Sex education essential in the Middle East?
An interesting editorial on the dangers of not educating your children about sex.
A lack of education leaves children vulnerable to abuse
Aida al Busaidy
Nov 26, 2012
Innocence is the first word that most people would use to describe their children. Little ones are totally dependant on adults to teach them and hold their hands during tough times as they begin to understand how our world works.
But what if that innocence is lost? Adults - or older children - may take advantage of this lack of knowledge. In the worst cases, this can manifest itself as physical or sexual abuse.
In the last couple of years, our newspaper headlines seem to have a weekly story of a child being abused, whether by a relative, a family friend or just some sick person who takes his or her illness out on a child.
The horrific case of an 8-year-old girl, allegedly tortured to death by her father, has brought the issue to prominence - the Federal Cabinet approved child-protection legislation this month known as "Wadeema's law" in memory of that girl.
Legislation is important, but there is a social and cultural component as well. Because children are often kept in the dark about sensitive subjects, they can't identify a threat, or have no way to report abuse if it does occur.
Traditionally our societies in the Arab world do not teach us anything about sex education, even to teenagers. When I was in secondary school, the biology textbooks had the word "sex" blacked out, even if it was in reference to what gender a person was. That in itself was a form of ignorance - by the time I was about 12, the internet was readily available anyway.
I always found this awkward, because many parents just expected a young person to know these things when "the time was right", which meant by the time someone got married. Most girls would rather their mothers, aunts or cousins talk to them about these subjects, no matter how uncomfortable it is.
Curiosity will always get the better of people - what they don't learn from parents or family members will be learnt by whatever channels are available. No thanks to reality shows and music videos today - sex and everything related is flaunted in our faces daily. If children don't learn the facts of life, there are plenty of distorted viewpoints out there.
The words commonly used by families when children ask about their bodies or anything physical is haram or aayb, which basically translate to taboo or vice. Topics such as these get brushed under the rug.
This lack of information can have frightening implications for children's safety.
There have even been incidents where parents ignored signs or even complaints that their children had been molested. To make matters worse, there aren't enough counsellors or child psychologists to help abused children overcome the trauma they have been through. But realising there is a problem is key.
As the eldest of four children and a mother, my responsibility is to ensure that my siblings and my child are protected at all times. My "trust no one" concept may be a bit extreme, but when you hear stories of abuse, the overriding priority has to be my loved ones' safety.
Our mentality that discourages discussing taboo subjects must change. Open lines of communications will help to make our children more aware, spare them traumatisation and even help them to protect themselves.
Children must feel safe to speak to us about these many issues. The question is: are adults ready to communicate with them in an open and honest manner?
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well Blosted, if the people you are referring to, all have an attitude like yours, insulting them is a pleasure most QLers enjoy
ummmm...I guess I should....when I find a person worthy of respect
I enjoy holding a mirror to show you your hatred and stupidity
So that's the best you can come with? either spreading hatred, lies or just pure insults?
Don't you think you should be ashamed of yourself at some point?
@Hajji Radhi , How much excrement is needed to make up a cretinous brain as yours?
It would be better if you stop replying just to insult people AND undermining your own arguments....both don't go well together.
I can see why your profile says you are "lonely sometimes" since you seem to think incest is a "Western standard".
I say what is right, and your few brain cells can translate to you whatever they like
An ethiest always say it is relevant and do not want to answer, they say about something it is good only if it is in line with their opinion.
me with incest?
what' with YOU and homosexuality?
Both are against to ethics and morals. Why do you object on one but not on the other. People should reject both, or tolerate both
If you think that homosexuals are not hurting anybody (which is wrong) then are people who practice adultery or incest hurting anybody?
Are people who walk naked in public hurting anybody?
If you think that the (western) systems should allow marriage of homosexuals because you claim that this is "freedom of choice", then why these same systems are not willing to give similar freedom to husbands who wish to have 4 wives?
I asked you about the waste of time, police and money in prohibiting these issues, in Qatar. You did not reply. You only said:
"Because they could be going after rapists and pedophiles"
Well there is enough time, police & money in Qatar to go after rapists & pedophiles, as well as prohibiting adultery which result in illegal pregnancies and out-of-wedlock babies (basically called "bastards")
dont start a discussion with a "idiot" he or she will drag you down to his or her level and beat you on experience, just "troll" them ;) lol
Amen
Lets pray that We love God and He loves us, so he will save us from all the wrong happening on this planet..Ameen
Because they could be going after rapists and pedophiles Hajj. Rather than consenting couples who aren't hurting anyone.
And what is with you and incest?
I'm in to get some sex education.. any ladies to volunteer?? :P
1.Tell me MM, how is it a waste of time, police & money here in Qatar (for example) that such an issue is not allowed? Can you tell me what is the percentage of babies born out of wedlock in Qatar, to the total number of born babies per year?
2."allow people the freedom to make their own choices."
In this case we will not be different from animals.
Next thing you are going to tell me is that if a mother & her adult son agree on having sex, then we should "allow them the freedom to make their choice."
"Legalizing pregnancies & birth of babies out of wedlock, or making rules/laws to legistlate homosexuals and their marriages"
I believe there's nothing ethically or morally wrong with either of those things, and in fact, morally, we should allow people the freedom to make their own choices.
It's a waste of police time and money to be going after un-wed couples and homosexuals. Better to go after rapists and pedophile, who are actually hurting people.
"Make rules/laws when and how one shall satisfy their sexual needs ethically and morally."
Well said.
Legalizing pregnancies & birth of babies out of wedlock, or making rules/laws to legistlate homosexuals and their marriages, has nothing to do with ethics and morals and will only help in spreading medical and social diseases in any community
As far as the discussion stays at OP and no mixing of religion.....mod enjoys :)
In order to reduce the crimes of rape and child abuse, our society needs to understand the importance of sex in our life. Make rules/laws when and how one shall satisfy their sexual needs ethically and morally.
Each individual to enure that strict measures to control and protect their children from any sort of physical abuse are in place.
"i want my 3 year old to scratch the face and kick (either woman or man) from the first person when somebody tries to touch him or her inapropriate"
In some communities, it is so nice and safe...older people see cute children wondering around (a little bit) away from their parents, and they feel so free to give them a kiss, a pat, a hug, and everybody smile and leaves happy after the encounter
Please dont kill their innocence at 3
Let's see when this one is going to get locked...:P
see now you do it again.....first read then comment,. (check and READ my later post)
the earlier the better,.otherwise the are already abused
if you follow the news a bit sex abbuse takes place in kinder garden (childs under 5y)
2, i didnt say force,. i say uptill there level of understanding you can have open communication,...
3,..well thats where the open communication comes in,..
i want my 3 year old to scratch the face and kick (either woman or man) from the first person when somebody tries to touch him or her inapropriate
some corrections:
1.sex education on a age as early as possible...dont push it...NOT as early as possible...let them grow a bit
2.open communication with your childs...dont force it...let them come by themselves with the questions
3.most important thing is to warn them about the bad and dangerous thngs
Is it really only sex education is indeed needed in middle east!!!!
openly discuss,. on the childs level of knowledge and understanding is ok,..he or she asks a question and up to your best knowledge as a parent or guardian,. you answer honestly,. so you child feels taking seriously,. if you hand it of as "haram" next time there not coming to ask anymore,. but try and go do it
It surely is important but before that make their values and character building is strong enough to differentiate between right and wrong.
Giving education step by step is the key to this. Openly discussing will cause more damage, unless they are mature. Put strong values in them don't leave them at the mercy of Allah. Its parents responsibility to make sure what to give in their hand and at which age.
thanks for making me laugh ;)
saving the world will not work with the ammount of "idiots" on it at the moment ;)
yeah but a little bit by little i will keep on trying,..
BACK TO THE OP;
1.sex education on a age as early as possible
2.open communication with your childs
3.
Indeed cracydutch, indeed. Take it slow, and remember, you are here for a reason...not to save the world ;)
once again, cracydutch:
PLEASE READ WELL AND UNDERSTAND BEFORE WRITTING SILLY POSTS
thanks for pointing that out to me,.
yeah im new in the region (3 months),..dont know for how long but for now i try to survive ;)
did notice the blaming game also on bussines level,.. thats wy nothing works here ;)
well i will stop commenting on your post,. because it seems that you dont want to understand that there are people out there who think different then you,.and still live a halal live style ;)
i do can read small print no need of using capitals,
english is my second language for over 20 years,.so for that i do UNDERSTAND
if you dont understand the term troll, then we are done
have a nice live;)
and all the Islamic scholars are sitting here on QL rofllllllllllll
Well cracydutch, from what i understand you are are new to the Gulf/ME? If so, after a while you will see that the blamer game is played to perfection here..;)
cracydutch
Please improve your English so that you can understand what people write, and stop nagging and crying.
Who the hell said that sexual abuse doesn't happen in every corner of the world? Who said that only westerners/Christians practice sex abuse?
PLEASE READ WELL AND UNDERSTAND BEFORE WRITTING SILLY POSTS
now i'm wondering how many people with either the koran or the bible "in there hands" (sexual) abuse childs and or there spouse?
wy people always turn religion/race into these threads?
religion or not, sex abuse does happen everyware on the globe for as long people are walking arround on it,. so just blaming the west makes no senses
Right...what are you saying then? Sorry, I can't find an answer to the question in earlier posts.
But if you don't want to talk about it, it is fine too. Up to you.
nope
So, you are saying people are gay and promiscuous due to lack of religion and therefore virtue?
you just made my point:) thanks for doing so ;)
because i did had a (sex) education from my parents,..i dont need to explore,.do know what is out there,.
is it thats wy people with less or non (sex) education come to do things that i think is illegal and abussive to a other persons??
nomerci,
if you want elaboration then you need to go back and read my earlier posts in this thread
cracydutch...people not from Amsterdam go TO Amsterdam to do drugs and women....quite a few from the ME ....
first read before you comment ;)
quote below was by miss mimi,. i reffered to it
My son will be well aware of what is penis...that is a difficult point"
wy is being gay a desease ?
the people i know who are gay, are healty take care of them self and others arround them,.nothing wrong with that
about the drugs,..almost every allien says that because im from amsterdam i do drugs and hookers,. well lived al my live close to AMS and did not touched either one of them.
your born gay,.not made gay
and about the drugs,.if you dont need it,dont use it simple
so in both cases,..what's your point??
Can you please elaborate?
I am talking about social disease that spread in a community due to education that lacks virtue and disregards religion
And what's wrong with the "Woquod Teyseer oil change " thread?
How does that connect with sex education?
Or are you talking about sexually transmittable diseases?
any social disease
What disease?
that's one of the diseases of western education which we want it away from our community.
We should provide our children with sexual education that is righteous and has virtue.
Keep living close to gays, it is your freedom, but I advise then to prepare and to have your kids read the "Woqod or Teyseer Oil Change" post on QL
BTW, I didn't say homosexuals use drugs. I said that if you let your children be exposed to one disease, then you will not mind exposing them to other diseases
i do agree.
its all about communication and not only to your childs ;)
if you can not talk about sex as adults then how you ever going to talk about in a good way to your kids on there level of knowledge.
i do have a boy and girls,.and yes a bath all of them,.and yes my wife is ok with that,.because there is mutual thrust in our relationship (hence open communication)
for haji,
i was grow up close with gay people and gues what im not gay nor do i use drugs ;)
"My son will be well aware of what is penis...that is a difficult point"
Well cracydutch, "Penis" has always been a difficult point
Well that's where you have to have open communication cracydutch. And only Mummy & Daddy, and possible Nanny and Papa will be helping him bathe.
I don't have a daughter yet, but yes, my husband would be allowed to change her diaper until she's potty trained.
This is why you need to talk to them about good touch/bad touch.
ko cracydutch....whatever...
hench a will wich my fluent tough
I was also wondering what am I doing here
My son will be well aware of what is penis is and how no one but mummy or daddy should be touching it.
even that is a difficult point,..help him stay clean,.or touch him inapropiatly...lays close together.
what about a daugther?
if you have one that is still young say upto 3y ,.do you let your husband help her. or change her diaper?
My son will be well aware of what is penis is and how no one but mummy or daddy should be touching it.
even that is a difficult point,..help him stay clean,.or touch him inapropiatly...lays close together.
what about a daugther?
if you have one that is still young say upto 3y ,.do you let your husband help her. or change her diaper?
no problem a will apologize for the statements wich my offended you ;)
i did not claim you where against it,. i claimed that IN MY perspective your way sounds old fashion compared to western standards
still i do have cracy english (hench my name cracydutch) english as for many on this forum is not their mother language as in my case,. i do speak it fluent tough among a few other western languages,. :)
thats wy i will make typos,. if that is bugging you,.well i would say,..what are you doing here then in the first place
tahsin...
how can you make a hattrick for scoring 2 things???
You know? There are 3 types of people, those who can count, and those who can't
Are you talking to me UK? Yes I would mean groping, or any inappropriate sexual touching. If a child isn't aware that their genitals are places that shouldn't be touched (and to some extent why they shouldn't be touched) than they are vulnerable to abuse.
I think it's also about developing a trusting relationship with your kids. If they know they can come to you with delicate questions, than they are more likely to come to you if they are being abused.
My son will be well aware of what is penis is and how no one but mummy or daddy should be touching it.
carcydutch
"while yours is full of diseases" please verify that to me.
you are no where close of calling me that i raise my childs " with diseases"
Did you verify why you called my culture "old fashioned"?
Were you close to calling my culture "old fashioned"?
Did you realize that I did not object to sexual education of children?
Did you bother to apologize for claiming that I was against sexual education of children?
Even if you will clarify and apologize for all the above, I still can't forgive you for having cracy English
now you do it again :(
"while yours is full of diseases" please verify that to me.
my childs are raised in a multi cultural (tri lingual) way with christian roots,. wich you call " full of diseases" :(
i do raise my childs with a righteous education en virtue. the attend one of the better schools in there home town.. have after school activities etc.
so in my opinion you are no where close of calling me that i raise my childs " with diseases"
did you had education in the west,.or your sibbelings,.?
so in wich you base your assumptions ?
"fook"
fook...fook...fook
Smoke...I tried every available dictionary and I couldn't find a meening to this word.
What is it?
Is it your Surname?
So touching you mean groping?
Sex education is not just about contraception and protection, it's also about teaching kids what appropriate and inappropriate touching is. Especially touches from adults. Surely you would want your kids to know when they are being abused?
"Sex education in this part of the world is a very tricky subject, specially with the religious background"
Sex education should always be with a religious backgraound. Nothing wrong with that.
The real problem in this part of the world is the tribal/bedwin habbits and culture, not religion.
Actually religion came to cut down on these (sometimes) mistaken habbits and culture, but they seem to be rooted much deeper than religion.
"humans made out of flesh and blood. Humans are full of desires"
This is again another proof that religion should always be the reference in order to control human desires. Not controlling such desires will make us no different than animals
or what the educational song by Salt & Pepper, :)
"lets talk about sex baby, lets talk about you and me, lets talk about all the things that maybe, lets talk about sex"
Fair enough, then you should know Right said Fred,
"I'm too sexy for my shirt" ?
or song by Tom Jones
'sexbomb'
Sxx education which is more important sXx or education
UK
I am from the generation of Sophia Lauren, Catherine Deunouv, Racquel Welsh
I am not a big fan of modern artists who have 3 colors of hair, a day
Sex education in this part of the world is a very tricky subject, specially with the religious background, involved in all kinda day to day activities.
I have been around in this part of the world for about 20 years and came across lot of men who were so closed to me to divulge their personal stuffs as well.
I read all the comments here and noted no one noted the crude nature of how men / women in this region enjoying sex with out damaging their virginity. Since that is what is anyone looking for as the guarantee of their absenteeism in sex out of wedlock. Men who are going around this practice to enjoy sex out of wedlock, demand a virgin to get married. Sigh :) .
The men are so smart to the extent they can find out about the females pre-marital sexual activities.
What ever the beliefs we are in, we all are humans made out of flesh and blood. Humans are full of desires and most of the time insatiable. So it is common for the people in this area as well.
This comment might be slightly out of the topic, yet it does related to the lives of the people here.
I am disappointed with Hajji as he does not who Katy Perry is ..:(
I support Hajji Radhi on his position and comments
PS. I wish Abboosi is here too :-)
smoke...what do you use for birth control? Your personality?
hahaahah you are seriously funny in your own weird way. I pity your kids and you most of all. But hey look what time it is...its I dont give a fook what you think time :P laterz
it is funny that a person with a cat IQ talks about opinions.
just because you can not understand proper education, that doesn't make you quallified to give advices, cat.
Homosexuality is bad for any community whether you like it or not.
If you let your kids make friends with homesexuals then you are definitely going to let them to make friends with drug dealers also.
Anyway, you are free to let your kids become homosexuals or make friends with such people. And when they start wondering how the mechanism of this thing works, tell them to read the "Woqod or Tyseer Oil Change" post on QL
Is that how you see it? Let me go make friends with some Rich Sheikhs perhaps i'll get rich too? LOL
telling me not to give advice when you rant on and on about your closed minded opinions that we are supposed to swallow..i think not.
Homosexuality is bad for who? According to the gospel of Hajji? Mixing with these people will make your kids homos? LOL i think you need a proper sex education first. Homosexuality has been around for centuries much much much before you think.
Yes we are talking about sex education for kids here..something you are clearly not qualified to discuss based on your comments. May i 'suggest' the jokes section for you?
no censorship, cat
Things are open & clear.
take for example, homosexuality. Instead of censoring this issue, it is better to tell our children:
Homosexuality is bad, it is condemned, avoid mixing with these people.
And if our kids need further details, then we can explain to them all the negative things related to homosexuality.
Very simple
I've been desperately trying to avoid it, as they are SOO young, however after reading your posts, you've encouraged me to prepare myself. I will not allow Flo Rida to sex educate them...
"Go post something in the funnies that too copy paste..and dont forget to give us the source of your jokes."
Hey cat...we are discussing sexual education of children, here.
Go start a new post about "The Teachings of Posting Jokes On QL", in case you want to discuss this issue.
Smoke...
I wonder how you will teach your kids about SEX..how much of it are you going to self censor?
calm down cracydutch...no need to be furious
Maybe you missunderstood me due to your "cracy" English.
Go and read my posts once again. Where did I say that children are not being abused all over the world?
Where did I say that we should not educate them?
On the contrary, if you remember my very 1st post, I started with:
it is very important to educate children about sex issues
But I want to educate the the right way, NOT the western way.
You think that our education is "old fashioned". Well, you are totally mistaken. Our education is righteous and has virtue, while yours is full of diseases....and "cracy".
If you care for your children then give them a righteous education that has virtue.
I hope this clarifies the issue.
If you want to read senseless comments i suggest reading your senseless oneliners that you keep posting all over Ql. Stop trying to understand or makes sense of things you dont have the IQ or open mind to discuss about. Go post something in the funnies that too copy paste..and dont forget to give us the source of your jokes.
in west there is no need for this kind of education its all open
How old is frenchie..she cant even type SEX without feeling embarrassed? LOL
and the song from the '80
"i hit you with my rythm stick"... took me years before i got that one ;)
Most of the guys commenting here were either virgins till they got married or hypocrites. Either way it does not make a difference to THE WORLD.
Marriage is RELIGION made..Sex is NOT. If you have sex...kids are bound to pop up one way or another. You dont need me to get into how that happens but i could tell you if you dont know.
In this generation of kids, they know all about sex and violence through various media if not their friends. You CANT stop them from knowing it no matter how hard you think you try. Deal with it.
Hajji seems to be hung on incest, perhaps a very personal matter to you? By pointing out your idiotic mentality does not prove your argument. Knowing right from wrong is one thing that people need to be educated on. Incest does not only happen in the west for your information nor did it originate from the West. Incest is forbidden for medical reasons and termed as a sickness..you might want to look it up before using the word.
And YOU do not need to teach me the word of God for YOU are not qualified or bestowed upon any such wisdom by any divine being.
Message is worse....read between the lines sort of thing.
so now you speak for the whole,. eastern world,.. i would say,..stay a way from any child,..
even your own if you think and act old fashioned as you do,..
child's are abused all over the world in all classes and comuntiies... so you never can start early enough by teaching them and telling them ,.
not giving a answer on a question from a kid is neglegting his education and development
"the hell out of educating our children" proberly i do a better job in educating our childs than you do,. mine are self aware and know how to handle if somebody tries something wich would be considered inapropriate by our " western" standards
Hajji the song is performed by Katy Perry who is a female, does this help?
and what about Gangnam style singing "Aaaay S*xy Lady"
lost-in-qatar that's not too bad as it does not have the s*x in it?..:)
"I kissed a girl and I liked it, I hope my Boyfriend don't mind it"
now you are confusing us, UK
were they two girls kissing? Or was it a girl with a gay boy who has a BF?
Hajji lol, so early the we start the better it is?
What about blow my whistle, I cringe every time I hear a child sing this....
UK...here is something funny about children's sexual education:
Due to a power cut at the time, only one paramedic responded to the call. The house was very, very dark, so the paramedic asked Kate, a 3-year-old girl, to hold a flashlight high over her mummy so he could see while he helped deliver the baby.
Very diligently, Kate did as she was asked.
Heidi pushed and pushed, and after a little while, Connor was born.
The paramedic lifted him by his little feet and spanked him on his bottom.
Connor began to cry. The paramedic then thanked Kate for her help and asked the wide-eyed 3-year old what she thought about what she had just witnessed. Kate quickly responded, "He shouldn't have crawled in there in the first place. Smack him again."
SEX EDUCATION ....with media and internet they know almost everything....in Middle east the kids should know what is abuse ....as they move with the domestic servants most of the time ...male or female. ..both are danger
ok let me complete the song
"I kissed a girl and I liked it, I hope my Boyfriend don't mind it"
what did you like? The girl or "it"?
Hajji, what about that song
"I kissed a girl and I liked it"
I personal second the Motions that says; sex out of wedlock is a bad thing just coz religion say so? To Think about the same religions that makes us believe we are Equal while the same still acknolegdes the fact that we are all different.
PS: No religion blashing im just being Moral.
To point out the honest trust , This days; Child out of wedlock now a days is a normal thing, as long as the two adults are responsible enough to raise the child rather than abandon it. Offcourse it's not however taking into account our different cultural diversities and religions believe.
The Point is to educate you children based on your cultural and religions believe's. there is neither a right way or a wrong way to converse truth information to your kids. Cuz if you dont belive somebody else will*
no UK
They sing:
"I am s*xy and I know it"
Frenchies,
Kids now a days go around singing songs like
"I am sexy and I know it"
smoke said:
"i dont understand how sex out of wedlock is a bad thing just coz religion say so?"
Well cat, It's actually God who said so. If you don't want to understand the words of God, then you can not understand anything in life.
"Child out of wedlock now a days is a normal thing, as long as the two adults are responsible enough..."
So if an adult brother & an adult sister are responsible enough and agree on having sex, does that make incest "a normal thing, nowadays"?
Exactly, that should be taught at first place (initially)
The rest they should only practice with their lawful partners?
Sex education is important for school children (age 14 for boys and 12 for Girls), when they are close to puberty. Being this is a sensitive topic and need to manage extra carefully.
Primarily, this is Parents responsibility to teach their children initially about sex what is right, what is good and what is really bad.
Rest they learn themselves from the various books, friends, internet and school-room discussions.
educating at the age of 7 and 8 is too young for me....at that time they r not really aware of their own sex as in gender,,,,
i dont wanna portray that sex is a bad thing to my kids , but offcourse will keep them aware , that thy should talk openly about anything .... i agree fatimaha here it depends upon ur child maturity as well....
May Allah keep every kid safe .. ameen..
weither the parents like it or not to teach there childrens about sex education, the internet & cable TV will do to educate them in worse version, so its very complecated to avoid this scene in this generation. better to learn how to filter this technology.
Miss mimi said:
"We're talking about the whole Middle East."
Westerners are the last people who should talk about educating sex to the middle east. They should try 1st to fix the social diseases in their societies.
cracydutch said:
"western" standards... what are you saying??
that I as a western can not raise my childs??"
You are free to raise YOUR childs...but keep the hell out of educating our children
miss mimi said:
"Where is incest taught as a good thing?"
I was only bringing example of unacceptable and bad things which children have no previous knowledge of, such as: incest, homosexuality, sex & pregnancy out of wedlock...and I must add: abortion
My daughter is now seven years old. I started educating her on sex related matters when she was six years old itself. I had my reasons for starting young. a few incidences that frightened me and made me determind to protect my child via education and awreness. I made lessons more informative and heart to heart kind of. Nothing vulgar and indecent! And I have no regrets so far, Innal Hamdulillah.
For Muslims, yes you can teach them about sexual related matters in accordance to the Quran and Sunnah. It's not about what you teach them as much as its about how you teach them. My daughter has a very matured and healthy perception of sex and is aware of its perversions as well. And I have told her about the halal and haram acts according to Islam. Of course the age you chose to educate your children will defer according to your child's maturity, and your relationship with each other. But don't wait too long. If you can't do it then have a trusted grown up from among your family or friends to do so.
Miss MIMI.....sex education is not essential here in the middle east..honestly speaking sex education doesn't mean your country will be free from such type of sex issues and violations..this is a very sensitive topic to minors that their innocence maybe corrupted.
8y is to old to start talking about sex,.by that time the are already abused because the didnt know(as in op) .
with my son we started talking about when he started asking arround 5 y old(wich means he is interested and willing to listen) because he hears the news as well on TV and radio.
now almost 7 he knows what he needs to know and how to react if somebody tries
when my 3 old girl starts asking about we will tell here as well,.and she goed then to self defence class as well,.(to learn how to kick and scratch to leave marks)
What exactly does your head find weird in that?
the right age is when u apply for a driving license :?
At what age a kid should know about sex?
Is there any certain age?
I was in 8th standard when our bio teacher gave us a lesson on sex. (1990). My age was 14 years that time.
The question what is the right age to teach Sex Education in the middleast? and how much should be taught to children.
or should they just watch the National Geographic channel for sex education?
"i have a question in my mind, like in OP its said 8 yrs old girl .... for me 8 years is way to younger for any of the sex related education isnt?"
Not for good touch/bad touch stuff no, I don't think it is.
I think this is the most concerning thing:
"When I was in secondary school, the biology textbooks had the word "sex" blacked out, even if it was in reference to what gender a person was."
If young men and women aren't even aware of what their genitals are, how would they know if they are being abused? If a young girl doesn't know what sex is, how would she know she's done it?
i dont understand how sex out of wedlock is a bad thing just coz religion say so? Child out of wedlock now a days is a normal thing, as long as the two adults are responsible enough to raise the child rather than abandon it.
In our days our parents didnt give us the bird and the bees talks. Heck i never got it :P But with the increase rate of crimes involving kids now a days such information and teachings about sex is important for their protection.
Teaching them sex education is fine as long as it comes with no experience outside of wedlock?
That's what most parents in the middleast would be worried about!
The experiential part and showing young kids how to don a condom is what will not be acceptable!
"western" standards... what are you saying??
that I as a western can not raise my childs??
the are thought and raised by our western standards as being honnest people who stand up for them selfs
incest is by no way a " western" standard i dare you,.that in the " eastern" world it happens more than in the west because children are not teached or told what is not acceptable,..my childs are,... private parts are private,..no body can touch those,.
born out of wedlock,. is a option either both or one parent choose for,. many of my friends are born like that,.. and all of them are good people,...
being a mom, i think it's really a must scenario. I can tell my girl , what it is all about , I can tell the good and bad aspects of sex to her, in every context. i believe if i ever made discussion of sexulity a taboo or ayaab to her , she will stop sharing anything she feel , and get the information from any source which might lead to serious consequences.
i believe more than educating youth about sex , its more important to to communicate with them, and answer their questions like we all answer normal question , should not make it banned territory.
i have a question in my mind, like in OP its said 8 yrs old girl .... for me 8 years is way to younger for any of the sex related education isnt?
Of course it is necessary. Will it happen? No.
I don't think she's calling for that UK, I think she's talking more about how babies are made and how to talk about abuse.
We're talking about the whole Middle East.
Would a sexual predator let her finish college tahsinmim?
Fatimah, I remember talking to a group of 16 year old Qatari girls and they had no idea how babies were made. I couldn't help but think that a male family member could exploit that.
this will lead to increase of sale in balloons in the middle east
This has long being my belief and something I have put into practice. Leaving our kids uneducated about sex, sexual abuse, pedophiles, etc will of course make them more vulnerable to dangers and having misguided notions and/or warped ideologies about sex. Sex education is essential for children around the world...period. No country or region is free of crime and predators.
Ideally the best person/people to educate kids would be their parents or legal guardians, that is of course supposing they are not abusers themselves that is also sadly known to happen.
Personally I have taught my daughter all she needs to know of this topic. Of course she had and still has questions(yes some can be hilarious and kinda awkward) but I know I did the right thing, and Allahu alam, cos now she is very careful with all strangers and knows the risks of trusting anyone blindly as some kids are prone to do.
We should be educating about sex in the context of love and loving relationships and encounters
Where is incest taught as a good thing?
And surely you will have to mention incest, homosexuality, etc in the context of sexual abuse by family members?
it is very important to educate children about sex issues, but we must ensure that, in no way, this will be according to the "western" standards.
While educating children about these issues, they must be taught to reject unacceptable & bad things, such as: sex out of wedlock, babies born out of wedlock, homosexuality, incest...etc.
It's educating them about sex. So that's sex education.
So, it's not really sex education, but educating and openly communicating with your child about issues / concerns.