Top 10 Reasons Why Men Have Affairs

azilana7037
By azilana7037

I'm not speaking about myself but from what I see, women seem to be better cheaters than men: they are better at keeping their affairs under wraps and generally have an agenda for their infidelity. Some affairs occur because the cheating parties truly want to leave their established partner, particularly when they are married. However, very few married men leave their wife for their mistress! That is, unless their wife finds out and leaves.

According to a poll of over 400 women conducted by an independent organization, love and intimacy is the number one reason why women have affairs, followed by sex, money and finally excitement. The differences in why women and men have affairs are varied with women seeking emotional fulfillment and most men seeking sexual fulfillment.

The top 10 reasons why men have affairs include:

1. More sex (sometimes due to lack of sex in their relationship)
2. Sexual variety through different partners or different sexual experiences
3. Too boost their ego to feel special or still attractive to the opposite sex
4. For the thrill of the chase
5. Opportunistic sex (if the opportunity occurs, they can’t pass it up)
6. To sabotage their current relationship
7. Revenge (to get back at their partner for one reason or another)
8. A feeling of entitlement (the belief they are entitled because they work hard or are the bread winner)
9. Sexual addiction
10.To escape

There is no such thing as a perfect affair. Keeping an on-going affair is a juggling act of covering up lies, explaining time away, and dealing with associated guilt feelings.

By azilana7037• 16 May 2008 15:51
azilana7037

And that goes to show, one's perspective change when the person is actually wearing the shoes and it fits :-/

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By JBH• 29 Jul 2007 14:23
JBH

Our reactions would be different as we are all different people.

Azzis way is hers, your way is yours.

Call me Maninibat!

By WaRider• 29 Jul 2007 14:05
WaRider

lesson : satisfy your partner or somebody else will :P

By azilana7037• 29 Jul 2007 00:39
azilana7037

But you're right, happy happy...cheating is still cheating...but only if he/she admits it. :-)

Most often than not, they will will blame the other for their slip ups....trying to justify it by pointing out this and that.

I remember my mother saying once to me and my siblings back in the days my father is doing the merry-go-wifey (lol): "As long as I receive your father's paycheck at every end of the month, as long as he doesn't neglects his responsibilities as a father, he can go on his merry way...because at the end of the day and after he gets tired of his "fun", he'll still goes back to his family, no matter what."

Now, my father is back with my mother...as if nothing happened...

By Happy Happy• 29 Jul 2007 00:26
Happy Happy

cheating is cheating, there is no better way of saying it or undoing it either.

Confidence is lost, trust fades and pain remains.

Sounds gloomy! sorry...:))

By azilana7037• 29 Jul 2007 00:11
azilana7037

Some folks don't call it cheating...they call it "playing around"

By WaRider• 28 Jul 2007 18:49
WaRider

Wouldn't cheating demolish all the trust that the serious relationship is built up upon!

By owen• 28 Jul 2007 18:41
owen

yes disrespect...i know its like already a big slap in my face...waiting for a miracle, for a turn around...

but..but...but..oh well, im giving too much info about hmmmm...

oh well, who knows...i still think sometimes that in a relationship it takes both ways, either i made him do those things or hmmmmm...lol..can't talk about this too much, just carried away..(got a long distance fight over some personal matters..and affects my way of thinking now)

By r7• 28 Jul 2007 18:37
Rating: 5/5
r7

Prostitues, Cheating ... two timin... dont v have any happy topics or somethng tht doesnt shoot guys down... :(

By Gypsy• 28 Jul 2007 18:35
Gypsy

Hmmmm no, I think at that point owen I would give up. People make mistakes, but then there is simply disrespecting the other person.

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

By owen• 28 Jul 2007 18:32
Rating: 2/5
owen

hope?..i have given in that hope long time ago, but you see, im still a sucker for ideal relationships and still clings on the thought that sooner He would change and come back to once wonderful relationship we have had..but then again, even if, i know everything would not be the same...hmmmmm...(sometimes this helps, really...:D i mean talking on board..lol)

By Gypsy• 28 Jul 2007 18:29
Gypsy

I would take them back to Owen. I don't like to admit it either. As long as they aren't in love with the other woman, I think there's always a hope in making it work.

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

By owen• 28 Jul 2007 18:24
Rating: 4/5
owen

as per your question gypsy, i would take him back...(been there actually, hmmm hard to admit this on board)yes, I did accept him a couple of times but you see, sometimes you have to let your man understand when is enough and already paining you emotionally...

sigh...men are really sometimes insensitive and very inconsiderate..

By schlaunik• 28 Jul 2007 15:10
schlaunik

The choice of partner is ALWAYS KEY. It is really shameful for mulims males to do this though they should take on extra wives. And wives should support their single freinds virgin or divorced by accepting them into their families and they have the ability.

People today are to greedy. And to selfish. Men included who cheat to avoid their responsibiites.

By Gypsy• 28 Jul 2007 14:58
Gypsy

I think it's always a matter of circumstances. I can never say I wouldn't cheat, and I can never say that I wouldn't take back a guy that would. I don't like the idea or approve of cheating, but stuff does happen. We're all only human.

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

By azilana7037• 28 Jul 2007 14:56
azilana7037

Luckily, I don't have that kind of issues in my current relationship. I guess him being in his prime and both of us wanting to have a simple life together makes it easier for us to handle future issues of similar nature...

By Moudir• 28 Jul 2007 14:55
Moudir

...from all of the above is: to look for 'romance', something which gets unfortunately lost in the daily routine of married life.

By Gypsy• 28 Jul 2007 14:48
Gypsy

Even if you love them and you have kids and a life with them? Sometimes thats hard to give up when someone makes a mistake.

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

By azilana7037• 28 Jul 2007 14:46
azilana7037

Because if what we do is not good enough for him...then no got clinging to someone who can't be satisfied...

By anonymous• 28 Jul 2007 14:43
anonymous

Oh crisis

By anonymous• 28 Jul 2007 14:40
anonymous

Is it the male/Female?

By Gypsy• 28 Jul 2007 14:36
Gypsy

So if men don't cheat for love or emotional reasons and just for sex, would you take them back?

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

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