Little daughter acts like a boy

MR CONFUSED
By MR CONFUSED

I am new here in QL and maybe you could help me with my problem.I have 2 daughters aged 7 and 5. Three years ago I brought my family here in Qatar in 2006 and they lived with me until last last year. My youngest daughter then was 2 years old. After some time we noticed her that she doesnt want to wear any girl's dress or any thing for girls anymore. She wants blue shirts, pants. She wants everything from toys, even the color she wants blue and not pink especially. She also doesn't want floral shirts.

Last year, they went back to the Philippines and they continue their schooling there. Now my daughter still not changed her behaviour. At school, her crushes are girls and playmates at school are boys. Shes very mad when people tell her shes pretty (shes very pretty actually). She's the one at the left in the picture.

My question is will she still change her behaviour? Is this just temporary and she's just trying to immitate me or just some sort of idolising me? Please help. Thanks in advance.

By Danny Boy 1• 12 Jun 2009 16:57
Rating: 2/5
Danny Boy 1

Your daughter is a boy trapped in a girl's body. She will need a sex change operation. For this you will have to go to Dubai or Europe.

You will then have a boy and a girl.

By Danny Boy 1• 12 Jun 2009 16:56
Rating: 4/5
Danny Boy 1

Your daughter is a boy trapped in a girl's body. She will need a sex change operation. For this you will have to go to Dubai or Europe.

You will then have a boy and a girl.

By t_coffee_or_me• 12 Jun 2009 15:48
t_coffee_or_me

I see no picture

By anonymous• 12 Jun 2009 15:37
anonymous

man..im not married..but her crushes r gals..strang..

By jonjavajones• 12 Jun 2009 14:39
jonjavajones

I think no problem. Nuture her interests.

By Yash• 12 Jun 2009 13:53
Rating: 4/5
Yash

Let explore two extreems here. I guess you are worried here is either there is something clinically or psychologically unusual here. Clincally speaking, one extreem could be having genetic makeup of a boy but appearance of a girl. There are cases like that in the world. These cases come to the surface usually during puberty when the switch happens. Even these children behave according to their appearances before actual switch. This is a rare occurance and mentioed here to put your mind to ease once you have explored this extreme.

During early childhood the gender orientation and behaviour is usually not organic in nature. Its origin is mostly physchological and environmental. This is true in more than 90% of the cases. Like said in the post earlier, pointing it out to the child will have very negative effect for child's psychology for the rest of life. You may cause this anomally by doing it actually. This behaviour will self correct at or before puberty.

You should also know that in some cultures there are things which are normal for them but may make you raise your eye brows. I am male and grew up hugging and kissing and holding hands of my male friends, a behaviour can be easily catogorised as gayish in the western world.

In a nuteshll, there is either nothing to worry about it or if there is anything in the rarest possibility then you can't do anything for it :)

By shah2u• 12 Jun 2009 13:32
shah2u

how "shuweet" - time will take its course; not to worry!

By charline• 12 Jun 2009 13:30
Rating: 4/5
charline

Do not worry for your small girl, let her grow as she likes. There is no reason for her to like more pink than blue (we created this), more dolls than small cars.

I was like that at her age, I hated girly staff, I was playing only with boys (as I found girls games very stupid :-) and this behavior last for years.

Now I have a huge collection of "girly" shoes (pink but also some blue ones :-) but I kept my love to fix and repair staff (which is a good thing because my husband has 2 left hands:-).

Do not press her (she could react exactly the opposite way you want :-) and just let her choice (dress and trouser, dolls and cars...) so she can experiment. It can be her way to show her difference with her older sister, it can be her way to be like her father...as long as you find that she is happy and behaving good with others kids and you.

If you are are too worry she will feel it so in this case it could be a good idea to bring all your little family to a psychologist just to speak.

By Bluemountain• 12 Jun 2009 13:26
Bluemountain

Don't worry. Wait until time come..............

Than she will understand herself.

From parent side you have to look very closely during that time and give more attention to her. I would say starting from 12.

I hope you will understand my answer.

By Bluemountain• 12 Jun 2009 13:26
Bluemountain

Don't worry. Wait until time come..............

Than she will understand herself.

From parent side you have to look very closely during that time and give more attention to her. I would say starting from 12.

I hope you will understand my answer.

By infinitl2008• 12 Jun 2009 13:18
Rating: 5/5
infinitl2008

My Dear,

it is normal... I know boys who would dress up as girls, wear dresses and high heals... he grew up out of it and is now happily married...

It is a way of getting attention and doing bazar things, a certain way of getting into the community...

I would think you should stop pointing it out, act as nothing is wrong ( which it is not ) and let her make her own desicion on what to wear...

You will notice a clear change in the short and long term...be patient

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