Boy and Girl creating a mess, please advise?

xbox_360
By xbox_360

A friend of mien have younger brother who is creating a mess due to a girl

The boy Completed 12th standard in Dubai and than was admitted to evening classes university, there he fell in love with a girl and started to bunk classes, while his elder brother was paying full fee. The boy also received poor grades.

One day the girl father caught them bunking class in university and they took the girl out of univ and warned the boy and their family not to contact again.

The boy started crying & made his family contact girl father, who refused to meet but said they may consider once the boy is settled have job but no grantee

The boy and girl were supposedly banned to communicate but they still kept communication open.

The boy further directly contacted girl father, who again contact boy family and asked to make him explain.

The boy family explained the boy that patience (since e is only 19 years) the boy family even offered to meet girl family but they refused saying it's too early.

Few months back the boy managed to get on job in Dubai and was asked to focus on job and do not contact girl

Today morning the boy and girl were caught by girl family in girl home and girl parents are pissed off, they called the boy brother and claimed they are to hand over the boy to police, finally they did not because their girl would also go to police since both are involved.

Now girl family is asking boy family to send the boy out of Dubai to some other country, they don't care where but send it!

What can be done in this case?

By han19• 6 Jan 2012 12:45
Rating: 4/5
han19

Can you advice your friend to advice his brother about the life he will be living if does not finish his graduation, especially if he intends to stay in Dubai.

Which father in his right mind will willingly agree to give away his daughter to a boy who has just passed grade 12, has no job, is not qualified for a decent job, has no financial stability, and is not even serious about his studies.

How is love going to feed their tummies, unless they decide to feed off their families for the rest of their lives.

By Mughalzada• 6 Jan 2012 09:53
Mughalzada

You didn't read my ist comments please read and then reply, also you will come to know that what we were talking about.

By anonymous• 6 Jan 2012 06:57
anonymous

tell us what is happening ..

By Alumnar• 6 Jan 2012 01:11
Alumnar

No! You are talking about keeping apart 2 adults who love each other! This is the 21st Century - keep up with evolution!

By Mughalzada• 5 Jan 2012 22:48
Mughalzada

Thanks God i`m eastern. We are talking about the fun after marriage which is under GOD`s will, proper social and cultural protocol.

By Alumnar• 5 Jan 2012 21:11
Alumnar

Thank God I'm WESTERN!!!!!!!!

By YoungMoney• 5 Jan 2012 21:10
YoungMoney

Let them have some fun lol

By Mughalzada• 5 Jan 2012 20:36
Mughalzada

The parents should behave sensibly in this case. The best solution is their marriage if both are adult. Does`t matter boy has job or not and girl is in younger age but adult. I think its best time of their life so let them enjoy it. Ask the parents to imagine themselves in their age.

Best of luck for the romantic couple.

By the monk• 5 Jan 2012 20:32
the monk

maybe it was you xbox_360 thats why you are asking some advice here on QL... lol!

(just kiddin)

By anonymous• 5 Jan 2012 20:12
anonymous

The course of true love never did run smooth...

Let me not to the marriage of true minds

Admit impediments. Love is not love

Which alters when it alteration finds,

Or bends with the remover to remove:

O no! it is an ever-fixed mark

That looks on tempests and is never shaken;

It is the star to every wandering bark,

Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.

Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks

Within his bending sickle's compass come:

Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,

But bears it out even to the edge of doom.

If this be error and upon me proved,

I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

William Shakespeare..

By britexpat• 5 Jan 2012 17:25
britexpat

We are talking Romeo and Juliet set in the fair Emirates. I can only foresee a sad ending :o(

By anonymous• 5 Jan 2012 17:18
anonymous

welllll i have to ask...Is she pregnant? When is the next episode showing, it like a Jerry Springer show,, who is doing who in the family.

By timebandit• 5 Jan 2012 17:12
timebandit

What is this... The Jeremy Kyle Show?

By britexpat• 5 Jan 2012 16:58
britexpat

Two options -

Cut his goolies off

Send the girl and boy to live in different countries.

By nomerci• 5 Jan 2012 16:47
nomerci

As I said, they should be dating. Why force something that is unnatural?

Let them date, both go to school, both are happy, and that's the end of the story.

You all are creating problems where there are none. as simple as that.

By irf77• 5 Jan 2012 16:47
irf77

..............

By xbox_360• 5 Jan 2012 16:46
xbox_360

They kept walled with his ID and driving license as proof he visited their house!

Boy brother talked to girls father just now from Qatar, but he was upset and is not willing to do anything positive at this point, I would not blame girl father since both boy and girl were recovered from bathroom hiding in girl's house !!! they were not doing anything but still....

They are forcing the boy to leave the country so he could not meet girl!!

Thinking about it if boy goes to other country and may be able to focus on study since currently he is suffering both in job and study!!

Appericate suggestion from you all.

By madurai• 5 Jan 2012 16:32
madurai

DEAR IF THEY KEEP BOYS WALLET SO WHAT?....IT ALL HAPPENDS DUE TO LOVE....AND HE IS NOT ENTERED WITHOUT PERMISSIONS OF THAT GIRL.......DONT WORRY....NOTHING WILL WRONG..AND DONT THINK ONE SIDE.....I KNOW THEY WILL NOT GO TO POLICE AS THEY ARE LOVER.....IF THE GIRL IS STORNG IN LOVE...WITH HIM THEN...GIRLS PARENTS CANT DO ANYTHIG...

By nomerci• 5 Jan 2012 16:22
nomerci

And why is this a problem?

People at their age are supposed to date.

It would be strange if they didn't.

By cherukkan• 5 Jan 2012 15:43
cherukkan

xbox, This is a sensitive issue and it cannot be left to the girl and boy alone as they are still too young to decide. Parental interference is very important here. This is not a movie or short story but it is the life of two human beings. They will not understand the consequences of such love stories now and if it is left without proper guidance from the parents both of them will be in trouble on a later stage where nobody will be there to support.

By ishutanu• 5 Jan 2012 15:42
ishutanu

First of all tell ur friend to meet the girl's family and talk clearly about the issue.let them know that its not only urfriends younger brother involved but also their daughter involved...

Later let ur friends family tell the girl's family to allow to let both girl and boy talked on phone...no matter how many times....let parents clear that not to let them meet let them talk atleast....tell ur friend and his family to sit and talk to the boy to understand and assure him that they wont oppose for anything....let them make it clear to him that once he is settled in his job well then they would surely get them married...

same applies to the girls family...let the parents of girls clearly make thier daughter understand and let her talk her on phone...to avoid ugly situationss...inshallah everything would be allright..

whatever happens let the boy's parents and girls parents be in touch everytime....

lastly make it clear for the girl and boy that they are really in love with each other and will not cause any problem in future if any let the both parents make it clear that if any problems dubai has big building and also has trainsss so they can either jump or get under the train no worries(just kidding :) :) sorry no hard feelingss,,..(.this was said to me by parents)

last but not the least pray and also tell ur friends family to pray as he almighty is the only one who would help and guide....

take care

By anonymous• 5 Jan 2012 15:40
anonymous

who cares,,, please mod delet this BLANK BLANK BLANK BLANK post plz

By xbox_360• 5 Jan 2012 15:29
xbox_360

Maduri the boy family is ready to talk and have been trying but the girl family is not after this latest incident the girl family is further pissed off and simply do not wish to talk they have kept boy wallet at their home as a proof he was visiting them..l

By xbox_360• 5 Jan 2012 15:27
xbox_360

My friend only have access to boy his brother so boy was explained about consequences and asked to get a Job settle down then properly approach for girl since both families r from Asian culture

However all is falling on deaf year the boy is in Dubai where his mother and brother are staying but so is girl family after latest incident they are forcing boy family to send boy out of UAE

By xbox_360• 5 Jan 2012 15:27
xbox_360

My friend only have access to boy his brother so boy was explained about consequences and asked to get a Job settle down then properly approach for girl since both families r from Asian culture

However all is falling on deaf year the boy is in Dubai where his mother and brother are staying but so is girl family after latest incident they are forcing boy family to send boy out of UAE

By madurai• 5 Jan 2012 15:26
madurai

oh...they create a story like boy's mistakes...never...they both fall in love and they need to reunited in the family life....so both the parents..has to discuss and not to blame each other and it is not parents mistakes or boy or girls.....r they thinking if they send boy out of the country then problem will solve????....never....dont punish the innocent boy.

By anonymous• 5 Jan 2012 15:24
anonymous

what in god name has this got to do with destroying my weekend, and they say my English is bad,, who cares,, i say again who cares, all get a life and keep your dirty washing at home, grow up and have some or a little responsibility pls,, we don’t need this rubbish here. GET ME MY GUN WIFE.... and again Who F&^&%%ing cares.

By anonymous• 5 Jan 2012 15:20
anonymous

flop story

By cherukkan• 5 Jan 2012 14:59
cherukkan

Let the parents of both parties meet and discuss the issue in the presence of both boy and girl and settle it for ever. They are too young to get married and will possibly face problems later. Tell them to think and take a proper decision at this level where it is not too late.

By anonymous• 5 Jan 2012 14:54
anonymous

www.dubailiving .com ,perhaps?

By anonymous• 5 Jan 2012 14:52
anonymous

And by the way, the ones who create the mess are the families!

By anonymous• 5 Jan 2012 14:52
anonymous

Just leave them alone. If they are over 18 THEY decide what they want!

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