MALINGERING, GREEDY DADDY...GRRR
Since it's the current fad on QL...let me start this story with this:
I have a friend who recently confided to me about his predicament.
Two years ago, he was told that his (now)62 y/o father was diagnosed with alzheimer's disease. His mother (who's working in Dubai) sends money for the living expenses while he sends money for ALL medical expenses, etc.
He found out later disturbing information about his father:
(1) His father brought home another woman (a 2nd wife?) to their house.
(2) His father has a love child (aged 18) by that 2nd wife
(2) His father's increase in medical and living expenses since then. (obvious, isn't it?)
Here's the twist:
(1) His mother knew nothing about it and still sending financial support to the 'beloved husband'. (she would have a nervous breakdown if she ever finds out)
(2) His 2 sisters (married) knows but couldn't do anything as 'THE FATHER' is a "controlling freak" (sorry, friend--i know you're reading this)
HERE ARE THE QUESTION:
(1) Should THE SON (my friend) stop sending financial support?
(2) Is it an OBLIGATION or a RESPONSIBILITY for him to do so even under this circumstances?
means, getting the real facts of the problem! ANd that's where anyone can give a corresponding solution (if they really need one?)
If it is me, I 'll let the mother decide it and 'll do what she wants...
Simple enough solution for me, stop sending money.
Azilana...lol.
I was just trying to instigate a few to come and give their suggestions.
Don't you put words in my mouth...lol
Stick to the topic...or I'll stick yah!!!...lol
:P
jackmohan2007....yep, there is no easy solution...he needs to get his facts straight....engulfed with 'if's' decison making is always difficult.
happygolucky...there is no easy solution....
Either they will have to confirm if he has AD or not Or stop sending money. Both are equally difficult.
What if he has AD? Then also stop sending money?
really difficult to decide :(
Why can't I find this kind of women who will support me..
Azilana...yes, I was talking to you...:) So none of the QLers posting in the last 10 days are your friends ...:)
Most of the friends I know here are either busy at work or on Facebook ;P
He needs to get his facts straight, as simple as that, to decide what he should do next. Shying away from facing his father isnt going to help him.
BTW...just noticed this thread is on air for almost 10 days now...why so less response when you have such a huge friends circle on QL...:)
Does tht father is suffering frm alzheimer's or not..?? find out tht first... its not gud 2 support him if he is doin wrong.(financially)..
Not thinking of his wife & son.. who r working hard away frm their homeland..
The son who knows everythin shud gain tht confidence 2 question his father if he is lieing...
My friend, who is the only son is apprehensive to go home and confront his father.
My friend is torn between deciding whether to stop sending financial support to his "sick" father and be accused of being an irresponsible son or just blindly continue to support him.
Didn't anyone of them (wife and son) visit home in this period.
Didn't the 2 sisters who knew, talk to their brother and mother anytime.
If you don't agree, maybe bcoz your parents haven't obligated youto do anything for them...LUCKY YOU!
Sadly to say...posting someone's love story on main forum is more of a "drama" than "family issues" which is "a dilemna" my opinion)
ok,so neither his wife nor son asked to actually see an official medical report stating that he has alzheimer's???...sorry,this doesn't make any sense @ all & neither do the subsequent questions,to which the answers are obvious...does seem like a typical soap opera story...
azi, looks like the dad has selective AD(which doesnot exist). He only remembers what he needs to. I think a second opinion is needed for his condition.
and do errands for/by himself. Two years after being diagnosed with the AD, I'm quite surprised he can still remember if his son (my friend) sends on time or not.
Explains it all then Eco :)
I think he's icelandic with really big hands...
The most common symptoms of Alzheimer's are loss of memory, the decline of intellectual functions and sudden changes in personality
stop sending money, otherwise he brings home 3rd woman... :)
Maybe he does have alzheimers and forgot he had a wife in Dubai ;)
JK.... stop sending money, it isnt an obligation to send money to support someone under false pretenses
exactly! ;)
We've been around QL too long to be thin-skinned and overly-sensitive...
azi, am glad you agree to a fact. :)
AND I do not ALWAYS have negative comments if it is a "filipino topic". only if it is a stupid topic,no matter what nationality posted it, asking for solutions that are obvious, lol. Funny thing, you are upset with me for saying it is "a Filippino thing"...and here you are, saying it yourself...lol!
but you always have negative comments if it's a Filipino topic. That's why you're "perfect" for a villain/antagonist role...
Let me reiterate, it's a TRUE STORY/DILEMNA...of a friend. Just because I'm a Filipina, you categorically ASSUMED it's a compatriot...
eeennnkkk...WRONG...TRY AGAIN...
azi, you picked the wrong person, I am neither dramatically inclined, nor Filippina. Sorry!
his 2nd wife is attached to him coz she knows the man is getting financial add from two of sides... once the financial support ends every thing would settled down... hope so... :O
if it is...I'll cast you as the villainess...you're a perfect antagonist.
The day your friend will stop sending money, this 'other woman' will automatically vanish. Broke's never have a 'second wife' or 'second wives ' never tolerate a penniless husband'........universal law.
-stop sending money
-the mother should know about the philandering husband (and i doubt he has alzheimer's)
-never was it an obligation or responsibility of a child to support his parents (financially).
Stop sending money himself as well as make his mother stop sending money as well.............
Can he send me money too? I like drinking and women and don't mind moving to Manila...
Filipino soap opera?
(3) if you we're in his shoes...what would you do? and why?