How should I turn him down?

yaghazali.. tell him upfront that you see him as your brother and nothing else I am sure he will understand. Unless you have told anything otherwise..

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HE WHO DARES WINS

Thanks everybody for your comments, I just remembered that I didn't leave any response here after all of your advice.

By the way, heero_yuy2, please don't imply that I don't know how to take responsibility. I wasn't looking for excuses to lie or hide from this guy. I was asking for help on the right way to explain things, since I didn't want him to feel like I was being snotty or whatever.

To the rest of you, well. I'm not as young as you think, haha, let's just say prom is long gone. But perhaps I seem a bit childish because I haven't experienced this sort of thing before...in my family (yep I'm Muslim) dating is definitely not the norm so I didn't immediately catch on to the idea that the guy was "asking me out". I never even realized that he liked me in that way. Yeah I'm slow.

Anyway. I took into account a few *sane* suggestions here and the problem is sorted out now.

Thanks again to all. :)

Tell him you are lez ;)

But dont tell him you are bi, he might start drooling!

ashfaque ur idea was frekin tooooooooooooooooo guuuuuuuuuuud.....

i was just saying ...

she s ever afraid to tell the truth...

what make u thnk that she has gutts to slap him....?

well said Eaglemmanuel ;)

I was going to say same thing too.

Wow! LostinDoha.. that was some advice... *shocked*

Daniell, slapping him might be counter productive.. he might just turn the other cheek and say "hit me, baby, one more time" = Britney

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Don't want no drama,

No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama

just slap him like a bitch...

then he will surely dump u....lolzzzzzzzzzz

Very easy, Malish, Yallla Masalam ;)

simple.. just say these.. " please stop what you're doing, i dont like it and i will never learn to like it.. you make me sick.. i am just being polite to you.. "polite to you", it does not mean, nor is synonymous to "liking you".. so stay away from me and play your joystick with some else... lol..

life is not a destination, it always had been & always will be a journey.....

Tell him that you can't because you have a wocket in your pocket....

They call it the American dream because you have to be asleep to see it... --George Carlin

kids... wonder how old/(young) these guys are...

just do your assignments., :)

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call me ONE.

Ignore him , that's it.i don't think its ur responsibility to respond to his msgs or calls.....it's kinda rude but to sugarcoat will just cloud his mind more......

Be honest and get over with it...

timtam, it's payday next week so i might be lucky then(??)

lol timtan... that is so freakin' bi+chy...

lol ashfaque good idea ;)

as honesty is the best policy...hope you can say it to him as bluntly as possible so he will stop asking and you two will have a peace of mind....

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just say it... don't led him more, it will be painful for him but either way he will be hurt on the process...

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Be frank and tell him what you feel.. that's the only way out but do it in a nice way as possible.

just give him my mobile number and tell him abt me that i m ur boy friend and u r only frnd.................................................................................................................simply

Just stop talking to him. If he still continues to get through to you, tell him straight to his face.

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Just tell him frankly iam not intrested in going out...

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call me

"lead him on"? i did not say that... what i said was, just to tell him straight that she does not want to go out with him.. how hard can that be...

Are you saying that it was alright for her to "lead him on?"

She needs to come clean and apologise..

come on an apology will do

stop beating around the bush and tell him straight....

are you muslim?

if so just tell him it is not allowed, but if seriously interested give him your wali's number and tell him to do things properly and not be contacting girls and fear Allah.

if your not muslim... well that is a different problem because your whole culture says what he is doing is ok so just be polite and say no thankyou.

Abu Abdillah

1. Send him an e-mail like this telling him you're happy to still have communications with acquaintances (like him) from school and though there's nothing wrong of you two meeting up (NEVER mention DATE) for coffee, tell him that you have no free time for that and your BF (if you have)would not fancy the idea. (Be POLITE as possible).

2. If he calls and send you SMS senselessly, tell him upfront...

Be honest....tell him the truth...

just tell him straight,: NO i dont want to go out with you.. end of story..

or perhaps meet up with him and bring your boy friend with you that oughta give him a clearer msg.

eaglemmanuel

You are right ... can we say respond less promptly than usual ?

Yeah, What Eagle said.

Did you Google it first?

be Honest to him..

Truth hurts but that's the only solution. Be brave enough to tell him that friendship is the only thing you can offer...

i agree with hero, be responsible and just tell him that your just not interested, if he doesnt get the hint, tell him since school has passed youve become a lesbian and your not interested in men..

TeLL him your committed...n give britexpat's email id....

;)

Supremebeing - hmmm ...

Gee.. if all guys think like this, I'm in trouble... Cos I don’t respond promptly to personal emails during work and I am truly busy. I just don't log on to YIM or MSN or my personal email while at work.

It's not a hint to friends but I'm not the tea lady with a load of time on my hands. Sometimes I'm so tired, I just zone out so, it really can't be helped.

/I couldn't get the job as the tea lady cos I couldn't make a cup of tea. I didn't pass the test HR set me. :0(

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Don't want no drama,

No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama

What you started, you have to fix it yourself and end it properly.

Your choice, your responsibility.

"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach

just tell him and be honest with him, tell him reasons why and just be yourself, dont just ignore him, he will never giving up to you until you honestly tell the truth so he will not force you to talk to him.

Can't you wait for the upcoming prom? Yep. Be honest or if you don't want to tell it to him straight, just stop responding to his messages. He'll eventually stop bugging if you make him feel unwanted.

cheers,

paul

If you have a bf, just say so.

But if not, yeah, you would like to see him but only to catch up on old times. Just meet up in a public place and indicate that you only want to be friends and nothing more, by actions or words. Honesty is the best policy, since you're clear that (at least at this point in time), that you're not interested in anything more than friendship.

Or better yet, bring a girl-friend along when you meet him so it's clear that it's just a friends' outing.

If he's clear about things, then you can be your normal friendly self. If not, then you'd best not entertain his calls and emails too much.

But you never know.. friends can turn into more than that, after you get to know him better. Lol!

Hope that helps n good luck!

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Don't want no drama,

No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama

Give him my email and number and tell him the truth..

You led him on, so why not be honest with him for a change..

"welcome to dumpville, population you"

Don’t respond promptly to his msgs, act busy. If that wasn’t enough as a hint and he popped the question tell him that meeting up is not a good idea and that you are emotionally unavailable. You admire him as a friend but that is it.