INTELLECTUAL RESPONSE
In a Restaurant, suddenly a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on a lady standing a little away.
She started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering:
- Was the cockroach responsible for the ladies' histrionic behavior?
- If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection - without any chaos or drama.
- So, it was not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed them.
I also realized even in my case then, it is not the shouting of my father or scolding of my boss that disturbs me, but it's my own inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturb me.
Similarly, it's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused in my mind by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my own reaction to the problem that hurts me!
The Take-Away:
- The women reacted but the waiter responded.
- We must not react in life; we should always respond.
- Reactions are instinctive; responses are intellectual.
I really do not understand your point here. The cockroach scared the women and they cried. Different things produce different levels of anxiety, panic and stress in different individuals.
Of course, it is our reaction that matters. But the reaction itself is not in our control and is triggered by the stimulus.
What you are trying to say is that the stimulus itself is not important. I say you are in opinion wrong. Because it is just the stimulus which causes the reaction (in a different way in different people).
So you can never reduce the importance of circumstances. Genes and experience blend to shape behavior.
Nice Post... Luved it
So, let's throw a cockroach on Rizks and see the reaction !!
Loved the post.
TIME is Gold!
responses are intellectual yes, but they take time,
while reactions, being instinctive are quick.
now if the cockroach was a scorpion, the ladies would've saved themselves, while the "intelligent" waiter who wanted to observe the behaviour would have been bitten and in hospital.
both are needed. depends on the circumstances.
RAK, gud one...more!
is your becoming cuter a reaction to you getting bald?
yes rizks ur chubby little kid now just like pikacheww from pokemon
Every Action has an equal and opposite Reaction - learned tat when i a cute kid, now I am cuter....:)