Rich Hubby or Good Job???
By strawberry_shisha •
Saudi women are asked what they would prefer in life, a wealthy man or their own career.
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By RIMA AL-MUKHTAR, Arab News
JEDDAH: According to a recent survey, Saudi women indicated that they prefer having a successful career and earning their own money than to having a wealthy husband.
Over 200 Saudi women between the ages of 17 and 35 took part in the online survey conducted by Arab News. 87 percent of single women said they would choose work over having a wealthy husband, and 13 percent agreed to marry a rich man because they either wanted to start their own business or they considered spending their rich husband’s money a job in itself. On the other hand, women who wanted a career said they wanted to make a name for themselves by working.
When given the choice between raising a family or working, the majority again voted for working.
“I cannot see myself staying at home and doing nothing but cooking and cleaning. I want my husband to see more in me than just a ‘baby-making machine,’” said 34-year-old Zahra Abunaser. She considers staying at home a waste of her education and skills.
“I want to work and get paid for what I do, instead of sitting and watching TV,” she added.
According to 19-year-old Wed Al-Abadi, spending money and enjoying life is good but only on a short vacation. Al-Abadi said she wouldn't mind marrying a rich man who can afford to buy her nice things, but at the same time she feels the need “to accomplish something” in her life.
“If I marry a rich man, I would expect him to help me start or expand my own business,” she explained. Al-Abadi said an educated woman would not accept to be a stay-at-home wife.
On the other hand, juggling home, family, work and a social life is hard for some women.
“A woman cannot do it all; being a wife and a mother is a full-time job. If you have another full-time employment outside, you will face a lot of pressure, making you less productive at one of them,” said 47-year-old Intesar Al-Ali.
She finds it difficult to combine her full-time occupation with being a mother in addition to having some sort of personal life. The result is a lack of sleep and exhaustion, “not because my child keeps waking up at night, but because I have to deal with my children first and then deal with my work projects,” said Al-Ali.
“Why haven't I quit my job? Because I make good money and I need it. If I could do it again, I would marry a rich man and stay at home instead of having a career,” she added.
Over 200 Saudi women between the ages of 17 and 35 took part in the online survey conducted by Arab News. 87 percent of single women said they would choose work over having a wealthy husband, and 13 percent agreed to marry a rich man because they either wanted to start their own business or they considered spending their rich husband’s money a job in itself. On the other hand, women who wanted a career said they wanted to make a name for themselves by working.
When given the choice between raising a family or working, the majority again voted for working.
“I cannot see myself staying at home and doing nothing but cooking and cleaning. I want my husband to see more in me than just a ‘baby-making machine,’” said 34-year-old Zahra Abunaser. She considers staying at home a waste of her education and skills.
“I want to work and get paid for what I do, instead of sitting and watching TV,” she added.
According to 19-year-old Wed Al-Abadi, spending money and enjoying life is good but only on a short vacation. Al-Abadi said she wouldn't mind marrying a rich man who can afford to buy her nice things, but at the same time she feels the need “to accomplish something” in her life.
“If I marry a rich man, I would expect him to help me start or expand my own business,” she explained. Al-Abadi said an educated woman would not accept to be a stay-at-home wife.
On the other hand, juggling home, family, work and a social life is hard for some women.
“A woman cannot do it all; being a wife and a mother is a full-time job. If you have another full-time employment outside, you will face a lot of pressure, making you less productive at one of them,” said 47-year-old Intesar Al-Ali.
She finds it difficult to combine her full-time occupation with being a mother in addition to having some sort of personal life. The result is a lack of sleep and exhaustion, “not because my child keeps waking up at night, but because I have to deal with my children first and then deal with my work projects,” said Al-Ali.
“Why haven't I quit my job? Because I make good money and I need it. If I could do it again, I would marry a rich man and stay at home instead of having a career,” she added.
I earn more than my husband, who's gone back to school at the moment. And I would have to say I prefer a good career to a wealthy husband. But I guess I just like having control over my own life.Or perhaps I just have a crap husband with low self esteem like some narrow minded old harpies say.
Of course my hubby earns more than me.Does it matter?NO.Over here we know the 'men rule'; we women have to take a backwards step regardless of our qualifications.If a woman says she earns more then her husband - she is either lying or she has married a man with low self esteem or he has no job or a *rap job.Same with all GEC countries.It is just the way it.Lived here long enough and met enough people to know this.
All over the world, women usually spend money on their dresses...so what's the point in being rich if they can't wear beautiful clothes and flaunt themselves in public..
you have a point..
Also, most women in Saudi usually have money of their own because of inheritance laws..
edifis, check the picture, even in pic they doesn't
All Saudi women looks same!
I think the women in Saudi see working as a way to a little more freedom than they usually have.
The way to smash the glass ceiling, I was once told, is to smash the myth that women can have it all. There is a whole generation of women who were raised to believe that it is possible to have a stellar career, a wonderful marriage, an amazing sex life, several well-balanced children and still have time to see your girlfriends and get your hair done. Somehow, a mother is always going to feel that she should be parenting more than she does. I remember a couple of years go i read this article it was written by succeesfull woman called Sarah the senior banker in central London whose 11-year-old son has recently been allowed to walk to his school unescorted. On the first day, she told him to text her when he got there. Nothing arrived. It turned out he had texted his father, thinking one parent as good as another. She was climbing the walls with worry. If it had been the other way round, would a father have given it a second thought? So while i strongly and passionately defend and support the right of women to work and make something of their lives i also feel the need to tell you "stop feeling you have to achieve perfection in every sphere of your life".[[wysiwyg_imageupload:1122:]]
The funny thing is that in another survey in UK, women preferred to marry husbands earning good money and become stay at home wives to look after the children.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1345520/What-women-REALLY-want-To-marry-rich-man-stay-home-children.html
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/jan/23/heather-mcgregor-women-want-careers
I suppose we all want something we find difficult to have :O)
Having a rich hubby means you are doing a good job.
May Allah grant them success..Aameen!But as for me I've had my phases...at one time having a successfull career was the most important thing in my life and I pretty much shunned any thought of marriage. Later on I prefered to find a wealthy hubby and give up working. Today my goals and ambitions are different. Either ways being happy and content with your life and striving to achieve your aspirations is what counts.
they wanna wipe out males from everywhere....big time lol
rich wife...