Nice Guys, Nice Girls
Were you forever being told to 'be nice'? Did you always have to put aside your own frustrations, or hide your real feelings, to 'keep the peace'? Was what you wanted never considered important?
The implicit (and often explicit) message in such experiences is that 'other people matter more than me'. And you had better be nice to them, if you know what's good for you.
But this just isn't fair. Or true.
The sad fate of the nice boys and girls
On the face of it, being nice is a 'good thing'. If our societies are to work and be comfortable to live in, we need to show consideration for others, and be able to put the needs of others ahead of our own. Sometimes. But if we live our lives in such a way that our own needs, our own desires, our own values can never receive the respect they deserve, we will begin to wither.
If you don't stand up for your own right to have your needs met and your values honoured, no one else will. In fact, you will be at risk of becoming the universal doormat. And no one will thank you for it.
The value of being nice
When you actively choose to be nice in a particular situation, as opposed to being nice just because that's what everyone has come to expect of you, the value of your niceness goes up. When you are prepared to say 'no' sometimes, and stand your ground, other people begin to appreciate it much more on those occasions when you say 'yes'.
At the same time, you will notice that their respect for you, and your respect for yourself, also rises. You won't let people just walk all over you. That feels good!
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Fellas, it's good to be BAD sometimes. ;)
I am mean most of the time! lol
I cannot pretend to be nice....to please anyone!
I am a great believer of the GOLDEN RuLE....
I am NICE... But not to all people...only to those who treats me well. :)
Sometimes if u are too good some people will abuse it...
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Well, its all depends on the person whom you are dealing with. Its the greatest sin that we can make to please everyone....Being simple and nice is the best thing you can showed to your fellow but sometimes, other people are just too rude to you and you were provoked to do the same.It happens to me sometimes, but still I wanted to give respect to people of this kind coz I cannot beg down myself just to be in their Level-- (so now I'm Mean)
As what they've said- don't judge the book by its cover...
WHat is nice to you might not be pleasure/nice to others.. Sometimes, people misunderstood you for being nice as well...
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hmm...
impov, it's good to be bad sometimes but most of it, it's better being nice,
it may not bring us anywhere, but on where we stand often becomes a stronger ground,
just practice preference and proper timing, oh and doing bad things nicely is still considered nice though.
^_^ imho... l01
one can't be always NICE. One have to express his/her True feelings once in a while.
Rule of the nature applies, you can't please everybody!
i am a nice person only to people who treat me the same.. if the people i deal with are bad, im twice as bad.. :P
Rise up.... just don't step on other people...
I went through a horrible divorce with my first husband. While he was being a complete d!ckhead, my lawyer kept telling me to be nice. While my ex-husband was breaking every rule in the divorce decree my lawyer kept telling me to be nice. In the end, being nice was a good thing even though it was extremely hard to do. My ex-husband lost his joint custody of our daughter and had a restraining order put on him and had to have supervised visitation with my daughter, which he had to pay for and could not afford. Maybe he should have been nice too. After all that, he ended up giving up his rights to our daughter completely. That was one of the happiest days of my life. So I guess it does pay to be nice when people treat you like sh!t!
Motherhood...The hardest job you'll ever love! : )
I am nice, but when i meet arrogant peeps, i can be a complete biatch! ;)
...Hmmnn... i'm always nice....ok sometimes... & i'm specially nice to some pips... oh dear, i am ... mischievously nice! ☺ ☻ ;)
"...Remember, the shadows are just as important as the light..."
Witchstix always expects me to be nice or she twists my arm :( Am i not a nice guy? how can she even think such a thing! I'm as nice as they come you can take me home to meet your parents anytime!
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Being nice - never got me any where!!
Whatever you vividly imagine, Ardently desire, Sincerely believe and Enthusiastically act upon, Must inevitably come to pass.