paid for it? I really pity your wife if that's the case. Do you just leave the credit card on the night table?
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No thinking that women should be paid for having one night stands is uber conservative and frankly demeaning. Just because a women enjoys sex doesn't mean she's a prostitute, or else there's a lot of wives out there who should be getting paid.
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If you don't give a rats arse then why do you feel the need to make your uber-conservative comments?
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Meooowwww...
where is Corne, BTW...I miss her cat :-P
Look up Da, look waaaayyyy up. You'll see a kitty pouncing on a baby. :P
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who the hell said that may i know the name?
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Join the club, and proud of it dammit ;)
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Yep thats me alright a white western slut, who will sleep with anything with two legs and a heartbeat.;P
Well I mean, so far we've been referred to as hookers and received an eewwww. :P Some people are just too far up their own arse to let others enjoy themselves I guess.
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i know you're grinning in front of your computer like that cat characted in "Alice in Wonderland"
;-P
I love how uncomfortable this thread is making some people :)
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Maybe the escape thing makes you uncomfortable.
I dont see anything wrong, just next time a plain good bye and thanks for the night might ease your guilt. hahahaha....
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you still alive and in Qatar and most of all still remember me too. but more then me sl missed you.
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you were both SOBER?!! OMG! no excuse then......poor bloke....
crudely narrated :-)
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Now Korly will jump in and say "as far as i am aware, I am free to post what I like"
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Yes, interesting thread. This one of things that keeps coming back to this forum.
we missed you...
Sorry i didnt even read the topic but just wanted 2 say hi 2 u DaRuDe hahaha ur still here.... :)
Friends With Benefits (FWB), benefits for whom?
http://www.qatarliving.com/node/24137
and someone did:
friends with benefits....
http://www.qatarliving.com/node/85643
It falls under this category...
dont think if any one will come up with such topic a male or female. But she got guts.
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we got one SANE TOPIC :-P
This was today's hot topic you stole the day
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K, I say, unless you planning another such "encounter", why bother?
Whats done is done, if it should happen another time, let experience teach you! hopefully you will know what to do.
was an interesting read, and not at all surprising.
I would rather watch female strippers or bellydancers than the "chippendales". Lol, now that explains why I ran, lol;-)
I have posted enough on this forum by now, to be known as a forum contributor. Don't assume that everyone that tries to have a controversial forum discussion is a troll.
I think it also helps if you know it's just going to be a servicing before you act on it. The truth is for most the act of sex is something that most consider to be apart of "Love" so a one night stand leaves them feeling guilty as they worry about the others feelings and their own. To me SE is Just that sex it has nothing to do with wether you love a person or not it is a primal urge an itch if you will and one that needs to be scratched. I was reading an article today actually on a study as to what arouses women most needless to say the outcome while to me was not all that surprising but to most it would be. I have attached the link for those interested.
http://www.theage.com.au/national/bi-the-way-what-does-push-womens-buttons-20080614-2qo9.html
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where did u actually meet him...i wanna try a one nighter lol
Mis-cat, will try your suggestion next time, not sure if there will be a next time though:-).
Thing, is, this guy is so sweet, and we get on really well. He has been calling me everyday since then, asking to see me again, lol, at least I know I didn't do that badly, or I would assume that, if he wants to see me again.
Anyway, hope this topic helps someone else that decides to try a one nigther, in that they will think about it before actually doing it, and try to figure out what they will do after the fact.
I guess not.
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probably because we are not fun loving people..we dont understand that..lol
The answer is simple, "Pure unadulterated Pleasure and self satisfaction with no strings attached." It's as simple as that.
Cause it's fun. :)
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It sound very simple for most the ladies in here.What if you feel seeing him again?
But for some of us its something we would do it only our lover. How could you enjoy it if no emotions connected with it? If its just for the pleasure of doing it you have other alternatives for it. What is logic behind this one night stand?
What is with that? They are allowed to do it to you but you can't do it to them.
Guys just can't handle being the one's turned down.
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Yeah I've also had a few of those, even one when I didn't give him my number kinda stalked me apprently he went to the same place we meet for the whole week till I turned up again. (It was all a bit sureal actually).
I always get the opposite Mis-Cat. It's more like Korly, they can't understand why you left and keep calling and texting till you have to ignore them, although if you hadn't done a runner they probably never would have called you back!
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Sorry but as an expert in the one night stand department, I think your stories hilarious, as I used to do this as well, then i got to the stage one the deed was done I just used to say " Look! you do know this was just a one off, I'm going to leave now, don't bother asking me for my number as you won't get it and consider yourself lucky." and get up dress and leave. You should have seen the looks on most of the guys faces t was like you had just done them the biggest favour in the world.
I think you did right to do a runner. He sounds like a bit of a sap to me;) I mean.. would anyone else phone and text someone who had just done a runner on them?! Whoa.. hold onto your bunnies, girlfriend, this could get hairy.. (so to speak)...
and the responses range from lectures, to advice to absolute humour. Thanks all of you for your input.
Yip, Alexa, you got it right, no relation or strings connected between the two though;-) Try not to spit in the well, as I never know when I might have to drink the water.
Kareena, learn from my experience, think first, act after;-)
Kellysheroes, as far as i am aware, I am free to post what I like, but thanks for the advice.
that to on their Bday
breaking up on the answering machine..."Hello, Hey, Dumped, Bye" Beeeep
In one of the episodes of S-- and the City, a guy breaks up with Carrie on a post it note.. How bad can it get?
this thread is a smart way to hijack all or most of QL topics.
Korly. Am afraid you are not the only one. This thing usually happens with males and females. People tend not to talk about it.
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Look its no big deal Korly.
There are people who terminate relationships with SMS and Telephone call...or just bail out without any explanation
Now that is horrible.
this was only a one nighter... no big deal
Just say, 'I am still interviewing... I will call you if you got the job as full time lover boy'...
Karina
I felt sad initially, but then I noticed that you said
“I see a very good looking, attractive, hot, tall, dark, handsome and very s---y man in the lift.. We both look at each other and feel lust at first sight.. He turns out to be a hotel guest and he invites me over to his room”
S---Y = Scary, Soppy, Skint, Spiny,
I am all of those and I like to loiter near lifts..
So, Please PM me at once..
When are you going for your next training? please let QL know the dates in advvance am sure there will be a big que in front of the lift ... ROFL
You guys are really very helpful with genuine advice...
We need more people like Korly to keep this place moving
You should have written a good bye note and locked the bathroom from outside LOL I cant think of a better idea..LOL
with these one night stands...
The following story should be a warning..
After an enjoyable and vigourous one night stand, Peter wanted to light a cigarette but he could not find a lighter. He asked the girl sleeping next to him if she had any lighter. The girl replied that he could find one in the top drawer. When Peter opened the top drawer, he found a lighter. He also saw that there was a man's photograph inside the drawer.
Peter asked curiously, "Is he your husband?"
"Of course not, you idiot." the girl answered while still lying tenderly in his arms.
Peter asked again, "Is he your boyfriend?"
"No. He is not." the girl replied in a sexy low voice while kissing Peter.
"Then, who is that guy?" Peter was very interested in finding out the answer.
"That was me before the operation!"
Well cant say much about that I see...kinda something that went clean thru me like a whistle...
Only thing, let me know the next time you are in a lift...LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why shouldn't she do it again Triple8, and no one seems to care that she's posted it in public.
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See there is no harm in dreaming, imagining and fantasizing.. Is there?
You know what is my all time fantasy.. Here it goes..
I am in a lift of a five star hotel, going up to the restaurant to meet a friend for lunch.. I see a very good looking, attractive, hot, tall, dark, handsome and very s---y man in the lift.. We both look at each other and feel lust at first sight.. He turns out to be a hotel guest and he invites me over to his room.. We have tbe best time of our lives but never even both to ask each others' name...Just a one night or one time stand..
I think I'll write a book on "Oryx says" jokes LOL!!!
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Korly, you said the next day you spoke to him and he says its ok and understand how you felt .... this means all is settle between you both, so why are you in such a dilemma now and posting your private affair in public.
By right you should just forget the incident and carry on with life and never do it again.
Next time just get up and say
'gotta go...my husband's waiting at home with the kids... and he gets nervy 'cos he is only just out of prison'.
if you were a female then i would have sent you something :D
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Of course KSA.
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Order lots of Thankyou notes..
We men are romantics at heart..
but I rather keep mum about it....
:-P
Words of Experience might I add...LOL!!!
*sigh*
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i was thinking the same...Kareena PM inbox flooded with msgs ppl offering their services along with their experience...:)....
lol....
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WTF was that...LOL...a casual thingy might be fun, hmmm...ofcourse its a lot fun when you are in it...try stepping out of it...LOL!!!That was funny girl...I have to admit that made me laugh out of my senses...LOL!!!
starts to fill up with offers in 3....2.....1
You know something Korly... If I were in your place I would have told the guy even before we started that listen man, this is just plain s---, no strings attached. You don't ask me my name and I don't need to know yours.. Just use protection and get it over with..
Come to think of it, I have never done it really. Maybe I should give it a try.. A casual thingy might be fun.
Why worry about it, no-one got hurt(i dont think) you are 2 grown adults(i hope) and more so it has happened, be polite if you see him, explain if you dont think its going any further, and enjoy your life, its not as if either of you did not consent, just next time, make sure you have a bite to eat or a cup of coffee before you leave...time is a great healer, im sure it will be at the back of your mind in a week or so, i hope you enjoyed it, which im sure you will of done....take care.
Sorry, Korly was actually refering to one of my own experiences ;) long story. :P
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At least you answered his call and explained yourself. About all you could really do different is just tell him in person before you leave.
Sometimes it might be better to let it be known up front that you aren't looking for any kind of relationship but that isn't a huge deal (especially to us guys).
If you find yourself in that situation again, either wait for him to get out of the shower and say your goodbyes or just stick your head in the bathroom and say "thanks, but I gotta run...maybe we'll see each other around".
Either way, I wouldn't get wrapped around the axle too much. This is "generally" more of an issue when it is the guy sneaking out.
impersonal but you have your imagination yes??? ;)
and what's to hate??? impersonal maybe, effective 100% ;)
I hate those things, they are so impersonal, lol. But at least it won't be offended when i leave;-0
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Dear _______
I was an object of your imagination. I am actually a ghost who is seen only when it requires sexual... Now that I have achieved that I am being called back by my fellow ghosts. I have to go and hope you understand what this meant to me.
Bye for now,
Korly
P.S. - In attachment:
- medical control report;
- pregnancy test = Negative "
Having said that, I need to find myself a damn compound in Wakrah...LOL!!! Hey Just kiddin alright...no offence...:P
You sure were in the right person's bed for whatever it may be worth...;) :P
if you were both stone cold sober then am sorry but I don't know what to say!!!
In the cold light of day, didn't seem like such a good idea did it??
Maybe you need to get a little friend ;) the one that holds batteries?? yes??
DID I just hear BIRTHDAY, whose...you know right, Hum Cake Khaane Ke liye kidhar bhi aa sakte hain...LOL!!!
I'm doing absolutely alright, or rather just about ok as you can see, spreading my fun colors on QL as usual...
So when you coming down here...christ how in the world is your dear hubby letting you out of sight for so long girl...?LOL!!!
thats almost as good as britexpats thank you mints idea.
hahaha, Gypsy, he didn't need the money, believe me, his family own the compound he lives in.
Hey KSA I'm doing very well, thanks. Just bogged down with work and birthday n stuff... How're u?
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Take it easy here, you sure are getting into the details of the ONE NIGHT STAND...LOL!!! And you Gypo...well are you dragging the details out or what girl...LOL!!!
make a letter template nd carry it with you...fill in the blanks with the name of the guy and leave it on the bed when u leave.
"Dear _______
I was an object of your imagination. I am actually a ghost who is seen only when it requires sexual... Now that I have achieved that I am being called back by my fellow ghosts. I have to go and hope you understand what this meant to me.
Bye for now,
Korly"
Well then I think you probably handled the situation as delicatly as it good have been handled. At least you didn't leave money on the bed stand. :P
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Hmmm now that being said and looks more like it that you sure are getting back your humour content which is rather a pleasure to see...
so wayyy to go, but wait a min, did ya jus say that it wont happen again...:( Shucks...I was planning to shift to a house nearby yours...LOL!!!But now hmmmmm, I have to rethink, but hey who cares, might as well take the risks eyy, if you dont start the race you dont know whether you will win it or not...LOL!!!
waiting for Britexpats, expert advice. Lol, not sure I will be doing it again, but thanks for the tip;-)
Lol Gypsy, maybe should have waited till he was asleep then, but I was far to hyperactive and shaking to let him fall asleep if I had stayed.
Seriously I don't think there is a way to handle it. If he was awake you should have stayed to say good bye and then let yourself out. If he wasn't perfectly ok to sneak out without waking him. You answered his texts, so not sure what else you should or could do. :S
Well I always try to sneak out before they wake up. :P What's done is done C'est la vie. Hope you enjoyed it, and if not, then don't go back for seconds. ;)
However, if you looking for advice to make it less uncomfortable, I don't think there is a way. If you don't like the guy and he likes you, it's always going to be uncomfortable.
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the next day and he was ok and understood how I felt, his only complaint then (after the anxiety texts the night before) was that I didn't say goodbye before I left. ROFL.
No Azilana, we were both stone cold sober.
Still though, no one has given me actual information on how does one actually handle these situations. Not that it will be happening again, as I don't want to go through this all over again.
I am not sure anyone will be as brave as I am to describe their experience here, but I am curious as to how any of you might have handled the situation after it happened.
You are right Brandylady, it wasn't very adult of me to leave, but like I say, I was actually embarrassed by it having actually happened. I have no idea what possessed me to behave like this, even in the situation.
Shock of shocks, Tagisin, you mean this DOESN"T happen in Doha? Hmm, looks like there is a first time for everything;-)
Now now now may I say, you always give me the smile with your touch of 2 cents to dawn reality I say...LOL!!! (Now that was a complex sentence construction right, O damn me...LOL!!!)
Anyways indeed rightly put...there...so lets see what she does...and speaking of which, just to be a touch naughtier...doesnt matter if I would have to prepare Her for the next "TIME"...LOL!!!
How are you doing girl, long time its been, are you ever going to leave Garden City and get your *** here...(sorry for being impolite, but you know me right, its not personal...LOL!!!)
Gotta have a last night out in my fave Qatar watering hole....
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I'm sorry I really cant tell you how you should've handled the situation because I dont think I wud've handled the situation well if I were in your shoes becasue I dont think I'll ever wear those kinda shoes. But then again this is life and differnt people behave differently, whats ok for me may not be okay for u. So what I can say is that if you think this was a mistake and regret doing what you did, you shud not do it again. But if ur asking advice because you think its ok to do it and want to be prepared next time u do it, go right ahead!!!
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There you go. britexpat was the first one to actually give Korly some good advice on the matter!
Freaks that didnt sound anywhere close to reality and humour my friend, that sounded like that guy was more of a Male Gigolo...LOOOOOOOOL!!!!
And ofcourse Paul, thats nice indeed...so when you getting your axzz down to Doha mate...
My kind of girl. Leave after a one night stand, rather than lie around making it difficult for the poor guy..
I have a suggestion.. From now on, carry a few heart shaped mints or a small thankyou notes in your handbag.
Leave one on the pillow on your way out..:o)
And Bahrain is very well, apart from yet another sandstorm.
Plus im done with work in 50 minutes so even better for me.
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What is done , is done so don't repent just tell the poor guy that it wasn't his fault and start living your life...
One who hasn't taken risks hasn't lived
one night stand etiquette -i don't have idea,
but what i know is
something are fun the first time you do them,
then not so much the next.
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you are in bahrain stay there no need to come :D
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Should she come all the way to Bahrain for the "URGE" well dont you think I answered her post first, and I m right here in DOHA...LOL!!! To ofcourse satisfy the "URGE"...dirty boy...
Anyways how you doing Paul and that would be Mr. Paul...hows Bahrain keeping ya mate...
LOL, Mr Paul, I'm sure you'd volunteer for that. And she won't have to apologise. Yup, it's a win win.
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Naaa its not anti love or something, just better to be safe than sorry...;)
And well yes rightly put it come on Korly, pick up the phone and apologize and who knows, you wud feel so good that It might actually happen again...LOL!!! No jokes apart, it wud make you feel much much better, trust me, it would do a world of good to you girl...so now come on...pick up the phone and call...HIM...NOT ME!!! Sorry girl, I aint answering the phone now...maybe "LATER"...LOOOOOOOOOL!!!!!
so anti love at the moment.
This is lust not love and the deed itself was between 2 adults, the only childish thing is running away, sorry Korly but if you are mature enough to do it at least have the decency to be honest to the guy
to read this on a family friendly site and a bit shocked to learn that these things happen at all. I thought this only happened in movies.
Well I will have to consult my friend (formerly known as Charan). He understands these things better than most.
Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about
Hey, when you're good, these things can happen, lol. Maybe the guy only had bad experiences before.
its all about that
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I dont think there is any reason for you to not feel like a mature adult. You did it by choice and things like these are common in other countries. But I know there will be a lot of people criticizing you soon, when they log into QL lol.
the 'servicing'????
Were you (or both of you) intoxicated, in another word "DRUNK" when it happened or supposedly to happen...whatever.
sorry...just curious. Now my cat is killed ;-P
LOL...yes DaRude I Second that, the guy is indeed falling in Love, such a big big big mistake I tell ya, whats with this fcking love s5it thats in the air, paaji tell me dont people see that it is pure dust in the air rather than love...o damn the people...LOL!!!
this is getting funny now
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Korly, maybe the guy fell in love.
Well so to speak of your true intentions in the situation to have actually posted this, the way you are speaking in here, you might as well pick up the phone and let him know that, cos this is a no contraints game of life...so rather than being in a situation that you arent able to face the person, might as well be slightly loose about it and get that self confidence that you seem to have got disturbed, so what i mean so what it happens for a single night, you know having said this, this could repeat and it could get into a relation right...LOL...but no seriously girl, loosen up and rather than disturbing yourself with this, you might as well, be open about it and let the person know that all was well, and all that starts well, DID END WELL, and maybe this is the END...fair enough girl...
so take it easy...and come on, we need to see that self confidence and maturity rushing back to you alright, cant let that GO off...and infact take my word, DONT LET THAT GO OFF!!!
Cheers girl...
After all, they are adults, and both had needs to be attended to. But i dare say, some of the more conservative people on here will just look at it as an another example of immoral western womens standards.....
Watch this space....
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u shud hve scared him away...like maybe tell him you love him or hire sum guy to act like your husband...lol sorry i cudnt think of anything else
korly it happens... you are not the first nor will you be the last ;)))
however its better to talk it out and not flee the scene not everyone might take it gracefully.
remember its equally embarrassing for the guy too.
however i totally understand how you must have felt... more than anything the human mind starts regretting sex only after the act is complete.
"Can anyone please tell me how I should have handled this situation,"
Well, IMHO, 'should have's doesnt matter. What is done is done.All that matters is its over and looks like u dont feel like going to that person again.
So chill, n remind urself of this incident next time you feel drawn to some one. If you feel that u r gonna regret it n run away aftr the 'deed', u know wht to do or rather what not to do...
Somebody told me, "You are what you eat".Now I know why I'm nuts!!
thank you...you are so brave to post this...you go girl
well, if it was safe consentual sex between two adults then you just need to let the person know that was all it was and nothing more.
abynel;-)
am so sorry korly
I am the girl!
lol, whoami, after that, not sure about how much fun it was.
sorry
um abynel she is the girl!
she is the one who dumped him .. feel bad for the boy !!
"The best way to predict the future is to create it".
well if you did it for fun, say it to his face. He might want more fun :P
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Reading the statement you post makes me feel sad for the girl.She texted you and tried to call you even if you run from her after giving what you need the worst part is now you hesitate what happen.sorry i dont mean to offend and makes you feel more guilty about this but i just feel sad for the girl you just dump
expectations should have been set before the act to avoid any high hopes ..
This is how I see it ... as long as both parties understand clearly what might be the outcomes no one would feel bad later on ...
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don't know what to say
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she was brave to post the topic but wasnt brave to handle the moment and she escaped. lol
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its a normal life thing, don't doubt it happens all the time, but just not to me, clearly;-)
probably.
LOL, Korly, you're brave to share this.
then you werent suppose to be there in first place if you were that much hesitant.
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At least you answered his calls!! (What more can a girl do??) lol