Ideal husbands.
Marriage is incredibly hard. We were told to look for tall, dark, rich, intelligent and handsome. Now fast approaching my thirties, and seven years into marriage, I know for sure that I was told wrong. The media is wrong, the fairy tales are full of bull-crap, the movies are absurd, the perfect man/ husband/wife/ woman is a big old urban myth. So when my 13 year old cousin wishes for a six foot two, clear- faced, Maserati owning golden boy, I’m torn between letting her be in la la land for a wee bit longer or dragging her back to harsh but essential reality.
I will someday tell her, to not bring down her standards but to modify them. I guess it applies to all the young boys too. Beauty might be the overriding criteria for them now, but a life- partner needs to be so much more.
So, when do you know you have snared a “good one”? What the requisites that make an ideal husband (I might be entering dodgy territory here :-) )?
1. He is a good handyman. He can fix a leaky tap, a dysfunctional flush and a clogged sink, no sweat. He can tweak around the circuit box without electrocuting or killing himself. A burnt fuse should not take him more than a couple of minutes to fix, even in the pitch dark. Even a jammed washing motor should not be too intimidating a task. Because good plumbers and electricians are an incredibly rare species. They are also never available when you really need them, it’s best to have one at home.
2. Be tech savvy. I am not a tech- cripple, but I lack the requisite patience and perseverance to solve all the minor techie- hassles that rear their ugly heads everyday. So yeah, find one that is a tech- god. Will save you tons of money, time, energy and retyping and reworking several papers/ presentations/ designs.
3. Should not be queasy around bodily fluids and regurgitations. Or should at least be able to look away and stop breathing but still stay on the scene, hold your hair away and rub your back while you purge into the toilet bowl or bring a human into the world. This trait also is paramount to sharing childcare duties. Poo e
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Did someone say Dota ?
My Cuban Shotputter could do all those things and more
Thanks Madiha.
those little things maintenance at house can be learned if he has the will to learn. if your husband is so busy on playing CoC, DOTA & socializing....in short he's so damn LAZY but you still marry him, will still be called ideal husband?
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.." [Tirmidhi, 3895]
Tips for good husband and wife relationship:
Husbands :Tell your spouse “I love you” regularly. Always say please and thank you. Never demand anything one of another, but ask kindly with respect.
Husbands: don’t act like as u own ur wife. Support them they are ur companions .
Wives: don’t nag your husbands. If they have been too busy to get something done for you, and you have already asked them a number of times, try asking them after you have done something nice for them. You will find this goes over much better then telling them for example “I have been asking for two months now to fix the leaking tap.
Husband: thank your wife for each meal, when laundry is done and for how well your clothes have been folded, and when the home is cleaned and what a clean house she keeps.
Wives: when your husband fixes something around the home thank him and when he brings home his check tell him what a good provider he is. Each day ask the other if there is anything you can do for them.
You both need to be patient with each other’s weaknesses and faults. Be always seeking what you can put into the marriage. Pray daily for each other. Keep a list of the things your spouse asks you to do. When your spouse asks you to do something make sure you put it on your list and put a date beside it so you know how long it has been there. Never discuss each other’s past faults and mistakes in front of other people. While your spouse may laugh along with you and not say anything about it later, you may have hurt them deep down. Don’t allow a disagreement to escalate into an argument and certainly not in public or in front of your children.
Don’t combine life with wife ---- because wife is women and they are created from a rib so we should take care of them
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbor. And I advise you to take care of the women, for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked, so I urge you to take care of the women."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.114 Narrated by Abu Huraira (r.a.)
Always respect them and trust on them as the sayings of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (blessings and peace be upon him)
‘The most perfect believer in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behaviour; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.’
The above quotation was said by Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 278 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
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