1 in 7 Dads are stay at home Dad's

Miss Mimi
By Miss Mimi

The rise of the stay-at-home dad: One in seven families now have father as primary carer for children
There are now ten times as many stay-at-home dads as a decade ago, a survey has revealed.
The findings suggest there are 1.4million men – in one in seven families – whose main role is primary carer for their children.
The result is ten times higher than similar surveys found a decade ago and shows that fathers are now willing in large numbers to relinquish the responsibility for being the family breadwinner and instead take on the burdens of the home.
Among the fathers, 43 per cent said they felt lucky to have the opportunity to stay at home and bring up their children, but 46 per cent said the decision to stay at home was taken to allow the family’s main earner to keep working.
And the research also found a downside to the switch of childcare duties from women to men, with almost one in five stay-at-home fathers saying that their role makes them feel ‘less of a man’, while around one in eight admitted that looking after children is harder than holding down a job.
The same number wish they could earn more so they could be the one to go out to work.
The collapse of the gender pay gap – women under 30 now earn more than men and older women are usually only paid less if they take time off to bring up families – means mothers are highly likely to have fatter pay packets than fathers.
And while women are now able to be the family breadwinner, a third of mothers feel guilty about going out to work and leaving the children.
A further one in five complain that they are really doing two jobs because they have to look after the home when they get back from work, and one in ten say the division of household chores causes marital discord.
Around two out of three mothers of young children have jobs, encouraged by family-friendly and flexible working laws and the need for many families to have two incomes in order to pay mortgages and meet the bills.
The survey of 2,000 families with children, carried out for insurer Aviva, said 14 per cent of families with children have a father with the main responsibility for looking after the children.
Louise Colley of Aviva said: ‘The responsibilities of parents are shifting. There is no longer a norm for who does what in a family relationship.
‘The cost of childcare means many families feel it is not worthwhile for both parents to work, so it’s no surprise to see more men taking up the reins.’
Just over one in four fathers gave up work or cut their hours after their children were born. Some 44 per cent look after their children regularly while their wife or partner is at work.
There was strong evidence that many women would prefer to stay at home themselves if the family economics were different. In the past surveys have repeatedly found that three quarters of working mothers would prefer to stay at home.
This one showed just 15 per cent of mothers said they felt lucky to be able to go out to work while their husband looked after the children.

By britexpat• 25 Oct 2011 21:28
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britexpat

Times are a changing. The needs of the family now dictate who acts as primary carer.

By Ice Maiden• 25 Oct 2011 19:03
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Ice Maiden

Does it really matter WHO stays at home, as long as the kids are well taken care of?

I've also seen some father are better at "parenting" than women.

By EXLegend• 25 Oct 2011 15:41
EXLegend

this cant be global statistics... or is it?

By FathimaH• 25 Oct 2011 10:12
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FathimaH

You certainly get loads of "those" in SL as well!Maybe more than 1 in 7!

By Formatted Soul• 25 Oct 2011 10:04
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Formatted Soul

you are right Tinker... I never thought about them...:)

There are many Indian nurses in US and Europe who take their husbands along with them to look after their kids as its not easy for them to find a job there and even if they get some small jobs its not worth as nurses are paid decent salary there.

I had a Brit collegue who actually came here when his wife got a job here and he was taking care of the kids..he was equally qualified as his wife and experienced too..but he started looking for a job only when the kids started goin to school...

By Rony John• 25 Oct 2011 10:01
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Rony John

its true mostly in US & Europe and spreading to other continents too

they say it would cost more than their salary to hire a help/ nanny to look after the kids

By bubblymom• 25 Oct 2011 09:59
bubblymom

I know some back home. Though the society look at them on a different manner (in case of the Phils. if I may say).

But i feel proud for some houseDad's, not all fathers can FATHER a child.

By jjj75• 25 Oct 2011 09:59
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jjj75

In this economic climate you have to take a pratical stance - if it is costing you more in childcare for both of you to work and the famale of the house earns more than the male then he should give up his job - simples

By FathimaH• 25 Oct 2011 09:52
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FathimaH

But its not likely to be the norm among Muslims due to the obligation on a man to earn for his family regardless of whether his wife works and has her own cash or not. Of course now if he were to stay at home and earn as well,like say by freelance work, and was to take care of the kids too then maybe things might be different. Hmmmmm.... sounds very idealistic! lol

By Miss Mimi• 25 Oct 2011 09:44
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Miss Mimi

I actually know a couple of stay at home dad's here in the Middle East (mostly of Western background though).

By Formatted Soul• 25 Oct 2011 09:32
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Formatted Soul

Interesting... but defenitely not the case in India or Indians living in the Middle East.

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