Life's Journey
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life".
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time...and remember that time waits for no one.
So... stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you've had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die, or until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
Eermmm... I'm considered weird cos I'm content, no matter what my situation is. I have a roof over my head and food on my table, family n friends. That's all I need.
If things get really bad, it bothers me only for a day and I let it go by sundown (or a little later but by week's end). The fact that some people think I don't let go, is because those people are dumb enough to repeat their errors, so it's not added on issues but rather new ones. Some people are morons, what can I say?
/Might change..but hope not.
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The Cookie Monster said it.
yes rein. deep reasons are not mere excuses but sacrifices we are willing to make.
Humans are insatiable...
lol boston. shrink is a slang for psychiatrist ;)
yes Angeli, you can call that sacrifice
If I knew what you meant with "shrink" I could say yes or no. But I thank you for your kind wishes, Angeli.
looks like you're acting my shrink for tonight boston ;)
may you be happy always
Lucky guy, that guy!
i already made my choice, boston
Yes, Angeli. But if you take a closer look, the "deep reasons" are only excuses. I don't want to blame you, don't misunderstand me, please.
well i admit that i block my own happiness sometimes. it's because i consider other people around me. i prefer to be hurt than see my loved ones hurt. now don't get me sentimental at midnight lol. but i tell you boston, there are deep reasons why.
but congratulations for being the happiest and most satisfied person on the planet ;)
If you could choose me, I'm sure everything works for good. Dare!
See how nervous I was. Double click.
If you could choose me, I'm sure everything works for good. Dare!
everything works together for good, though. its just how you see and face everything. and you can turn negatives to positives, its a choice
Ask yourself, Angeli, how many times you stood in your own way. If not, you ought to be the happiest and most satisfied person on the planet. Congratulations. You are like me then.
It would be a waste of time, rein, right?
how can one person be an obstacle in his own life boston?
well i cant wait, actually
"But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life".
I think, that's stupid. The obstacle is not these things, the obstacle is you, yourself!
Don't "wait", rein. Now is now, and tomorrow it's already yesterday!
thank God im convinced that my life is better than before, and believes that the best is yet to come (i dont mind when, where and how) and that i dont wait for anything but just 'one thing'
You got that right, brit. But we will shrink to zero in length. That is not wanted. Think of the ladies, man.
If we travel at warp 9 towards the sun. Then at the last moment use the gravitational forces to catapult us forward. We will be able to travel back in time.
I AM NOT!
i hope we are all prepared flanostu.
Not if we can bend the timeline back onto itself, flan. Imagine.
we're all one day closer to death.
Well, yeah, you're right, Angeli. What a disaster.
boston, at some point in our lives we find time to be serious too. well maybe she's at her serious state now :) peace wacky :)
oh ok. as you said boston. as you said lol
Normally she is kicking a**es and ordering truckloads of icecream or Heineken. This is not her!
What I said, Angeli.
what do you mean boston?
I think somebody forced her to write that.
It's human nature for most.
i like your thoughts wacky. i think everyone keeps on searching for happiness when we can have it anytime. we just have to look around us. and learn to appreciate what we have right now. and whatever comes along.
by the way i like the tattoo :) i've always wanted to have one but i'm not sure i can survive the pain. needles scare me :(
oh pajju...you can't stay mad at me for a long time, can you? :)
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thanks guys :)
sandee...no hangover for me. just thoughts that are swirling on my mind and just furiously typed it away :)__________________________________
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And some people still "miss opportunities." - Unbelievable.
wacky i loved your article, its so good, and what's there really applies to alot of people, always its not the right time, so when it will be??
we never configure that time passes and what we can do today we wont be able to do tomm., may be coz we are too old to do it, too lonely to go for it, or so poor to afford it...
thanks for this
N.F SHAKIB
agnostic, i think she said, happiness is a journey hehehe
...listen to the sound of silence....
right. just getting my back pack for this journey
nice one wacky
...listen to the sound of silence....
I second your thoughts though.. Good one ..
wacky i hate u
Wacky another hangover eh?
wacky all he saw in this thread is your tatoo...
Good thought wacky...
lol agnostic ;)
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