Son beats mother.....
In light of the recent threat posted by DG, I have to relate a comical event that I witnessed this morning...hoping that this will bring an end to the discussion....
I was travelling near Al Waab this morning, and on the side of the road, waiting for a cab, was a arab couple, him in thobe and her in abhaya....
As I approached I happened to see that the lady was crouching down on the ground, while her husband stood next to her. It was not till I passed that I realised, that in between them, stood their son, about 4 years old, with a midsized, but less than thumb rule stick in his hand, and he was hitting his mother on the head with it...
I couldn't help but chuckle as I am sure it was just something happening to keep the little one occupied while they were waiting for a cab.... and she was smiling and laughing....
it is only my honest belief that this kid has absolutely nothig to do with being normal although she acts/seems/believes to be so!
There are lots of abnormal things inside her as long as she is living with abnormal people.
Lots of individuals, families, societies, communities, countries..etc convince themselves that they are 'OK/normal/fine/everything is perfect' while they stand on very thin & fragile foundations. Once real tests come...they collapse.
This is my honest opinion, I am calm, I am happy, I am relaxed, just had a nice swim & shower, and I am not looking for fights :-)
"Be strong but not arrogant
Be modest but not weak"
S.H
I think of it as the x factor Xena. I saw it a lot growing up, as some of you may or may not know, my family was very involved with the child welfare system in Canada and adoption agencies, etc, and I have been involved with them virtually my entire life. I've seen children taken from birth and given to wonderful wonderful adoptive parents and they wind up just like their birth parents, drug addicts, abusers etc. I've seen children taken at older ages from very troubled backgrounds and adopted and completely turn their life around and become wonderful, kind people who end up highly educated and have healthy normal romantic relationships (and in one case now the proud father of a baby girl).
Actually (and I know Mrs. won't like this one, sorry) I know a girl who was taken from her birth mother and father several times (they were addicts and the father repeatedly beat and raped her) she was in and out of foster care where she showed the same abusive tendencies to her foster parents, and social workers, until she was finally put in with a lovely gay couple. These guys took her in after no one else would because of her history of violence. It was a hard go at first, cause she fought them, but after she realized they had no intentions of getting rid of her or hurting her, she started to calm down, when they applied to adopt her she actually cried with joy, she was so happy (she was 11) She's in her late teens now and is starting uni. No more violence, no more problems. She's a happy, healthy teenager with the best parents a kid could ask for.
"You don't have to like me for who I am but we'll see what you're made of by what you make of me." Ani Difranco
happened in my ex husband's family. He and his sister were brought up the same, in a loving home environment, stable, middle class family.
My ex husband, became a police officer, as he is a very stict and disciplined person.
His sister became a prostitute, drug addict and had 4 kids from 4 different men and stole money from there dad....
What goes wrong?
No Tcom, just like bad parents can sometimes raise good kids (In the case of my mother, her father was an abusive alcoholic jerk who beat the hell out of everyone, out of 7 kids, only 1 grew up to be like him, the rest are great parents). Good parents can raise bad kids.
"You don't have to like me for who I am but we'll see what you're made of by what you make of me." Ani Difranco
well tcom, the surrounding environment (parents) have the greatest effect on the upbringing of the child. This is where the wise corrective role of bright parents is very demanding. But bad acts of parents (father hitting mother, or both using machine guns) is one thing, and being normal, but careless in the upbringing process, is another thing.
"Be strong but not arrogant
Be modest but not weak"
S.H
I agree with Mrs. I believe some kids just have a bad attitude by nature and it has nothing to do with nurture (I think these are the minority of cases mind) and no matter how good the parents are they will just turn out wrong.
"You don't have to like me for who I am but we'll see what you're made of by what you make of me." Ani Difranco
children learn from their surroundings… ever heard the saying monkey see monkey do … and as children spend more time at home in their early age this is their base
If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.
I don't quite find it convincing that all children's misbehavior is related to parents. We can not always blame peaceful parents of using live ammunition & playing war games in their backyard if their kid decided to get a machine gun & starts spraying the students & teachers in his school.
"Be strong but not arrogant
Be modest but not weak"
S.H
This is a BIG...BIG mistake!
"Be strong but not arrogant
Be modest but not weak"
S.H
Thats what we call father like son.... chip of the old block.... teach them young
Mother had no other choice not to laugh if she did not she might with a a bigger stick by the bigger guy lol J/K
If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.
oh sorry about that It was a mistake. But who caares? I get 3 extar points LOL
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one would normally take the stick away from the youngster - the associated comment I recall from my own mother (and others of her era) would be 'now then, don't do that, or you'll have someones eye out!'
Mind you, Xena said the mother was laughing and smiling so it was really nothing more than just a game. Maybe the child was pretending he had a magic wand?
Don't all yell at me at once! I'm off to finish my housework :P
it is a fault to neglect such 'innocent' actions by a 4-year old infant. Parents should be bright enough to teach their children the Do's & Dont's, but you can never assert that this infant was imitating his father. Infants have a natural inclination to hitting/beating/drumming tables/doors/objects/people, specially when they have a stick-like object in their hands, but I totally agree that such behavior ought to be noticed & corrected by the parents, or at least one of them. If the parents are polite enough to avert their children from beating/drumming other people (guests/friends), then they might as well pay attention to such rejected incidents, like the one in Waab.
It is worth mentioning though, that, unlike the high rate of incidents caused by husbands, fathers, or brothers, the rates of mothers beaten, or physically abused by their children is almost zero among the natives in these parts of the world. Sons who dare commit such acts are severly disciplined by the family & community, even before being reported to the law.
"Be strong but not arrogant
Be modest but not weak"
S.H
Father was smoking a seeshaa?
Yah that would be something gr8 to do for wasting time.But what about the father wat was he doing?
Yah that would be something gr8 to do for wasting time.But what about the father wat was he doing?
He surely saw his father at it and thought he would take a turn lol.
Quite amusing after all the hoo hah in here. Nice innocent little story :o)
Mind you, when I saw the thread title my first thought was 'oh no! don't tell me someone has started a thread based on an article I read yesterday about a grandson beating his grandmother to death'.
:P