To whom will v share

“Where there is a will, there is a way. If there is a chance in a million that you can do something, anything, to keep what you want from ending, do it. Pry the door open or, if need be, wedge your foot in that door and keep it open.”

now, videochatting!! is 4 those who hav internet, there r more pathetic families here who cant afford tht...

good comment by " No good thing die !!

gudone, no matter how far we are...now, we have many program/tools (video chat) to stay connected with our family... can always share anything with them instead of sharing it with strangers. :)

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good time pass for me more than 1 hr. i feel hungry gonna Aryaas to eat Mini Iddly with Ghee Saampaar any one joining with me ???????

Well, if that is so, do those women know what they are getting themselves into BEFORE they leave their home county?

I mean, do they prepare themselves for the change of lifestyle?

Before I became an xpat, I made sure I got as much info as I possibly could about being an expat.

And I would think this would be easy for those women to do, as there are vast amounts of Asian expats everywhere.

Yes, it COULD be cultural ex ex ex.

In the sub continent and Asian societies, family and "extended" family ties are very strong and close knit. And life in general revolves around the kids or family occassions, rather than shopping, partying or whatever other social activities there are. Like the saying goes "It takes a village".You have like in such close knit societies to understand how strong these bonds are. When these "ties" are loosened, like when travelling to a foreign land, it can be extremely hard on the individuals.

good thing that! It's bad enough on QL already.

I don't see many British wives unhappy. The ones that don't work seem to like the easy life and having their free time. And the ones that do work seem to be happy with the opportunities they have here.

daymmmm...

that explains why QL is overflowing with drama queens!

nomerci, may be lack of self confidence, financial constrains or family commitments act as a hindrance. But as I have already agreed, there is surely an option of trying a bit more to socialize via any available means may it be with one's neighbour or family acquaintance.

WK,

didnt say that i was troubled, that was part of conversation.

drmana, answering your reply to my post.

I find this very sad. Why do those ladies not dare venture out? I mean if they like to stick to people of their own nationality, they may find them if they just make a bit of an effort?

Now, I am far from criticizing here, as I have no idea how those ladies think or live.

All I am saying is, as a fellow expat, I know life can be a bit tricky abroad, at least in the beginning. But just giving in and not doing anything seems a very sad option to me.

lol WK...

saeed.. no probs... have fun

Too much heat is on here...:)

Nachu why are you troubled if someone in online a lot?

You paying someone's internet bill?

Nachu- i doubt if anyone can be on QL 24 hrs. not even MODs.

and i can say that not everyone feels fun at home, few have their own limitations that makes them to be at home.

Bnb, if its fun sitting at home and taking care of all house stuffs, then we dont see them 24 hours in QL

well said drmana.. me too out of this thread...

NEVER ARGUE WITH AN IDIOT. THEY WILL BRING YOU DOWN TO THEIR LEVEL AND BEAT YOU WITH EXPERIENCE.

Some wise man said that.

Over and out of this thread.

gudone, yes fun is there no doubt..but again i m fed up of people who just feels their wife useless rather than respecting her sacrifices towards their family.

A husband dont have to beg to his wife for taking care of their kid and family...its wife's understanding to take up the responsibility by leaving her own career and family.

and yes saeed- let me tell u that, please dont suggest to open nursery again, it need specific certifications and its not just to do something for part-time or killing boredom.

to all,

i was not pointing a single person in QL. i was saying what i felt in general.

saeed, if you don't know me then what business is it of your's to suggest what I should do in my free time?

MYOB... ABCO... BCCO...BBC ....lol

This is especially true where families are sharing accomodation or are living in single room accomodation. The women have no outlets during the day and can feel as if they are in a "prison".

bnb... its fun tooo bashing....

aftr all v know ,... who v r... & wats our power... v r frm the land of Jhansi Rani....

saeed chill yaar... v r QLERS...

its not wrong in posting ur views..but post ur views worth enough and even be ready to justify them.... I am nt pointing at anyone here...just saying in general..

saeed, is "Mind your own business" offensive? You were suggesting us to start nursery and so the reply. Where was it offensive?

And what is "MYOFB"? Care to elaborate?

Saeed- i guess we are intelligent enough (even if we are at home) to understand meaning of sentence u people write.

and i guess few people have made thought in their mind that... Ladies at home (housewives) are not worth for anything.... please change ur mindset as soon as u can...

i think there are few QLers who are enough to involve u in bashing even if u dont want...

nachu, and that gives you the right to judge them?

pls... read ur signature.... i hope its gud 2 practice

saeed- few housewives have responsibility of taking care of kids, ofcourse not all are so strong to keep their kid in daycare. do u think, their husband will take care of kids when they go for job??? afterall, its husband's resposiblity as well to take care of kid.

and also, many are still looking for a job and u cant say that we are just at home and enjoying...

to be frank i dont know how is that syndrome diagnosed, but after reading i understood, there are few people in QL who has that syndrome.

i am not here 24 hours , only when i am free. but whenever i come i see their posts in every second/minute, even if its in midnight.

nachu, being in QL doesnt mean v r simply sitting 24hrs... v hav our own business 2 do... personally i am not a boredom housewife.my comments was based on the survey and the ppl i have met with(same sad situation)..

and pls QLers r not fools to completely sit in front of PC's...& wasting time... (no offense)

saeed, opinion of yours doesn't matter. You are entitled to have any opinion about me.

nachu, do you even know how that syndrome is diagnosed? if not, you are being judgemental again.

By the way, why are you on QL then? Why do you bother to keep track of people who are here 24/7?

right drmana.... but again, i dont understand why ladies is always at a fault in anything they do???

exactly WK. Well said.

saeed, your language shows what you are. Thank you.

bnb, no need to explain. We need not explain what we are doing to anyone here.

Nachu/ saeed- here the discussion was abt how one can share their personal issues with someone trustworthy..not abt what we should do to kill our boredom.

BTW- we dont mind opening nursery but again, we are qualified in our own profession and its just that we are supporting husband here in Doha.

Dramna,

i serious dont believe this one of the way to get rid of it. this can be a time pass for sometimes when you have nothing else to do. not 24 hours.

actually, i feel the problem is this http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_addiction_disorder

drmana I have been told many times here that I have no life or I need to get a life, I just don't care :o)

Qatar bores me, people here disappoint me so I just don't go out anymore.

Do what you wanna do, some people have nothing better in their life to do except pass judgement on others.

@gudone,

its "nationalities " not "Nationality"

and these words were continuation of my previous sentence which was ""who are sticking with QL 24/7 are mostly "Non-working Indian House wives (or asian)".

saeed, really? that was a very good language with "F" you used. Congratulations.

WK, you won't be judged like that as you are not a female housewife.

lol BnB, good question to Saeed.

i seriously doubt Saeed is married :P

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and i havent seen much of any other nationalities complaining about the same.

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I am on QL a lot.

OMG am I a bored housewife!!!!!! :(

saeed, MYOB.

Yes ,i am :( ...

Nice Saeed, you are giving them some ideas:) nice of you. lets see if they taking it up or still sit and complain that there is no social life and bored at home.

Saeed- why u always relate ladies with house work and kids???

nachu, why can't QL be one such way among those 1000? It is ones personal choice as to how they decide to spend their free time. Why does that offend you?

@ Gudone,

i said "who are sticking with QL 24/7 are mostly "Non-working Indian House wives (or asian).

i didnt say its just Indians, and no plans to bring the nationality war here

lol saeed. yep ..i guess i should. i can sense the danger :)

its not judging a person by their activity, i personally felt its their weakness that they stick on PC/QL 24/7 as they are not able to anything else outside world.

Why not all other "married females" are not in these kind of activities of getting out of boredom? there are 1000s of ways to get out these kind of situation. its just that either they are lazy or they just don't want to find out.

Nachu, if u notice, earlier QL was very informative..and I used to get worlwide news and updates from QL and used to enjoy participating in discussions. but now a days, its more on bashing....

nachu, what was that lol for?

And if QL helps someone to overcome their boredom and loneliness, I don't see why anyone should be complaining. Don't judge anyone for their activity meter in QL. You never know what is going on in the life of the person behind any user ID.

here

lols, agree with Dramna. there is a point.

even i have noticed that whoever here, who are sticking with QL 24/7 are mostly "Non-working Indian House wives (or asian).

they are not ready to see whats around them and make friendship with other females around them. they just sit 24 hours infront of computer.

and i havent seen much of any other nationalities complaining about the same.

was answered by some arabic ladies too...

Cant help it. thats how it is. whoever outside the country miss all these kind of special occasions.

in last 10 years, i have attended only one marriage function, and that was Mine :) lols

i already told.... QL...

nomerci, I think this survey was done on those wives from our subcontinent who completely rely on their husband to get around the city and those who are too shy to interact or make friends on their own.

Being a housewife doesn't necessarily mean those to be true. So if wives become confident to move around independently and make friends, this problem can be solved.

LOL wk...

u know, my society people are playing DANDIYA songs loudly..i will go deaf soon....lolzz

Soniya- i m abt to cry today..its first day of Navratri.... :(

yes nachu. we few girls are communicating on PM here. and believe me, its really good back up for having friends whom u never met and still so close that u can share anything with them.

bnb, don't remind me of any INDIAN festivals..I've always spent every auspicious day between two people only..i.e. me and my husband..:)

bnb ben navratre started.. Let's play dandiya :P

Hmm, I think this is a bit one sided...maybe for some people it is difficult.

The people I know, me included, have never relied on family for social interaction. We have friends here, as we do in any country our husband's work takes us to. And why on earth would a wife complain to her husband for his going to work? Isn't that what we are here for?

Sorry, I find all this a bit odd!

I have spent almost 5yrs alone without any social life in QATAR..Thank GOD that QL was there for my rescue or else i would have left this country long back..

agreed drmana...mainly here, missing festivals....

BnB n Gudone,

by the way, you guys have any solution/suggestion for this?

bnb, totally agree with that point. I think too many here in that situation. But situation can be improved if one takes initiative to make friends and socialise.

What I disagreed with was the point in research which said wives in home countries are better off. I think they must be having heir own due to lack of the head of family when needed, lack of emotional support from husband and children missing their Father. Distance does take its toll in relationship.

Two situation cannot be compared.

yup thts wat the problem.. no one to share, coz hus is so tired aftr work(suppose), how can a wife go and say all her worries, when he himself have a huge work tensions.......

drmana- gudone's point here is, if housewife is in their home country, she may have social group, friends and family around and can spend time in various ways. Here, if we dont drive, we are kind of house arrest.

Hmmmm....agree to some extent but disagree that those in wives in their home country with husband working abroad are better.

agree to that point. there is no much social life in qatar and no much place to go to. no other choice than live with it.

but the prob is that within one or two months they insist to come here if the "non-working house wifes" are requested to stay in their home country. cant blame the husbands for being at work most of the times as they have to take care of all expenses.

PM is bad better in the open...

Specially when one is enormous as one can get real good and few might post bad comments

ya bnb... both bad and gud..

so wat happns if some1 posts their family problems openly in forum(those who dont have any deep frnds in ql to share through pm)...

u r absolutely right gudone... no social life here in Qatar and believe me QL is helping alot for social meet ups. no doubt, u will get good and bad both kind of people on QL.

QL is a gud relief

Share with me .... lol