How do I find a live-out nanny?
By Brown-eyed-girl •
Hi, does anyone know how to find a live-out nanny? As I've been told most of them want to live with you but I am not so keen.. Willing to pay for her transport. Need her to speak good English. Have a 5 months old baby who will need full time nanny + 4 year old for after school hours. We are not in Doha yet, arriving in 3 weeks. Would appreciate any help.
i am not saying NO MAID,lots opf people have maids(we do)but we look after the children not the maid,i am not saying not put them in nursrey,(ours went to nursrey)they need it to mix with other children,what i dont agree with is,the lady is not in doha yet,but advertise for baby sitter,
When I first came here I was a bit like Marhabtain. I had 5 kids, the youngest under a year and NO WAY was I going to let someone else raise them. I did get a part-time cleaner as 6 bathrooms in a house is way too many for 1 person to handle! Now 5 years later I have mellowed and I might do it differently if I had to do it over.
1. There is NO ONE to leave your little ones with if you have dentist/doctors/ other important appointments. I am not talking about lunch. When all the other moms have nannies, who can you trade with?
2. I ended up putting my youngest in a nursery school at 3- a year earlier than my older 4 kids--because there were literally no kids in our compound during the day to play with--they were all at nursery school.
Sometimes it is true---when in rome......
Good morning! May I say that u deserve a trophy for looking as gorgeous as you do today. Oh and 25 years of marriage is quite an achievement too and for that too you deserve a trophy. After 23 years of marriage my wife didnt get a Trophy - she got the house and the cars lol. The Maid was sent back to sweden - corrrrrrr - what a corker!
Thats the whole point - this woman wants someone to take care of her kids - you wanted someone to free u up so that you could do just that. Airhead is a bit like me - I am geeting a dog but I simply MUST have someone to walk it, feed it and brush it so that when i come home I have a fluffy trophy dawg to show off yah! Never lol !
I'm a bimbo, I'm a bimbo! I can't live without my spinning and aerobics classes - but then again I don't have kids. I've always wanted to be a trophy wife, too, but after twenty-five years of marriage, I think it may be too late.
Mandi
Really, well said.
Maybe she doesn't have a choice but to find someone quickly! Don't pass judgement, its cruel and unfair....
Lets face it....she's another Jane coming to be a footballers wife. All Fur coat and no nickers type. Plenty of them here already! Goodnite luvvies!
my grand daugher has just started nursrey,she is 3 yrs old AND the other two girls went when they were 3,yes i trust the people in the nursries,what i think is wrong AND I DONT NO THIS LADY,SO I AM NOT SAYING SHE IS A BAD MUM,but come on, get here first settle down, wait till children a bit older he 5 months old, then go to work,
I sincerely hope that her children will also get a nanny for her when she is old and send her to a home for the elderly.
OMG I am in a tizzy! I am about to adopt a dog - silly me - I need a brown person to walk it, feed it and most importantly brush it before I get home so that i can be seen to cuddle such a cute and fluffy thing!
So effin what, from what I gather she is a working mum! That means providing for her children by working hard so they can have a comfortable life...if that means someone takes care of them for a while whats the big deal??!!Ok, so lets say you feel the same about all the people here in Qatar that work for a living and leave their kids behind in their own country....same thing to me...At least she has her kids with her!!!
Aged 28 and 22 and both never ever had a surrogate - ever! My wife isnt LAZY and disorganised and neither am I. We also know how to get our priorities right.
This lazy woman hasnt even arrived and she wants a live OUT maid. Its far too easy for parents here to relinquish themselves for the responsiblity of looking after their kids! Okay, getting a cleaner is one thing but a part time unqualified Mum from Asia is quite another. Yippee, Yippeee, its GORDONS gin for me!
WINNER Gordons Gin Personal Consumption Award 2008 Hic!
yep, my baby was in nursery from 5 months old!Bad mother!
and, marhabtain...you have kids I presume mmmmm??
Can't believe how harsh people have been in this forum.
It certainly seems like the lady might be working full time if she needs a full time nanny. Seeing that she doesnt want a live in would certainly indicate that she isn't lazy, probably wants to spend time alone with her children when she gets home.
Many mothers in the western world have nannies as they work full time, they are also forced to put tiny babies into full time day care as well, are they critised for doing so??? No usually, its more like bravo, shes gone back to work!!!!!!!
It's no ones business but this poor lady thats been pulled apart on this forum.
She needs support and shes getting it. Her business not yours!!!!
here, maybe once you land here you can hire someone from
Indonesia or Philipines.
I love those kangaroomoms and not those plastic hearted.
marhabtain...I have a mother and I was sent to boarding school at 7 years old.....its part of expat life, thats the way it is......
This Bimbo hasnt even arrived here yet and before she gets here she needs help so that she can join the Bimbo set! I sincerely think that its really pathetic to make an all attempt to remove herself from the responsibility of looking after her kids before she even bloody gets here. As for supernurse - u had a mother - follow her example and COPE! It aint that bad! It aint because u had kids for a reason - to care for em so carry on get on with it! Its called LIFE! Dont replace LIFE for a 450 QR a month live in slave!Yippee, Yippeee, its GORDONS gin for me!
WINNER Gordons Gin Personal Consumption Award 2008 Hic!
countrylady13, in an ideal world I'm sure no one would like to leave their children in the hands of a stranger....this,unfortunately isn't an ideal world.....could you say the same about leaving ones child in a nursery over here then?
but i do understand,there is no way i could advertise on ql or in shop for some one to mind my children,they are urs and ur life,I REALIZE ITS HARD,MY DAUGHTER WORKS,SHE HAS 3 CHILDREN,AND THANK GOD I BEEN HERE TO HELP.BUT WHY COME TO A STRANGE COUNTRY,AND ADVERTISE FOR BABY SITTER
Denial? About what? That I have a nanny? Nope, not denial I hold my hand up, yep I need the assistance of someone to help me out...so what? Whats so bloody wrong with that?.....
Marhabtain, some women have to earn money, its not a simple as just stay home and take care of them.
Personally i agree, i stayed home with my kids and fortunate enough to work in a place where they are with me, but everyone has different circumstances. We have to respect that.
btw i like it when your are drunk on gin more..lol ;-)
Ahhh...to be in an ideal world.....
Sorry but bolox. Another one in 'denial 'so whats new.
Having kids means planning for them and your own future so the words being 'fortunate to get a maid 'means zero. That indicates a parent has a choice so the choice should be to look after your own kids - whatever the cost is to some domestic outward image.
How do you know shes not working?
and plus, maternity leave is pretty short in this country!
Oh mind your own business and keep your opinions to yourself.....some parents are working hard for a living and not living a life of bloody luxury!Some have no choice but to get a nanny......
Great minds think alike. What makes me so angry is that these airheads thing 'OMG Yah! Middle East Yah! Must have a Maid and join Ladies who lunch, buy a 4WD and learn to say Yah super! Unfortunately some in QL pander to this by offering Spinning and aerobic classes - for Bimbos. Okay some Mums work but that bimbo hasnt even got here yet and wants a Maid to look after a 1 year old during the day and a 4 year old after school! FFS! Maybe she needs someone to peel her grapes too! Pisses me off big time as this generation of Mums is a generation of Stepford wives. Nothing else!
I think judging people for reasons they want maids/extra help is wrong. Some people rely completely on maids and yes do forget about their kids, but lets not generalise.
Some people dont have the luxury of staying at home with their kids, and considering the odd school/nursery hours here, extra help is needed. Living in a foreign country with no relatives etc to give support/childminding makes life difficult for some. In Qatar this is probably the only way parents can get extra support. Lastly its no ones business, if you have your own kids and fortunate enough to be able to stay at home with them, then good for you.
u are right, this person is not in doha yet,but advertise for who knows who,to look after her children, WHY HAVE THEM,ok i know u have to work, but baby and 3 yr old need YOUUUU ,NOT A STRANGER, THEY ARE TO YOUNG,THATS WHAT WRONG IN DOHA, MAIDS BRINGING THERE KIDS UP.THATS WHY THE KIDS SO NAUGHTY,MAIDS DONT CARE,IF IN MALL WITH KIDS TO BUSY CHATTING TO OTHER MAIDS TO CARE HOW THE CHILD BEHAVES, take care of them yourself,
You only have 2 children - did u have them to farm them out so that they grow up as strangers!!This is Qatar NOT Sloane square so look after them your self - its called love and its called care okay! Lazy selfish parents should NOT have children.
When you come to Doha post it classified or in the English News paper or in some of the supermarkets around Qatar
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